Develop good basic lifestyle habits

First of all, in the early childhood of children, help them form good basic living habits, which is the primary purpose. This is equally important for parents and children, when the child is young, the parents are always reluctant to criticize them too much, and as a result, when the child is promoted to the upper grade of primary school, the parents have to follow the child and repeatedly say: "Wash your hands?" "Did you bring a handkerchief?" "Hurry up! Don't get carried away. However, when children reach this age, self-awareness gradually forms, and they are impatient with too many instructions from their parents, and if parents say " This is all for your own good " , it will make the children form a rebellious psychology.

Therefore, if you want to cultivate children's good living habits, you must start from early childhood and use appropriate criticism and praise. However, we must remember that for children in early childhood, because of their young age, it is difficult to rely on language alone to achieve the effect of education.

"Didn't you tell you?" Don't throw toys all over the floor. ”

Teaching children in this way will only understand that this behavior is "not allowed to be done", but how to do it, unless the parents do it to themselves, they will never know.

It is foolish to keep blaming children for what is in front of them. Before criticizing the child, we must carefully consider "why the child will do this" and "why he doesn't do that", so that you can stand in the child's perspective and think about "what to do" with the child.

Excessive accusations will make children cower and shrink, produce rebellious psychology, and even form a perverse disposition. It is best to achieve the effect of education without criticism. For example, for a child who has already entered primary school, in order to cultivate his habits, instead of blaming small things, it is better to ask him to help with some housework to arouse his enthusiasm. Depending on the situation, assign some chores to the child, such as asking him to help buy something, set the table, wash the dishes, and cook some simple side dishes. Children will be motivated by the joy of success because they have developed their abilities. In order to make them do better, parents should make arrangements for daily housework and take the lead in complying with them, such as game time, housework time before dinner, TV time, bedtime, all arranged in an orderly manner, which avoids the whole day of constantly reprimanding children to see when to watch TV, "it's time to learn" and so on.

If the child finishes well, be sure to give affirmation to his achievements: "Washing such a large number of dishes is really a big help to the mother, thank you." "For children, being affirmed is like being praised, they will have great confidence, whether it is doing housework or other aspects, they will work harder."

Cultivating children's basic living habits like this and teaching them basic skills of self-protection is a very important purpose when we praise and criticize children; another important purpose is to help children become independent people and become self-reliant in society in the future, so that they can develop the personality qualities that they should have.

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