The feelings between people are very delicate and difficult to grasp.
There are many people who, at first, are friends, but in the end they become enemies; there are many people, who do not intersect at the beginning, but in the end they are like glue.
In this world, there is no one-time thing, there is no one-size-fits-all thing, and the same is true of friendship, and the same is true of family affection.
So-called:
"Raise troops for a thousand days, use them for a while."
Not only for friends, but also for their loved ones.
The relationship between people needs to be well maintained, otherwise it will become more and more distant, and even turn against each other.
If one day, you have a vendetta against your brothers and sisters, remember to visit these places.
01. Hospital
When you and your brothers and sisters turn against each other, you will still remember each other in your heart.
Just the year before, my grandfather was sick, and after my grandfather fell ill, the relatives and friends in the family were estranged from us, and my grandfather's son and daughter were afraid of taking care of my grandfather, so they did not contact us.
Once my cousin scolded me, saying that I was not doing a good job and should not disturb their lives. It is my business to say that grandpa is sick, but in fact my grandfather has a son and a daughter. Why should I take care of this grandson? What obligation do I have?
But some people are like this, obviously with their eyes open, but they are talking nonsense.
At that time, I felt very sad, very sad, everything I did was not recognized and cared for by everyone, but let everyone rely on it.
But the days with my grandfather in the hospital made me see a lot of life and death, and I suddenly felt:
As long as you live, nothing matters. Although I have suffered a lot, I am glad that I live in this world in good health, I still have the capital of an orderly life, and I can still walk in the sunshine.
It's a very sad thing to turn against your siblings, but if you're used to seeing life and death in the hospital, you'll feel lucky to be alive, so you'll soon be relieved.
02. Places we went together as children
I watched a TV series the other day, in which a man betrayed his wife and later became a family with another woman.
But the man still can't forget his former wife, because the previous wife grew up with him, and the two of them went to many places when they were young.
Although men have no love for this woman, every time they get together in those places, they will always feel sad, and they feel sorry for this woman, and later remarry with each other because of this.
There are still times when there is a desertion in the head, because there are many temptations in this world.
After men and women get married, they may sometimes choose to betray each other because of external temptations, but this is only a temporary impulse, which does not mean that a third party has been identified in this life; brothers and sisters, sometimes because of the interests of the eyes, so they are not good to you, and they will complain about you.
But as long as you look back, the places you went together as a child, you will still feel very warm, because this is not only the friendship between you, but also the beautiful warmth of your past.
Therefore, if the brothers and sisters turn against each other, go to the place where they went together when they were young to have a good look, and maybe your relationship will become better.
03. Parents' side
As a person, don't forget your roots, if you are a person who has forgotten your origin, then this person must not be a good person.
Our greatest source is our own parents, our parents gave birth to us to raise us, and we have to repay our parents for the rest of our lives.
Many people will find:
If you have a parent in charge of the overall situation in your family, the feelings of the brothers and sisters will be particularly good, if there is no one in the family who presides over the overall situation, the brothers and sisters in the family are like a mess of sand, when things happen, no one is wearing a thorn, and no one even plays.
In many cases, there have been some misunderstandings between your brothers, and there are many things between the sisters that have not been explained... So you have a grudge against each other, and you don't even move around anymore.
But if several of you go at the same time, in front of your parents, who, knowing your situation, will certainly teach you and unite you later, which is also good for your feelings.
So after meeting your parents, you may save your feelings, and you may feel that you have done something wrong, but only if your parents are more enlightened parents and can persuade your parents.
Some parents see that there is hatred between brothers and sisters, at this time, parents instead of dissuading these children, but will add fuel to the fire, such parents do not see.
04. The construction site for moving bricks
When you go to the brick moving site, you feel that there are a lot of people in the world who are suffering.
Sometimes we see that a certain brother or sister has a better life, so we will be jealous, always feel that we also have hands and feet, even better than each other, but why does the other party get so much.
Just like I got a good job after graduating from college, I went to college very well, so my relatives and friends were jealous, and I didn't contact me much on WeChat, and satirized that my salary was so high because I made money that I shouldn't have earned, in fact, I was just a teacher in school, and every penny was my hard money.
At that time, I was very sad, but when I went to the construction site to take a look, I found that there are people in the world who work harder than me, in fact, everyone is not easy, maybe this person is jealous of me, can't see me well, but the other party is also not easy people.
I suddenly felt that I might really be happier than the other person, so I chose to forgive the other party and took the initiative to throw an olive branch to the other party, hoping that we could be reconciled as before.
Many people in this world are much better than us, and sometimes we see others become excellent, and we always feel that it is not a taste of specialness.
But you have to know that in this world, all the gains are obtained through your own efforts, you see the bright external conditions of others, but you do not see the coolie of others picking up the lamp and reading at night.
Therefore, do not be jealous of others, but to learn from others with an open mind, meet people with careful eyes, and take a detour if you can take a detour.
If the other party is your relative, you really can't take a detour, you have to learn to let go, and open your heart to accept the other party, don't feel that you lose, in fact, you are the winner in life, because others are not good, so they will be jealous of you.
If one day you and your brothers and sisters turn against each other, you may wish to go to the above four places to take a look, some places will teach you to cherish your current feelings, and some places will let you learn to be relieved and face the next new self.
In any case, don't put too much pressure on yourself mentally, we have to make ourselves happy and happy, even if others are not good to us, we must love ourselves well.