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"Baby, did you sleep with Grandma tonight?" The child's grandmother asked.
"No, Grandma is going to sleep with Grandpa." This is the room where the old man sleeps, and I have no place for the two of you to sleep, so I have to sleep with my mother at night. I can't sleep in the old man's room. The daughter replied solemnly.
This is a dialogue between the child and the grandmother, I think the child's thinking is very clear and very principled, this question the child answers very cleverly, the words spoken make people feel very reasonable, even the grandmother can not refute.
The situation of each family is different, some children have slept with their mothers since they were young, and they are also accustomed to the smell of their mothers, and they sleep particularly peacefully at night, and some children sleep with their grandmothers from birth, compared to mothers, grandmothers seem to be more intimate for children.
So the question is, is it better for the child to sleep with his mother or with his grandmother?
Today we will talk about this topic together, if you want to say something, you can leave me a message directly below the article, let's discuss it together.
Is it true that the child sleeps with whomever he sleeps with?
There's an old saying that you want your child to kiss you, so you can sleep with your child.
This sentence is not just nonsense, but it is very reasonable.
Developmental psychology divides the child's growth process into many stages, the child's birth stage belongs to the infant stage, this time the child has just fallen to the ground, for the outside world needs to gradually become familiar with and adapt.
The first person to take care of the child must be the mother, the mother will have close contact with the child in the process of taking care of the child in all aspects, and the mother and the child will form an intimate connection, which is the first connection relationship formed by the child coming to this world.
Infant children spend most of their time sleeping, and children like to snuggle in the arms of their mothers, because familiar physical contact and smell will make children feel safe, and children can keep a stable mood and sleep more steadily.
Therefore, you will find that all the children whose mothers sleep with them must be particularly close to their mothers, and the children are like the mother's heels, and the mother follows the children wherever they go.
In the same way, if the child sleeps with the grandmother from an early age, then the child will regard the grandmother as the most trusted person, and the first thing that comes to mind is definitely the grandmother, and the child will be more clingy to the grandmother.
When does a child sleep more with grandma?
Under normal circumstances, after the birth of a child, it is usually taken care of by the mother herself, but there will be certain exceptions.
Careful observation we will find that most of the people who sleep more with grandma are second or multiple families, this is because the baby needs 24 hours to take care of, especially the night stage, the child sleeps very shallowly, needs night milk or diaper change at night, etc. At this time, if the mother already has a child around to take care of, it is difficult to take out energy to take care of the second.
In most cases, the mother will choose to give the boss to the grandmother to sleep, after all, it is not easy to take care of a child, the boss has a certain ability to take care of himself, and the grandmother can sleep more peacefully with it, and will not be woken up by the second elder, affecting the quality of the child's sleep.
In addition, so far there are still many left-behind children, these children are put in the hometown by the father and mother by the elderly to bring, the mother is not at home for many years, the child will naturally sleep with the grandmother.
Children sleeping with grandma actually have certain drawbacks
Affects normal rest in the elderly
In fact, children will not be too honest when they sleep, some children need a long time to soothe and coax before going to bed, and even some children are night owls, sleeping late every night.
The elderly generally have poor physical fitness, limited energy, they prefer to go to bed early and get up early, if they often sleep late and are disturbed by children, the elderly will not rest well, resulting in drowsiness, and eventually affect their normal work and rest time.
Lack of certain bedtime interactions
The elderly with children are generally more traditional and conservative, most grandmothers will only ensure that the child's normal food, clothing, housing and transportation, but for the child's ideological education is relatively lacking.
A period of time before the child goes to bed is the best time for parent-child interaction, parents can accompany the child to see the picture book to explain some fairy tales, which can not only deepen the parent-child relationship but also enrich the child's cognitive ability.
If the elderly with children are unlikely to give children these parent-child games or education, the entire bedtime time will be greatly wasted, resulting in certain regrets.
Intimacy with mom will decrease
Children who sleep with their grandmothers all year round are generally more clingy to their grandmothers, because in the eyes of children, grandma is the most trustworthy person.
Children are the most simple and kind, and their performance is the truest expression of their inner thoughts.
Children who sleep with their grandmothers will have less demand for their mothers, and the parent-child relationship will be relatively weak, which is a matter of reproach.
If possible, it is recommended that the mother personally bring the child to sleep
Yue Mom may be more "selfish", will want not to miss any stage of the child's growth, want to understand the child's inner thoughts at each stage, and want to be more intimate with the child.
Therefore, it is recommended that mothers still take their children to sleep with them when conditions permit, even if they chat with their children before going to bed, ask their children what happened today, share joys and sorrows with their children, teach children how to deal with things, and so on.
These seemingly inconsequential things seem to me to be the most precious and good times, and I feel particularly happy and satisfied whenever I see my child snuggled quietly in my arms.
Does your child sleep with you or with grandma?
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