The foundation of the world is in the country, and the foundation of the country is at home. Family education is not only a "family affair" related to the well-being of individuals and families, but also a "national affair" related to the destiny of the country and the nation. Since the 18th National Congress of the Communist Party of China, the CPC Central Committee with Comrade Xi Jinping at the core has attached great importance to the construction of family education and family style, so that thousands of families have become an important basis for national development, national progress and social harmony.
Focusing on the fundamental task of "cultivating people with virtue", Hunan took the lead in the country to incorporate family education guidance services into the key livelihood matters of the provincial party committee and the provincial government, solidly carried out family education guidance services and practical activities, vigorously excavated and publicized the story of family science teaching children, focused on disseminating scientific concepts and methods of family education, and vigorously guided parents to bring up children in accordance with the law and teach children scientifically, and focused on promoting the healthy growth and all-round development of children.
Effectively accompany and nourish with love to create a close parent-child relationship
Today's Women's Daily/Fengwang reporter Jiang Changfa
The mother from Li County, Changde City, is named Fu Die, and her marriage and love story with her husband "zero bride price" was published in major media reports many years ago. Today, their daughter is 16 years old and their son is 4 years old - creating a warm family environment and implementing effective parent-child companionship is the "password" of this family's scientific parenting, and their family of four was awarded the 2023 Most Beautiful Family in the Country.
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Read 10,000 books and travel 10,000 miles. How do Fu Die's children cultivate their feelings for their family and country and establish lofty ideals while comprehending the beauty of their hometown and motherland? Hear her story......
Effective accompaniment, edutainment and travel
How can I give my child effective companionship? My husband and wife thought about it for many years, and finally we decided: edutainment and education, so that the children can become brave and cheerful on each journey.
Our daughter was very shy and afraid of life when she was a child, and as long as she looked at strangers, she was immediately scared and cried. In order to develop our daughter's courage, my husband and I decided to take her on a family trip. After that time, we were pleasantly surprised to find that when our 4-year-old daughter blended into nature and the crowd, she became less timid and smiled brighter. So, in 2014, we made our first family covenant: to travel to one city every year.
That year, my daughter had just turned 6 years old. We took her as a backpacker from Li County to Nanchang. High-speed traffic jams, missing high-speed rail, not finding hotel accommodation, repurchasing train station tickets, etc. Along the way, we had a lot of trouble, and my daughter was visibly restless.
In order to soothe her emotions, my lover and I talked to her patiently and told her that this trip is like life, and if you encounter trouble, you have to find a way, and it can be solved after all. Later, in the process of solving the trouble again and again, the daughter was also a lot more optimistic, she said, when the traffic jam, it is not bad to look at the scenery outside.
I'm glad that such a young child can think differently, which is the meaning of travel and education.
For the next ten years, we went to ten provinces. Looking back on each parent-child trip, we have summarized one characteristic: it is not a "visit here", but an in-depth experience. Every time we go to a place, we have to stay for two or three days, walk slowly, find out the details, let the children feel the great rivers and mountains, customs and customs of the motherland immersively, and establish patriotic feelings from an early age.
In 2016, we took our daughter to Chongqing to visit the Dregs Cave, the White Mansion, and the Hongyan Soul Square. When her daughter saw the torture instruments used to persecute revolutionary aspirants and felt the difficult conditions of Communist Party members in prison, she said sadly: Mom, it turns out that what is written in the textbook is true, and it is not easy for revolutionary martyrs!
At that moment, my lover and I were deeply grateful, and once again felt the meaning of "edutainment".
Today, the little girl who was once afraid of being shy has grown into a cheerful and lively girl, and has also become the main force of the school's theatrical performance team.
Walk all over the mountains and rivers and broaden your horizons
The daughter became brave, but a new "challenge" came. Like most families with two children, how to balance the love for our two children has become a new topic for my husband and me.
Here, I would like to share with you a point of view: the emotional harmony of husband and wife is the cornerstone of family education, and only when husband and wife have love can children tolerate each other and be optimistic.
I am very grateful to my husband, in the first few years of marriage, he had many opportunities for high-paying jobs, but only if he went to other places. In order to accompany his daughter, he gave up. For more than ten years, her husband has been working in the county, working as a security guard, a supermarket salesman, although only a salary of more than 3,000 yuan per month, he is very content, he said: As long as he can accompany his wife and children, it is the happiest thing.
We have kneaded our love for our children into the firewood, rice, oil and salt of our lives. In the face of my husband's work without weekends, I silently took on the responsibility of "full-time parent" on weekends; In the face of my overtime at work, my husband also took on the small tasks such as taking my eldest daughter to and from school, making milk powder for my younger son, washing and cooking, etc.
My two children are 12 years apart. In 2020, when her son was born, her daughter was very disappointed and afraid that she would no longer be a favored little princess.
In order to enhance the relationship between my sister and brother, my husband and I reached a tacit consensus: on the one hand, let our daughter become our indispensable "little assistant" with the baby, participate in the whole process of taking care of the newborn, so that she can still feel the strong trust of her parents; On the other hand, no matter how busy we are, my husband and I will take turns to spend time alone with our daughter throughout the day to talk to her and keep an eye on her emotional changes so that she doesn't feel left out.
In July 2021, when my son was not yet 1 year old, my husband and I decided to travel with our two children. At that time, the old people in the family were very opposed, afraid that we would work too hard, and even more afraid of danger. But my wife and I insisted on traveling for a simple reason: we couldn't miss the annual parent-child trip with my daughter because of the arrival of my son, and I could also let my son feel nature from an early age.
Along the way, I will also encounter some unexpected situations in a hurry, but my lover and I cooperate tacitly, never complain and blame each other, but happily resolve one problem after another. The daughter also feels that she has grown up a lot, and takes the initiative to take care of her younger brother anytime and anywhere, and the three of them take turns to hug and coax, experiencing the journey in laughter and laughter.
Now, the relationship between the sister and brother is getting better and better, the elder sister will share the interesting stories of the younger brother with the classmates, and the younger brother will look forward to the older sister's school, and then throw himself into the sister's arms and beg for a "hug".
In our family, my wife and I are husband and wife, but also comrades-in-arms, we tacitly divide labor, work together, and work hard to build a happy family. In the following time, we will accompany the children to read books, exercise together, and watch the stars and seas together. The world is so big, we will encounter the most beautiful scenery in every trip, meet the best growth, and achieve a better us.
Editor: Yiren