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An education expert said:
"After becoming a parent, I know that being a child is the easiest, as long as you live a happy and happy life, it is enough."
But after becoming a parent, the burden on the body is much heavier, because the burden is on the present and future of a child. ”
Indeed, parents should not only consider the child's current situation, but also consider the child's future.
However, only by raising a good child in the present can he have a good future.
To make children more and more excellent, parents should grasp the present.
In the new semester, parents must do "two regardless of", "three are not used to", "four must be grasped"!
"It doesn't matter"
Professor Li Meijin said:
"Some parents don't care when they should be in charge, but they start to manage when they shouldn't."
In fact, it points out the problems of parents, indicating that many parents have problems in disciplining their children.
In the process of educating children, parents should do "two things":
First, the child does not care what he can
A famous psychologist once said: "A child, who grew up in the doting of his parents, is the greatest harm to him." ”
Parents are reluctant to use their children, children's self-care ability is low, lack of responsibility and responsibility, which will lead to children's learning pressure, which will affect the performance.
Therefore, the things that children can do independently do not care, eating, dressing, organizing school bags, etc. should let the children come by themselves.
Children who grow up in such an environment will not only have a more confident personality, but also be more planned for doing things and learning.
Second, the child's tolerance for difficulties does not matter
Children will always encounter such and such problems in life and learning.
If parents rush in front of their children and solve problems for their children, then the children will not be able to grow.
Because the power of habit is enormous, once the child is used to the parents to help them solve themselves, then they will rely too much on their parents and learn not to solve things by themselves.
Therefore, parents should not establish a carefree "safety cabin" for their children, and let their children learn to challenge difficulties alone.
"Three unaccustomed"
The ancient saying has clouds: habits are like killing children.
Blind pampering and indulgence is difficult to teach excellent children.
In the new semester, parents must make up their minds and achieve "three unaccustomed".
First, laziness is not habitual
If children are lazy, then they like to think about everything according to other people's perspectives.
This not only affects brain development, but also deprives children of the motivation to do things and learn.
The reason why children are lazy is actually because parents are always accustomed to them and always make decisions for their children.
Therefore, don't get used to your child's laziness, and teach your child self-discipline.
Second, the temper is not habitual
A large part of the reason for a child's bad temper lies in the parents.
Parents are overly pampered with their children, meet all the requirements of their children, and accommodate their children in everything, so that once the children are dissatisfied, they will lose their temper.
Therefore, parents must not be improper, if the child loses his temper, he must discipline it correctly.
Third, unruly and unaccustomed
As the old saying goes: There are no rules and no squares.
Lack of awareness of rules, the adverse impact on children is very large.
A child who does not know how to follow the rules will often make mistakes in interpersonal communication and will not be welcomed and respected by others.
Therefore, when children are not obedient, parents must not get used to it.
Parents must let their children cultivate a sense of rules, so that children understand the rules and abide by the rules.
"Four must be grasped"
A child's one semester of learning is to open the gap in the first month.
If you don't lay a good foundation at the beginning, then even if you spend 3 times more energy later, you may not be able to catch up.
In the new semester, especially in the first month, it must be paid close attention to.
First, the spiritual outlook must be grasped
State determines attitude, attitude determines outcome. The new semester grasped the state of the child, at least half won.
Parents should talk more with teachers, positive feedback on their children's performance at home, parents should also set a good example for their children, and maintain a normal diet and rest with their children.
Second, the attitude of study must be grasped
Attitude determines everything, first correct the child's learning attitude, and then grasp the results.
The learning attitude is correct, and the child will pay attention to the lecture and complete the homework carefully.
On the contrary, children with improper learning attitudes will have many problems in classroom behavior and their grades will plummet.
Third, living habits must be grasped
The child's living habits determine his learning habits.
Because once a person's thinking habits are formed, it is difficult to change, and life habits are often unconsciously transferred to learning.
Therefore, we must pay close attention to the children's living habits, starting from small things, starting from the housework around us, and starting from what we can.
Fourth, study habits must be grasped
A good study habit plays a crucial role in grades throughout the semester.
Children have good learning habits, they have the core competitiveness, in the future everything can be done with half the effort.
Advance preparation, review after class, independent thinking, independent completion of homework, sorting out wrong question books, insisting on extracurricular reading... These study habits must be developed.
To Parents:
Excellent children are inseparable from the hard work of their parents
The growth of children is inseparable from the companionship, love and guidance of parents.
No matter how good the school is, no matter how good the teacher, in the child's heart, the position of the parent can never be replaced.
First, educating children is the most important cause of parents
We often say that we want to educate our children, but we don't know that it is parents who need more education and reflection.
Parents are the child's first teacher, but also the child's lifelong teacher, with responsibility for the child's life.
No matter how successful parents are in their careers, they cannot withstand the consequences of failure in educating their children.
Second, strictness is love, looseness is harm, and connivance is destruction
Many parents advocate giving their children a happy education, not scolding their children, respecting their children, and not forcing their children to learn.
However, while you want to make your children successful, you are reluctant to educate your children, but where is such a good thing under the heavens?
Education needs strict and firm strength, parents do not protect the short, teachers do not tolerate, children have a future.
Third, if parents do not set a good example, a lot of education is useless
Tolstoy once said:
"All education, or nine hundred and ninety-nine thousandths of education, comes down to example, to the decency and perfection of the parents themselves."
For children, the power of parents is the power of example.
Parents lead by example, correct themselves first, and lead their children forward with the power of example, which is the best education.
Fifth, the key to educational success is inseparable from the cooperation of parents and schools
An education expert once said: "The better parents cooperate with the school, the more successful the education will be." ”
In the growth of children, family education and school education are complementary and indispensable.
The better the parents and teachers work together, the more successful the child's education will be.
Click "Watching", for the sake of children, we work side by side!
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