Loving children is almost every parent's instinct and does not add any strings attached.
However, with the growth of children, many parents are extremely bored with their children, especially for some of their behaviors, completely intolerable state, every day on the verge of collapse, and children wrestle wits.
When it comes to the behavior that parents can't stand the most, in addition to the child's procrastination in learning, it is the grinding and rubbing in life.
Tomorrow morning at school, even if it is a few simple shoelaces, the child will have to operate for 10 minutes.
In the face of the constant urging voice of their parents, their hearts are not only impatient, but also very impatient.
The speed of tying shoes is getting slower and slower.
Such a picture-like thing will be no stranger to every parent.
When children grow up, whether in learning or in life behavior, any grinding behavior, most parents' practices must be constantly urged.
However, parents do not consider from a deeper level: the reason why children do things grinding and rubbing, but use constant "urging" to cover up the fact and deep reasons why children do things slowly and grind.
【Reasons why children do things to rub】
1, there is no mastery of the method
In the process of children's growth, once there is a situation such as grinding and rubbing, it does not explain the problem, but only shows that they are slow to do things and have not found the tricks and methods to do things.
Most parents do not think of teaching their children fast, convenient and efficient methods when they complain about their children, but constantly complain and belittle.
When children can master the methods and skills of doing things, they are also unwilling to complete a thing in the constant urging and bad mood of their parents.
2, the concept of time is relatively poor
Many children do not have a strong sense of time in the process of growing up, which is strongly related to the growth environment and the parents' education methods.
This bad behavior will also be passed on to the child, the parents have no concept of time, the child must be so.
3, the concentration is not strong
Some children's concentration is not strong, and many parents think that the child is sick and has ADHD.
This is also one of the reasons why some children procrastinate in doing things.
This happens because the child's attention is not on what is done, but is distracted from other things, so the efficiency of doing things is very inefficient.
The Dangers of Constant Urging – Destroying Self-Esteem and Self-Confidence
When children have any rubbing and lazy behavior, most parents' attitudes are either vicious words or constant urging.
This kind of behavior will only continue to discourage children's enthusiasm, and even make their self-esteem and self-confidence be hit.
When the child is born, the situation of broken cans and broken, not only will things be more and more grinding, but even the opposite of the parents will always challenge the bottom line of the parents.
【How should parents do it in the face of children's rubbing behavior】
1. Make it understand the importance of rules
In order to avoid the occurrence of rubbing behavior in the process of children's growth, as a parent, we should try to help children establish rules and order before they are 6 years old.
The establishment of rules and order is very critical and important, so that they can understand the importance of agreement and keeping promises.
At the same time, it can also make them have a certain binding force on themselves, as far as possible to complete a thing, to avoid the situation of distraction.
When a sense of rules is established, many of their behaviors will also have a basis, and they can also make their behavior more efficient and evidence-based.
2. Patient and rational guidance
When the child has abrasive behavior in the early stage, parents must maintain sufficient patience and avoid using bad words.
This negative emotion of the parent will be directly transmitted to the child, and it will also give the child a wrong psychological hint.
Only if parents can give them more patient and rational guidance and encouragement, can they do things better and avoid the emergence of various frictional behaviors.
【Author's Message】
Malton once expressed strong confidence that ordinary people can make amazing things. Children's attention is very easily distracted, and the child's grinding and chirping behavior is also inseparable from their age to some extent.
Only when parents can rationally face their children's grinding behavior can they give correct guidance, rather than desperately blaming their children.
The more parents urge their children, the less anxious they are, and they will even become extremely naughty and very resistant to parents.
Only if parents can adopt empathy for their children can they reduce the occurrence of children's grinding behavior in the process of growing up.
Today's topic sharing: Do you think: what do parents do to change their children's grinding and procrastinating behavior?