"Your child's attention is not good", "he is always not good at listening to lectures in class, always easy to be distracted", "he is always playing while doing homework, and his attention is very inattentive".
Hearing these words, are parents easily anxious? Parents who pay attention to their children's education know that attention is very important for their children's learning and growth. Those who are attentive learn efficiently. When listening to the lessons, they will concentrate and the teacher will remember a lot of what he says. When writing homework, they are engrossed, so their homework will be written quickly and well. Even if they do not go to school, in the preschool stage, attentive children will pay more attention when they play with toys, see paintings, and listen to stories, and they can better cooperate with the guidance of teachers in kindergarten.
Children's lack of concentration is a headache for many parents. How do you develop your child's attention? In fact, this method is hidden in the little things that moms usually do.
"Life is education" to cultivate children's attention. Parents, especially mothers, may wish to start with the small things in their daily lives.
1. Interact with your child more during infancy.
Attention is a child's ability to pay attention to one thing on a continuous basis. This ability does not arise out of thin air. It needs to be strengthened from an early age. Until the child goes to school and finds that the child's attention is not concentrated. After a period of assault training or training classes, the child's attention can be significantly improved.
If children are brought to attention from an early age, parents can relax a bit.
Psychological studies have found that children's attention develops from birth. Sounds and moving toys will attract the baby's attention. As various abilities continue to improve, children will also become curious about new things.
When the child is still an infant, plant the seeds that attract attention, then water and fertilize them to allow the tree of attention to thrive.
The mother is the main caregiver of the child, and during the child's infancy, it is necessary to interact with the child more, such as talking to the child more. When the child is full, not sleepy, and relaxed, look into the child's eyes and attract the child's attention through exaggerated expressions, movements and language. Or tease the kids with patterned cards, paper, and brightly colored toys. At the same time, tell the child in emphatic and clear language what this is and what it is.
Infancy children don't seem to understand anything, but their brains and bodies develop rapidly. At this time, more interaction between mothers and children can not only cultivate various abilities, such as language, emotion, attention and self-control, but also make the parent-child relationship more harmonious and intimate.
2. When talking to children, you should "walk the heart" and teach your children to learn to listen
Some mothers say that when they call their children a few times, the children do not react at all, as if they have not heard, especially in some public places, which will make parents feel very embarrassed. In fact, this reaction of the child is also influenced by the parents. Think about it. Sometimes when children talk to their parents, do their parents not pay attention to it?
If children do not pay attention to their parents, they may also pay attention to the teacher's lectures, and may miss important information when communicating with others. Therefore, learning to "listen" is also an important aspect of improving attention.
Parents and children must talk to the heart, to invest, the parents' minds are present, the child's mind will also be present.
3. Stimulate children's interest and motivation.
We often find that when children do things they love to do, their attention is highly focused and lasts a long time, such as playing games, but it is difficult to focus on things they don't like to do. For example, when a child does homework, one will go to the bathroom, one will drink water, and one will draw a small person on paper. It doesn't matter if it's grinding and rubbing anyway, half-hearted.
Children have no interest, no motivation, and don't want to do it from the inside, so it's hard to concentrate.
Interest is a child's intrinsic motivation. Parents can encourage, reward, reason and other external motivations to keep their children's attention longer.
Don't use compulsion or control for extrinsic motivation, which will make the child resentful. Not only does it not stimulate internal motivation, but it will affect internal motivation. Giving children some autonomy, for example, giving them the choice to speak of picture books and letting them decide whether to do their homework or eat first can stimulate their intrinsic motivation. Only when children are willing to do it and enjoy doing it can they put in more energy and maintain longer attention spans.
4. Treat children gently,
"Don't yell" is the goal of many parents. Everyone knows that yelling at a child is bad, but yelling can affect a child's attention, and some may not believe it.
Studies have found that emotional stress and stress can affect attention.
Staying focused requires controlling yourself and not being distracted by other things, but when you're nervous and stressed, people's ability to control decreases and they can't concentrate.
At this point, you will feel that your brain is blank, do not know what to do, or can not do anything well.
So when kids are learning and doing homework, don't yell at them or put pressure on them. In a relaxed and pleasant state, children's attention to learning will be easier to concentrate.
That's why once people feel happy, they get very involved in what they're doing and get it done quickly and brilliantly.
Parents who don't understand anything else can tell me in the comments section!