In real life, even if we are already adults, if we find that our parents prefer other siblings, we still can't help but panic.
The feeling of being left out is like a cold wind in winter that penetrates into the bones, and no matter how tightly you wrap your clothes, you can't warm it.
If one day, you really encounter something that your parents are partial, remember, if you do these three things, you will not lose.
After all, what we acquiesce from our hearts is that our parents will love us.
But in reality, love gives people a slap in the face, so that you can understand that not all love can be divided equally.
01
With more thought, plan for yourself.
In reality, if you are not the favored child in the eyes of your parents, then you have to leave yourself a way back.
Don't waste your time and energy on those meaningless things, but put your mind on working hard for your career, working hard to earn and save money, and laying a solid foundation for your life.
You have to understand that since the family of origin is not kind to you in terms of resources, then you need to think more about yourself.
Don't be a selfless person, especially if your parents have shifted most of their fortune to other siblings.
You know, the wisest thing to do is to be a producer and not a "philanthropist" who only knows how to give.
The person who morally kidnaps you will not pay for you, only you can take responsibility for yourself.
Don't waste your time on trivial things that don't help you, but think more about how to improve yourself and how to make yourself more confident in the future.
After all, the savings you save on your own are more reliable than the benefits of relying on the handouts of others.
02
Don't be too humble.
The more humble a person is, the easier it is to be despised.
If there is someone around you who obeys you in everything, buys you things, spends money, and asks for warmth, and he holds you in the palm of his hand, will you really take him seriously in your heart? Not necessarily.
Because his kindness to you comes so easily, you don't have to make a little effort, he gives everything.
In this case, gratitude may be there, but true respect and cherishment may be difficult to develop.
The same goes for yourself.
Because many people are not favored at home, they desperately try to please their parents, want to get back a little recognition, and think about "doing more for the family" in everything.
But as a result, he will only make himself more and more humble and less and less taken seriously.
The more humble you are, the more you hold your own value and whisper in exchange for a little attention, which will make your pain deeper and longer.
Instead of pleasing others, you should keep your head up and learn to love yourself.
To be a man, you still have to have a little backbone, otherwise you will only be pinched as a soft persimmon.
03
Parents love a child because of some prejudices.
Parents, don't always hold them to too high a standard and demand that they be completely fair and unbiased.
They are also ordinary people, not some flawless saints.
People, from the day they were born, they have more or less prejudices in their heads, and this thing is deeply rooted, and it can be changed if you say it.
Especially at the age of parents, these prejudices are often reflected in the attitude towards their children, sometimes partiality, really not intentional, but subconscious.
For example, in many families, parents always favor their sons, believing that boys are heirlooms, and girls should be sensible and considerate.
In this way, no matter how hard the daughter tries, she will always get no more attention than the son who is naughty and mischievous all the time.
These preferences are actually inseparable from the prejudice in the hearts of parents.
So, don't think of your parents as omnipotent gods, they have their limitations.
As the years go by, some prejudices may fade, but some will be like habits engraved in the bones, and they will never completely disappear.
Understanding this may allow you to see it more thoroughly.
The reality is so cruel that everyone, including parents, is inevitably swayed by prejudice.
What we can do is to see these little knots in human nature with an understanding.
Let my words come into your heart
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