Although it is said that "there are no more than three generations of wealth", as an elder, I hope that the wealth can exceed 10 million generations.
With good intentions, parents spur their children to grow up and help them start a family. Some parents bought a house for their children early and prepared a large amount of bride price. I have to say, well-intentioned.
Sadly, parents are trying hard to get rich and start a business, but their children are slacking off in life, and everything is counterproductive.
When parents reach the age of 60, they will not be able to help their children. Once the following situations occur in the children, most parents are beating their chests and watching the family go into decline.
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The children are immoral and domineering in society.
Many young people often blame the elderly for being immoral and dragging down their families. For example, the elderly flaunt their family ugliness everywhere, causing their children to be unable to raise their heads and be people; The old man does something illegal, and his children and grandchildren are affected.
Actually, the other way around, it also makes sense. If the children and grandchildren are not virtuous, the old people will lose face and will not be able to provide for them.
In particular, some children, who are in their thirties and forties, are still gangsters in society, which makes their parents frightened.
During the Western Han Dynasty, there was a man named Yan Yannian, who lived in Xiapi in the East China Sea and studied the law since he was a child. He later became the Taishou of Henan.
As an official, he should not forget his original intention, but he has started a high-spirited mode and ignores the masses.
Use the harshest methods to punish the masses, and even kill innocents indiscriminately. His approach caused huge public opinion and also reached his mother's ears.
For a while, he wanted to fulfill his filial piety, so he wrote a letter and asked him to pick up his mother to live in the yamen, but his mother decisively refused.
Yan Yannian knew his mother's thoughts and vowed that he would be kind to the masses and be an upright person in the future.
His mother listened to his oath and was willing to live in the yamen and accept his filial piety.
But not long after, his mother found that he had not changed, so she insisted on going back to his hometown. When I went home, my mother said, "If you don't correct it, I, an old man, will see my young son die......"
Sure enough, Yan Yannian was impeached and sentenced to abandoning the city.
Children who are overbearing in society, even if they are very filial, will go into decline.
Let's think about it, can parents take the money stolen by their children and use it to provide living expenses for their parents?
The children snatched the car and then drove the parents to see the scenery, did the parents dare to sit?
In the Book of Changes, it is said: "The house of goodness will have afterglow, and the house of unkindness will have aftermath." ”
Children have no ability, but if they are kind, work steadfastly, and do not provoke right and wrong, their parents will be blessed and their hearts will be very peaceful.
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Children are sick and need to be taken care of by their parents for a long time.
Logically speaking, parents are the curtain between their children and death.
Parents are old and sick and need their children to take care of them; Parents go first, and children go to sweep the graves and worship.
However, some families do not develop according to common sense, and the parents have entered old age, but the children have been bedridden for a long time. As a result, parents have to drag their old bodies to take care of their children.
If the children go first, it will be even more embarrassing for the white-haired person to send the black-haired person.
Lu Yanzhi, an outstanding architect in modern times, studied painting since he was a child, and later went to study abroad to study architecture.
After returning from his studies, he participated in a lot of architectural design work and had a favorite object.
But at work, he couldn't afford to get sick. He was only in his thirties. This has caused untold pain to the family.
His aunt Lu Wen wrote a poem "Crying Poem": "The soil flowers are desert and moss, and today the wind is coming." Only the little butterfly in search of fragrance flies back and forth with the child. ”
The old man cries for his son, more than the son cries for his parents.
Of course, even if a child is sick and alive, the life expectancy is not short. But how can parents rest assured when they are old?
It is the greatest wish of parents for their children to live in good health. Too many parents can't wait to take care of their children's illnesses and make their children happy.
A few years ago, there was an old lady named Meng Axiang in Hubei, who had worked hard since her husband passed away and supported her three sons with intellectual disabilities.
The old man tried his best to farm the land, grow vegetables, and teach his son to cook. And then he died.
Before she left, she prepared four jars of grain for her sons, totaling more than 1,000 catties.
In addition to touching the mother's love, do we also feel sad for this mother? She has not enjoyed happiness all her life, and she still takes on the task of raising children when she is old.
No matter how you look at it, children's health problems are a big problem in family development. When one person gets sick, it can really bring down the whole family.
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The failure of the children's marriage led to the fragmentation of the family business.
For a family to continue to be happy, it is necessary for children and grandchildren to prosper, and happiness to be passed on from generation to generation.
If the children do not marry, or if they get married and then divorced. Families are shattered.
Although it is said that it is very hard for grandparents to take their grandchildren, they are also happy.
The old man who has no grandchildren is very leisurely, but his heart is very bitter.
When parents are 60 years old, their children should be 30 years old. At this time, if the children are not married, they are left with men and women, and if the marriage fails, it is difficult to get married for the second time.
If the children of the marriage are defeated, they will not marry again, and they will also be lonely.
In the year of the Western Weekend, King Zhou You was mediocre, and abolished Queen Shen, then abolished the crown prince, and married Bao Xi.
King You's actions aroused the anger of his father-in-law, Shenhou, and then Shenhou took Xirong to attack Haojing, leading to the demise of Western Zhou.
The destructive power of a failed marriage on the family must be understood.
The family business is passed on to the children's generation, and then it dies out. What do you have to do for the rest of your life? All the efforts, in the end, can only support the rest of their lives, and the tragedy of eating and waiting for death has appeared.
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As the saying goes: "To untie the bell, you must tie the bell." ”
When a family tragedy arises, don't let it go, but actively respond and change.
Although the parents are in their sixties, the situation of the family can still be changed.
First, parents should reflect on themselves, whether the upper beam is not correct and the lower beam is crooked. If so, try to be a moral person and guide your children to be positive.
Second, the family strengthens health and exercise to help unhealthy people regain their health. The children are not very old, and the speed of recovery should be faster, so don't give up.
Third, cherish fate and learn to manage family and marriage. For children, they should be taught a correct view of marriage, and don't always accept negative energy such as "single aristocrats, Dink".
Tell the children that the prodigal son will not change his money, and he will not wake up until he has a white head.
Author: Cloth Clothes Coarse Food.
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