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On the last day of the Spring Festival holiday, the family of three went to watch a movie, and the son was clamoring for a hamburger, and we went to McDonald's on the first floor of the mall. The story in the title also happened in this fast food restaurant...
I had just returned from my meal, passed the mother and son sitting opposite each other, walked through the narrow passage, and saw an incredible scene. Mother and son sat at opposite ends of the table, and the mother said: "Is it happy for my son to play with you today?" Kiss your mother when you're happy. The teenager did not hesitate to give his mother a kiss, and the mother smiled happily: "Ah! What a kiss! Are you in love with me? ”
I didn't feel angry, I was more worried about the future of this teenager!
Children avoid mothers, daughters avoid fathers, and gender differences are also part of sex education
Children begin to develop gender consciousness from the age of 2, and sex education begins from this moment. From gender differences to changing clothes and avoiding going to the bathroom, children should be given enough respect and independent space, so that children can establish gender awareness and talk about further sexual protection awareness.
My teacher said that her daughter, from the age of two, told her children: "The private parts of your body, if you don't want to, even your parents can't forcibly touch them." If you wish, you can ask Mom and Dad to go out while you change your clothes. ”
Only when children are aware of the gender differences between men and women, aware of their own gender, can they talk about sexual protection. If parents usually do not care, such as: mother-child mixed bath, father-daughter mixed bath, do not avoid going to the bathroom, opposite-sex parents do not shy away from changing clothes, then it is difficult for children to establish gender awareness.
When the child reaches puberty (10-12 years old), the hormones surge, and both sons and daughters should have some knowledge of sexual protection. The mother in the case may be expressing her love for her son, or maybe it is a joke, but I think it is indeed a bit too much, which is not conducive to the growth of the child.
After the accident in the United States, Sun Anzuo, the son of Taiwanese entertainer Di Ying, was also exposed: his son was weaned at the age of 12 and slept together for 15 years, until his son had a physiological reaction before he was separated from the bed. In 2018, her "giant baby" son was imprisoned in the United States after police seized guns and 1600 rounds of bullets. He was also removed from the university's admission list for his involvement in criminal cases.
Behind the mother's excessive attachment to her son is the loss of parental function
Whether it is Di Ying or the mother in the case, the object of the mother's behavior should be the father of the child. Because the task of appeasing the mother and satisfying the mother's emotional needs should be borne by the father, not the child. Behind the mother's excessive attachment to her son is the loss of the father's function, but also the loss of the mother's function: the absence of the father does not meet the emotional needs of the son and wife; the mother does not do what the mother should be.
Second, boys should spend more time with their dads between the ages of 6 and 13, because they are imitating and learning how to become a "real man." If you spend too much time with your mother, coupled with the mother's excessive attachment to her son, even the child takes on the role of caring for the mother. This boy, who has been treated as a little adult, has lost the carefree he should have, and as an adult, may not be able to complete his gender identity.
In the variety show "Mom is Superman", the interaction between Dong Jie and her son Dingding also made the audience stunned: transforming into a little girl, she needed to be coaxed by Dingding's father; Dingding and the children were playing happily, but they were called back by their mother's little temper " You can't come again, I'm going to cry." Dingding was very sad, but he only dared to secretly wipe his tears.
Children, that is, children, are premature children of society, not small adults, they need to experience more than ten or twenty years of growth to learn to take on the responsibility of the adult world. Allowing children to assume the role of "caregiver" too early is also a loss of parental function, indicating that the psychological world of parents is not enough to be qualified for the position of "parent".
Conclusion: The child's weak body cannot carry the will of the two souls, and may even tear apart the child's spiritual world. As a parent, if you want to retire to becoming a child, please choose a good partner, the caregiver can be the other half, friends, your own parents... Whoever it is, it must not be a child.
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