Some people, who arrange you behind their backs, can say 10,000 unpleasant words; There are also people who are as bad as a pit, and they will go wherever they go, this kind of person, you really don't want to dig out your heart and lungs for him.
When encountering these "garbage people", the most refreshing way to deal with them is to get them done in three ways, don't grind and chirp all day long, and foolishly entangle with each other.
Those who have taken advantage of you, don't give them a second chance.
In life, not everyone deserves a good attitude.
For those who are not worthy, there is really no need to remember any old feelings, losing the principle will only push yourself into the fire pit, and in the end it is yourself who suffers.
01
Directly physical isolation.
In life, there are always some people who stick to you like kraft candy.
Especially those garbage relatives who think about borrowing money from you all day long, and reason with them? Save it, it's useless.
You said that you broke your mouth, not only did they not appreciate it, but they also thought that you were "cold-blooded and ruthless, and did not talk about family affection".
The easiest and most efficient way to deal with this kind of person is to physically isolate them – not to contact them directly, and not to give them a chance to annoy you.
You can also take this trick when dealing with friends who give you headaches, hair small, and even exes.
Don't say a word, just don't come and go, don't meet and don't contact, so they don't have to find you twice in three days.
Otherwise, as long as you leave them a chance, they will be pestered endlessly, and you will simply ask for trouble.
Directly opening up the distance is more effective than any preaching, which is called the highest state of "breaking away".
02
Quickly judge the garbage man.
In society, if you want to step on fewer pits, you have to learn the kung fu of knowing people.
You can roughly see a person's foundation from his reputation and interpersonal relationships.
After meeting, quickly judge his level through the other party's words and deeds, demeanor, and dress.
This process is like going to the vegetable market to pick vegetables, picking good vegetables into the basket, and throwing the rotten ones aside.
Don't hesitate to throw away the spoiled fruits, so you don't have to take them home and regret them.
In social networking, the most important thing is to judge who is a "garbage person" and who is a good person worthy of deep friendship.
Otherwise, if you hook up with that kind of person for a long time, you will suffer sooner or later, or even suffer a big loss.
When the time comes, it's too late to regret it, leaving a bunch of bad things in my heart.
Quickly identifying the character of the other person will not only save you a lot of energy, but also reduce the cost of trial and error on your way to making friends, so as not to waste time on those who don't deserve it.
In fact, in real life, there are very few people who are really worthy of deep friendship.
Everyone's time and energy are limited, and if you see everyone digging out their hearts and lungs, you will only exhaust yourself.
To make friends, we should know how to screen in time. Only by accumulating experience in judging people can we avoid making mistakes in the social arena.
If you find that someone is dishonest and always playful, you will not hesitate to label him as "dangerous" and decisively cut off the relationship.
This kind of timely stop loss is the practice of smart people.
03
Don't argue, don't persuade, don't respond.
In reality, some people's ideas are like old roots growing in the cracks of stones, very stubborn, don't expect a few words to convince them.
You say this, they talk about that, chickens talk about ducks, and it's yourself who is tired.
This kind of person can't communicate at all, and the best way is to stay away and don't try to change them.
Some relatives and friends will talk to you about those marginal topics when they open their mouths and close their mouths, and you don't want to listen to them anymore, but they are still chattering.
Can you really convince them? Of course not.
In this case, the wisest thing to do is not to argue with them, not to try to convince, and not to waste energy in responding.
Saving time and doing something that makes you happy is the right way to go.
Not everyone will be receptive to your ideas, and not everyone will be worth wasting your words.
The best response to those garbage people who don't eat oil and salt is not to respond.
Let my words come into your heart
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