The connection between young and young children is an important stage in the growth process of children, and parents also pay special attention to it. How do parents talk to their children about school attendance? What should I do if my child procrastinates? Do I want to enroll my child in cram school? Education Micro has prepared 12 key issues for you to connect young children, and listen to the advice of experts together
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How do parents talk to their children about school attendance?
Liu Yunyan
Professor at Southwest University
For both adults and children, interest and pleasant emotions are very important. Therefore, when parents are concerned about whether their children's preparation for school is sufficient, they should also pay attention to their own words and attitudes, and do not scare children with words such as "let the teacher manage you in elementary school".
For many children, the unfamiliar environment of primary school already makes them nervous and anxious, and intimidation will undoubtedly increase children's sense of fear and make children resist going to school. This will not only affect the child's school adaptation, but also stimulate the child's nerve center when serious, affect the child's endocrine, and even induce various physiological and psychological diseases such as nighttime nightmares, fever, stomach pain and so on.
Therefore, parents must use more brains to guide their children's school attendance tension, stimulate their children's yearning for primary school life, and make full psychological preparations for their children's enrollment. For example, you can say some words of appreciation and encouragement to your child, you can also tell your child about interesting things about your schooling and the teachers you meet, take your child to visit the primary school, etc., so that the child can learn as much as possible about the primary school. This will make children feel that it is glorious to go to primary school and arouse children's yearning for a new life.
After the child enters school, parents are also asked not to pay full attention to the child's grades and scores, which will bring tension and pressure to the child. You can talk to your child about the new school, new teachers and new friends, listen to what interesting things happen to the child at school, show interest and appreciation for the child's new environment, which will affect the child's emotions and guide him to adapt to and like the new primary school life as soon as possible.
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How can parents help their children adapt to primary school routines?
Liu Qian
Associate Professor, East China Normal University
Primary schools and kindergartens have great differences in the schedule of work and rest, and the adjustment of work and rest time is the first thing that children should understand and adapt to. During the preparation period for school, the kindergarten will make certain adjustments to the schedule of the children in the kindergarten, and the family should cooperate accordingly. For example, in order to ensure that children have sufficient energy during the day after entering primary school, they can adapt to primary school learning quickly, parents on the one hand should appropriately adjust the child's work and rest time, such as falling asleep as much as possible at night, so as to ensure that children sleep fully, go to bed early and get up early; on the other hand, you can discuss and make a schedule with your child, mark the usual and weekend schedule, in the summer vacation, you can also make a summer schedule, hang the schedule on the wall, so that the child can always see, If there are no special circumstances, do not easily disrupt the schedule, so that children gradually develop a concept of time and the habit of working and resting on time. According to the schedule, the child will gradually adjust his life and biological clock. When the implementation begins, the child may not be used to it, and the parents should be patient and persistent, and cannot be too hasty, and the effect can be seen after a week or two.
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How do parents correctly view the matter of their children's enrollment?
Hua Aihua
Professor of East China Normal University
Since Jiajia entered the kindergarten, his mother began to worry about her child's entry into primary school, asking everywhere which famous schools were, and the family has been discussing and struggling, whether it is better to enter a public primary school or a private primary school, and from time to time some questions are asked to test Jiajia for the entrance interview. At the dinner table and in the tea room, he often talked about how harsh the primary school learning was, saying that other people's children entered the kindergarten transition class, learned literacy, pinyin, and did arithmetic. A sentence that Jia Jia often says is "It's time to accept the heart, just know how to play, go to primary school and suffer", "See people's children already know a lot of words, what do you do"...
Jiajia's mother's anxiety will invisibly affect the child's psychology, making him feel insecure, when he overestimates the difficulty of primary school learning and produces learning pressure, he will be worried about the upcoming schooling, and even lead to enrollment adaptation obstacles, once encountered a little setback will lose confidence. Therefore, parents must relax their minds and calmly face their children's enrollment, so that children feel that entering primary school is a natural stage of growth, and welcome enrollment with a positive attitude.
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How does kindergarten help with writing preparation?
Dai Yi
Director of Baofu Kindergarten in Anji County, Zhejiang Province
The fine motor ability of the hand, the coordination and stability of the hand and wrist, elbow joint, shoulder joint, hand-eye coordination ability, and attention all affect the quality of children's writing. In kindergarten, preparation for writing is implicit in many play and life activities. For example, children often like to draw, from the graffiti of the small class to the rich plot of the large class, you can see that the lines under their pen are becoming more and more smooth, the details are more and more abundant, and the strength, flexibility and hand-eye coordination ability of the fingers when drawing are well developed. Outdoor construction materials are large, there is a little weight, children take and put the building blocks can exercise the strength of the small hand muscles, the process of building blocks, hand-eye coordination, hand joints and stability can get a good exercise, often get such exercises, after holding the pen steadily, writing powerfully, can solve the problem of writing crookedness. Indoor building blocks are small and lightweight, the construction process is more conducive to the development of children's attention, finger strength, flexibility and other fine movements and hand-eye coordination, often such exercises after writing the field character grid Accurate positioning of strokes must be no problem.
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Does my child's pen holding posture need to be corrected?
Children's pen holding posture is in the stage of development and change, effective external support helps to promote the development of pen holding posture, can not be deliberately corrected and blindly seeking success, but to follow the principle of time and moderation to cultivate.
First of all, the pen holding posture is physiologically subject to the development of small muscles and fine movements, and only when the physiological development of young children is mature, it is possible to form the correct way of writing. Around the age of 5 is the best time for young children to start holding a pen. If you let young children hold the pen and write too early, their small muscle groups have not yet fully developed, it is easy for young children to use close grip and incorrect finger coordination to ensure the stability of the pen, this incorrect habit will be difficult to correct once developed. Simple and rough lessons and dull and boring reasoning can lead to children's rejection of writing.
Secondly, according to the age development trend of the child's pen holding, the corresponding writing instruments can be provided. For small children, short, thick, easy to control tools, such as crayons, oil painting sticks, etc.; gradually, you can provide thicker tools such as markers; with the development of children's hand muscles, interest in writing and the development of pen holding posture, gradually provide more mature writing tools such as pencils.
Third, multiple ways of exercising small muscle development can have a positive impact on the correct pen grip posture.
For example, before providing children with writing materials and practicing writing, you should provide materials and opportunities for various activities such as drawing, paper cutting, building blocks, origami, beading, etc., to lay a good foundation for correct pen grip.
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What should I do if my child has trouble concentrating?
Qin Jinliang
Professor of Zhejiang Normal University
The problem of children's inattention makes many parents feel headaches, and how to improve their children's attention has also become a concern for parents. First of all, it should be clear that children are unlikely to last as long as adults. Children in different periods, the time of attention concentration is not the same, so can not blindly put forward high requirements for children, but should be based on the child's development characteristics to determine the time that children need to concentrate.
So how to properly promote and improve your child's attention? The following methods can be used for reference: first, find things that children are interested in, use the things that children are interested in to establish a relationship with the object to be learned, and carry out reasonable guidance; second, according to the characteristics of the child's age, let him learn to concentrate in a certain period of time. When the child can do a good job, you can gradually extend the time of one-time concentration; third, do not interfere with the child, when the child is focusing on what he is doing, parents do not disturb the child out of good intentions; fourth, create an environment conducive to attention concentration, such as creating an undisturbed game corner or learning area for the child, the environment is orderly; fifth, give the child a certain time frame to complete the task, teach the child to learn to allocate time, learn to control the time, feel that he is the master of time, Let him know that if he concentrates on doing one thing well in a relatively short period of time, he has more time to do other things; sixth, he can work with the child to formulate a reasonable time plan and strictly implement it, and cultivate the child's sense of time and purpose.
Remember, when the child is distracted, he must not nag and reprimand, which will make the child concentrate.
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What should I do if my child procrastinates?
When it comes to the child's friction, every parent has endless pain. In fact, there are many reasons why children procrastinate, and we suggest that they can be changed in the following ways:
Form a concept of time. Many children have a vague concept of time, and in their minds they may feel that five minutes is still a long time. Parents should teach their children to learn to read clocks and watches, and they can also buy hourglasses to make their children more aware of the length of time. This allows children to have a more intuitive impression of time and then grasp the time themselves.
Make a reasonable plan. Parents can give their children a reasonable schedule according to their children's abilities and ask them to complete them on time. For each item your child completes, let him tick a tick behind the task. It should be noted that you must not take over the tasks of your children because you are anxious, develop their dependence, and think that it is okay to procrastinate, anyway, someone will help you complete it. It is necessary to set up a reasonable reward and punishment system, let the child slowly develop habits, and the child's life will be regular in the future.
Replace urging with clear instructions. Take going out to wear shoes as an example, instead of fierce reprimands, it is better to change the perspective and say to the child: "First go to the shoe rack to get the red sandals, and then sit on a small stool and wear them yourself." "It's easier to help your child sort things out.
Tell your child about the consequences of being late. What is the difference between being faster and being slower, children don't know. Tell your child what the consequences of being late will be if he can't finish it as soon as possible, and what the consequences he will bear. Only when the child truly appreciates the troubles caused by the friction can he pay attention to it.
Stimulate your child's interest. Parents can take steps to stimulate their child's interest and help their child solve problems, for example, to compete with mom and dad to wear socks to see who is faster. If the child has the possibility of winning, he will feel that he can do it quickly.
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Learning software in electronics can
Replace your child's learning in real situations?
Guo Liping
Nowadays, children's learning software is emerging in an endless stream and has become an important way for many parents to educate, but learning software cannot replace children's learning in real life situations.
Children understand the world mainly through hands-on experience and exploration perception, and they actively mobilize their senses to form experiences and acquire knowledge in the process of interaction with their surroundings.
Software may have colorful, dynamic images, or elaborate programs that are set up layer by layer, but while abstracting physical objects into symbols, it also abstracts away from three-dimensional and rich sensory experiences—knowledge that cannot be described in words and images, and unique human experiences that can only be transmitted in games and life, which children cannot obtain by learning software. This knowledge and experience is crucial to the development of young children, who understand the physical world, master language, perceive human interactions and form themselves.
When interaction with software replaces real companionship between people, children are deprived of the opportunity to grow in real relationships, and sensitive opportunities to adapt to future social interpersonal interactions are missed.
Today we emphasize more and more the subjectivity of learners, but most of these learning software are pushing children forward, and children become passively accepting a large amount of information but have no time to form active thinking, and no time to become active actors.
Learning software uses "learning" as a gimmick, but it doesn't really understand what meaningful learning means for children. Bringing them to children without thinking or tying will only distance them from the trajectory of natural growth and sever their intimate connection with the planet on which they depend. From the perspective of cultural inheritance and symbiosis between man and nature, learning software has never been, and will not be, a substitute for children's real experiences.
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Learn qualities and knowledge skills
Which is more important?
Yan Chaoyun
Professor of Sichuan Normal University
The quality of learning is not the knowledge and skills that children want to learn, but the attitude and tendency of children when they face these knowledge and skills, that is, when learning these knowledge and skills. For example, a child with the ability to listen (hearing is very good, can hear very small sounds, very far sounds) is not necessarily a good listener; a child who is not strong enough, whose movements are not even very coordinated, is willing to lift the table and sweep the floor with his mother, the former child has the corresponding knowledge ability but does not have the corresponding quality, and the latter child's knowledge and skills are not strong, but has the corresponding quality.
The "Guide to the Learning and Development of 36-year-old Children" issued by the Ministry of Education pointed out that it is necessary to fully respect and protect children's curiosity and learning interest, and help children gradually develop good learning qualities such as being proactive, serious and focused, not afraid of difficulties, daring to explore and try, and being willing to imagine and create. These learning qualities are what parents and kindergartens should focus on cultivating.
The quality of learning is very important. Knowledge and skills that are not acquired can be gradually acquired in the future, and once the learning quality is damaged, it is difficult to make up. This requires parents and friends not to simply pursue knowledge and skills, but to pay attention to their children's learning interests, attitudes, habits and tendencies in the process of preparing for school.
There is an old Chinese saying, "Three years old looks big, seven years old looks old." What is it that can look big at three years old and look old at seven years old? How many words do you recognize, how many mathematical problems you do, and how many Tang poems you read? No. The learning qualities that children show when they are young are interested in learning, proactive, conscientious and focused, not afraid of difficulties and dare to challenge, which are also the core qualities that primary and secondary school students are advocating, which is far more important than the knowledge and skills themselves.
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Why do small children need to "play"?
Humans have a longer childhood period than animals. This means that humans have more room for development and development potential than animals, and can cope with more complex living environments. The ability to adapt to future development requires a long period of childhood to learn and lay the foundation. If you artificially shorten childhood, skip the accumulation of a large amount of perceptual experience in childhood, and enter the concept symbol learning of a higher age stage in advance, you will form a mechanical memory learning, lose the flexibility of flexibility and understanding, and then it is difficult to adapt to an uncertain future living environment.
We know that young children learn from activities such as life and play, based on direct perception, practical operation and personal experience of perceptual experience. Such learning will inevitably transition to book learning, rational thinking, and learning based on indirect experience. But such a transition cannot be rushed. The early ripening fruit produced by the growth of seedlings is not sweet, and we all understand these truths.
If we look at the Chinese and mathematics in primary schools, especially in the middle and upper grades of primary schools, we will find that many of them require life experience. A considerable number of primary school students can't do the problem, not because they can't read or calculate, but because they don't have a lot of life experience and can't understand the problem and what this sentence means. If you can follow the rules and characteristics of your child's learning and development, there will be no phenomenon of online parents tutoring their children's homework and collapsing on their own. Because they cannot read or understand, it means that children lack corresponding feelings and experiences, and their rationality lacks the basis of sensibility.
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Do I want to enroll my child in cram school?
In the process of preparing for school, it is often seen that parents are busy giving their children various cram classes: learning pinyin and chinese characters, learning mathematics and practicing English, are these preparations really beneficial to children's future learning and development?
In the definition of cultivating the core literacy of talents in the education circles at home and abroad, all emphasize "learning to learn", that is, emphasize the importance of children's learning interest and learning process, and emphasize the cultivation of lifelong learning ability. Being kind and eager to learn, exploring and creating, and being diligent in reflection are the return to the essence of learning - children are proactive in solving problems.
Following the developmental characteristics of preschool children, the most effective way to learn is to support children to learn through direct perception, practical operation and hands-on experience, stimulate young children's interest in learning, thereby building confidence and initiative, and then creatively solving problems. Encouraging children to play in secondary school through meaningful play is the most suitable way for preschoolers to learn.
Although young children have mastered some sub-subject knowledge in a short period of time, these cramming learning is not enough to support the cultivation of learning ability, it is difficult to lay the basic literacy of a person who can learn, and it is more likely to erase children's interest and confidence in learning. Many studies at home and abroad have confirmed that the learning effect of sub-subject preparation knowledge is not good, and it will also reduce children's initiative and interest in learning. Therefore, if parents simply equate the early childhood articulation with the knowledge preparation of various subjects in primary school, it is short-sighted and harmful.
In the preschool education, parents do not have to be hasty, but should pay more attention to the learning style in line with the child's mental development, attach importance to the child's learning and inquiry in play, life, and provide effective support for children's comprehensive, independent and sustainable learning and development.
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Do you want your child to learn elementary school content in advance?
Hao Hao was sent to the Olympic mathematics class by his parents as soon as he entered the large class, and learned some mathematical application problems that primary school students may only be exposed to in advance. The Olympiad class either relies on listening comprehension (adult reading questions), or looking at pictures to guess the question, because of the lack of real situation experience and physical operation, Hao Hao often can't do the question because he doesn't understand the meaning of the question, so that his ears are often filled with "stupid, really stupid" scolding, so that he also secretly hides the homework book and pencil, thinking that he can escape the homework. But his mother could always buy new books and pencils, and Hao Hao still had to finish the prescribed homework in the midst of scolding.
It should be known that young children in the intuitive thinking stage mainly understand the knowledge acquisition experience through personal experience and hands-on operation. The biggest problem with advanced learning is to make children pay greater will and effort to learn the knowledge that can be easily learned later. When young children are not easily able to understand knowledge beyond their age, especially when adults sigh or blame the child for being slow to understand and accept, the child will think that he is really stupid. Once this kind of "learned stupidity" is generated, it is very unfavorable to subsequent studies, and it is easy to be passive and dependent on learning after enrollment, and when encountering learning difficulties, it will be lazy to use its brain and give up lightly. Therefore, the correct approach is to let the child do things that are suitable for his age characteristics and in line with the laws of his development, so that they can experience success and be full of fun for learning forever.
Let the child truly experience every detail of the kindergarten day... ˉεˉ乀 is waiting for your arrival.