#人到中年, what is the most important? ＃
Yesterday my circle of friends was swiped by two messages:
One is Gu Ailing's wonderful victory. After winning the championship, Gu Ailing said: The reason why I dare to choose difficult and innovative actions at the final moment is not for medals, nor for defeating opponents, but only to present a complete self.
One is that the head of a private equity firm in Shanghai drowned in the Huangpu River in Shanghai. Fund managers who were only in their forties and once had a double-good performance ended their lives in this way.
As a peer, I can feel the anxiety and depression of the head of the private equity, especially for the early death of such a young and excellent talent, and I can't express my regret in words.
As a parent, I do not envy the "other people's children" genius girl Gu Ailing, I just want to share what I very much agree with, Gu Ailing himself shared the secret of success: "Sleep, and sleep 10 hours a night from childhood." Exercise and sleep are the two most important things in my life. ”
Our education believes that "don't let the child lose at the starting line", when the child is very young, as a parent, we begin to "pull up the seedlings to promote growth", eager to let the child become a "little genius", we no longer allow the child to have the right to play. Almost every parent is afraid of their children losing to other children, from kindergarten, parents began to be anxious, afraid that their children can not enter a good kindergarten, so whether the child likes it or not, willing or not, parents have to send their children into a variety of training classes, from six o'clock in the morning, the child is confused to be called up, began to rush to various training institutions, participate in various trainings, has been busy until the evening to do various homework or exercises, in order to go to bed, this time may be ten o'clock at night, Maybe it's eleven o'clock, but no parent cares about whether the child's sleep time is enough, only whether the child's task today has been completed and how well it is completed?
One of the success factors of Gu Ailing is because her mother loves to play, her mother loves skiing, and when Ailing was three years old, her mother took her with her to ski together and cultivated her interest in skiing. The most important thing is that her mother let Ailing develop the habit of sleeping more than 10 hours a night and treating exercise and sleep as the two most important things in life. And our current education forgets the importance of exercise and adequate sleep for children.
Gu Ailing grew up thanks to exercise and adequate sleep. Exercise can not only cultivate the child's heart and lung function and the strength of the core muscle group in terms of physical fitness; cultivate the child's coordination and sensitivity, promote the cognitive development and potential of the brain, and make the child's eye brain, limbs, muscles, nerves, psychology and other aspects of balanced development. In terms of quality, it can also cultivate children's self-confidence, enterprising spirit, form the spirit of courage to fight, and help children establish the correct values of honing their self-willpower and perseverance. Adequate sleep can strengthen children's concentration, so that children have the energy to indulge in favorite things, and adequate sleep can produce the magical effect of strengthening memory, and even inspiring new ideas and bringing new inspiration.
The advantages of "exercise and adequate sleep" are fully reflected in Gu Ailing, she is versatile, and every sport or talent she likes is actively wanting to learn and consciously learning in her energetic situation. She said: "Never feel physical tiredness or pain is a kind of hard work", because she has cultivated perseverance in sports since she was a child, accustomed to constantly challenging herself, and she is more focused than others, learning everything faster than others, so she constantly has a sense of satisfaction and goals on the way forward, motivating her to learn better.
Our fund managers are also among the best in the industry, but in their upbringing, "exercise and adequate sleep" have never been promoted as important things. When they face stress and develop anxiety, they are constantly self-reflecting, studying the market more diligently, resulting in severe insomnia, and even some people have become depressed since then!
Does our education need to do some proper introspection? If I am given another chance to raise, I will definitely give my child a happy childhood.
For middle-aged people, I also deeply feel the need to make changes, and my life is dominated by short videos and mobile phones, because I don't feel that these two things are the most important things in my life! I always felt the need to learn more, to learn more, to be a more successful person. But I have not found that I have lost myself, if there is no good body, full of energy, how can I find the beauty of life? How can you tolerate your child's imperfections? How can you make the most of it in your work? And only anxiety and irritability await me...
