Text | Thirteenth sister
A few days ago, I received a private message from a reader in Beijing, and it was quite interesting:
Think about it: Haidian rolls are well known, but how did the conclusion that "Chaoyang parents do not have high requirements for their children's learning" came about.
What's more interesting is that he summarized the reasons why "Chaoyang does not roll up the Haidian roll" as follows: there are many Chaoyang parents who do business (meaning rich), and there are many teachers and civil servants (meaning Kochi) among Haidian parents. In other words: it doesn't matter if you have money, you will be more chicken and baby if you pursue a façade."
You see, isn't that an interesting idea?
I also asked some friends in Beijing, basically the Haidian volume is recognized, and even the explanation given is similar:
Do you see it? The "test generation" has been mentioned many times.
There are some volumes, which are from the genes, and can't help but roll, subconsciously roll...
But there are also Chaoyang parents who are not convinced, who said that Chaoyang parents have money and do not pay attention to education?
I was chatting with a friend the other day, and I was a little touched. He is a TOEFL teacher at a well-known English training institution. The institution has many campuses in Shanghai, and I asked him, "Which campus has the best TOEFL scores for students?" ”
He blurted out: "Pudong." ”
Pudong is undoubtedly the most volatile district in Shanghai, and the fierce competition in Pudong's primary and secondary schools, the huge number of cow babies, the entire Puxi may not be able to compete.
But even TOEFL and IELTS are the most volatile for Pudong students, which shows what, as long as a place is rolled, it is rolled in all aspects, children in the system fight bitterly, and children outside the system are also squeezed around the track.
The parents of the international school in Pudong are very rich, and they are just as desperate in the chicken baby. In Pudong's Zhangjiang Hi-Tech, Jinqiao Development Zone, and Free Trade Zone, high-precision enterprises are everywhere, and Kochi and elites are concentrated in Pudong, and they are also in chicken babies.
Therefore, the statement that "if you have money, you don't have high requirements for children's education" is untenable, at least in my opinion.
Where the real roll, even playing, can play the chain of contempt...
Therefore, let me say that our eyes should not be on "Haidian" or "Chaoyang", nor on "Puxi" or "Pudong", nor at a type of parents or several types of parents, but should recognize a reality from the root: everywhere there are rolled and not rolled, they are not used to each other under the same sky, but secretly compete, but what we see may only be the appearance, on the road of education, each parent has their own confusion and persistence.
Whether it is Haidian or Chaoyang, it is Niang who fights.
The difference is not "this area is very rolled, that area can lie flat", but "this area rolls like this, that area rolls like that".
Each zone has its own roll method.
Just like the Chaoyang parents, they may be a little Buddha compared to Haidian or Shunyi, but do you know that Beijing's "latest lights-out community" is also in Chaoyang... The school district that claims to have the most homework and the hardest work for children is precisely in Chaoyang.
So there are no unrolled areas, only non-rolled people.
In the final analysis, the matter of fighting a baby is essentially an assessment of parents.
Look at the old mothers of Shunyi who don't have to grab the track within the system, their roll method is another set of rules, but no one is easier than the other.
Just like the cow school outside the Shanghai system, it is actually 360 degrees without dead ends. For example, some non-system high school TOEFL scores require 115 points, what is this concept? Let's just say that UC Berkeley undergraduates require a TOEFL score of 110...
If the roll in Haidian is a tornado-like roll, a gust of wind comes and sweeps all over the ground, and no one wants to escape... Then the roll of the rising sun may be like a sandstorm-style roll, when the storm comes, someone is helpless, rolled up dimly, but there are also people who close the doors and windows in advance, close the door, and turn a deaf ear, he seems to be what the reader said "does not require children to learn".
It's just that you don't really know who closes the window and who goes up against the wind.
But in the final analysis, no matter where it is, it is the parents' planning ability, endurance and financial resources.
My son is already in his first year of high school, and I can say responsibly: I don't know where else I know, but high school students in the Shanghai system can really say that they have started the college entrance examination since the first year of high school. The so-called evaluation and assessment of comprehensive ability runs through the entire three years, various branches, during which it takes a lot of time outside the discipline, and even reflects the innovation and research ability that only college students and even graduate students have, so as to prove that you are better than others.
This is an endurance run, the volume is comprehensive strength and integration ability, the more excellent the baby, the more time and energy will be spent outside the discipline, at the same time, the academic can not fall behind, the grades must be stabilized.
A friend of mine who is out of town said "Shanghai students are so relaxed"... I told him that if you were to experience the fancy roll method of Shanghai students, you might not be able to hold it.
There are also many parents who are very good at planning and changing the track early, in fact, it is just a different way.
I have an old classmate, because she is too Buddhist, she doesn't want her child to be crushed in a public elementary school, so she transferred to an international school, and after a year of study, she also started to chicken dolls, taking children around the world to participate in activities and competitions, as well as various groups, the instruments and equipment at home can not be piled up, and she has become an all-round chicken baby mother. In her words: "Finally know that I can't escape, after all, the whole world is pinching, why can I lie down and win?" ”
The so-called roll and non-roll, chicken and non-chicken, are all in different environments and in different horizontal comparisons can be drawn.
Some people think that they are very curly, and when they change their circles, they are actually very Buddha; Some people think that they are enough Buddhas, but later understand that they are only facing Buddhas in their own circle, and when they go out to compare, they know that their children have been rolled up and flying.
Therefore, in the matter of parenting, you really can't refer to any person's "experience" or "admonition", all opinions are in your own heart, of course, it is okay to draw on it, but the most important thing is to be objective, first weigh how much wind and waves you and your children can control, and then decide whether to go head-on towards the wind and waves.
Chicken baby is not an absolutely good or bad word either.
As a parent, why don't you have the freedom to decide how to raise your children? It's just a matter of "degree", choose to work the track that suits your family.
As for those who come to persuade others to "don't want chicken babies" regardless of their mouths, I don't think they need to pay attention to them at all. They can point, but they can't.
All finger-pointing that is not based on objective factors and environmental indicators is hooliganism.