During the period of home closure, parents can not be left behind every day, but also worry about group purchases, accompany the "god beast", how do parents create a good parent-child relationship with their children at home, and enhance the warm and pleasant atmosphere of the family?
In the latest online class held by Shanghai Parent School, Dr. Fu Lei, Secretary General of the Family Education Professional Committee of shanghai Lifelong Education Research Association, shared the skills and methods of parent-child comfort during home life, and the difficult problems in breaking the parent-child relationship and home companionship.
Fu Lei believes that a good parent-child relationship is the secret to promoting family happiness, the energy to enhance parent-child trust, and the essence of healthy parenting.
The challenges and difficulties brought about by the closed life at home will inevitably affect the warmth of the family atmosphere and the effect of parent-child companionship. Fu Lei feels that although the epidemic has brought a difficult period of life at home, it can also become a precious time in life.
He gave parents and children a wonderful trick and strategy of parent-child comfort and warm companionship:
Maintain regular routines. Parents themselves should set an example to help children form healthy lifestyle habits, learn to self-control the time spent using electronic products, and maintain appropriate physical exercise. Good study, exercise and work and rest habits can avoid physical and mental fatigue, trigger bad emotions, and help to improve the harmony between parents and children.
Create a colorful living environment. Establishing a good parent-child relationship can not only focus on children's learning, but also create a happy and happy living atmosphere. The stay-at-home period is a rare time for parents to get together, and it is more important to enjoy the happiness of family members than to do anything.
Respect for understanding of parent-child relationships. When parents perceive that bad mood swings begin to spread, they can adjust their emotions by taking deep breaths, exercising, leaving the scene, and rationalizing cognition. In the face of problems such as children's fluctuating grades and declining homework quality, parents should control their emotions and understand, respect and accept their children. By changing "hurry up" to "cheering" and "really happy" and other positive word guidance, children are reminded to integrate a cordial and equal relationship into parent-child companionship.
Healthy and beneficial humanistic education. Fu Lei believes that the epidemic period is an opportunity for children to improve their awareness of the epidemic, learn protection skills and enhance understanding and empathy; they can educate their children in terms of basic survival, food conservation, picky eating and anorexia, self-care ability, etc.; parents can also bring humanistic education to their children through volunteer work, group purchase services, care for the elderly, grateful donors, etc., and enhance their children's happiness in life during the epidemic.
Finally, Fu Lei also shared with parents the companionship skills and strategies of children at different stages of growth.
Infancy – embrace you. Be with you, get close to nature, and feel the world.
Early childhood – play with you. Game accompaniment, habit cultivation, ability cultivation.
School age – study with you. Adjust study habits, learn housework skills, and create common activities.
Adolescence – help you become independent. Be curious, not angry; learn to accept, not deny; show weakness instead of control; focus on yourself instead of sustenance.