When people reach middle age, what kind of picture is in front of us? Is it in a hurry, or is it enjoying it in a calm and calm way; is it struggling in a chicken feather, or is it growing up in harmony and tranquility?
Entering middle age, you may be a little powerless, maybe some helplessness and exhaustion.
You who have children under your parents never dare to relax for a moment, because you have a responsibility on your shoulders that cannot be pushed off;
You, who have a team under the leadership, never dare to shrink back, because you have a mission that cannot be hidden.
You who have housework outside the business never dare to be lazy one day, because you have countless goals in mind;
In the face of the countless challenges of life, you never dare to stop for a second, because you know the principle of retreating if you do not advance.
Middle age is a stage full of crises, but also a stage full of challenges, and it is also the best time for transformation.
Released in the 1980s, "Man to Middle Age" tells the life situation of parents in middle age.
The protagonist of the film, Lu Wenting, is busy with her own work every day, neglects to take care of her family, and is admitted to the hospital because of overwork and suddenly suffered a heart attack, fortunately, the rescue was saved in time.
This is the middle age of the previous generation, wandering between work and family, often sacrificing themselves and their families for others and work, and their middle age has more selflessness and love, but also guilt and self-blame.
The TV series "Man to Middle Age" broadcast in the 21st century is about the middle-aged life of our generation.
"There are old and young" we are under great economic pressure, all kinds of confusion in children's education, emotional problems between husband and wife, and various trivialities and complexities in family relations, which are vividly displayed in this drama.
As the protagonists, behind the quarrels and troubles, they can also glimpse the middle-aged people's perception of life. The middle-aged life of our generation is intertwined with too many economic factors, and it is also mixed with the pursuit and thinking of self.
In fact, middle age is only a long part of life, no matter what kind of situation we are facing, we have the opportunity to make it into another look.
When people reach middle age, truly wise people have already lived a "high-quality life".
Save money effectively and make your middle-aged life more relaxed
When it comes to saving money, many people may think of the image of a miser or a scrooge. In fact, saving money is the attitude and way of treating money. In my opinion, saving money is not to save money when you need to spend money, but you have to endure when you have a need.
Saving money is open source and throttling, saving money is a material disconnection, and it is a higher quality of life.
Rational consumption is essentially saving money. In today's materialistic society, we are often forced to be in a state of buying and buying, and the opening of online payment makes buying things an easy and random thing.
However, if we count the items we bought back, how many of them can really come in handy? When we open our closet, we will know that we are already stuffed, but we still lack a piece of clothing that needs to be worn.
A friend once talked to me about how he could spend a morning shopping on a treasure, like shopping. Seeing that many things I want to buy, in the blink of an eye, not only is the time gone, but the wallet is also deflated.
Rational consumption makes us reject excessive material pursuits, and it also gives us more energy and time to do more meaningful things.
Saving money is not about cutting the door, but about saving or managing money according to your own situation.
Some people will distribute their salaries in 4321, such as 40% investment, 30% living expenses, 20% savings and spares, and 10% for insurance. Others will use the method of compulsory savings, two bank cards, one for daily consumption and one for saving money.
When I first learned that I was pregnant, my friend suggested that I save 1,000 yuan per month, and the 12,000 yuan I got a year later really gave me a lot of help and confidence in the early days of my full-time baby.
Money is not a panacea, but it is really difficult to walk without money. When we are in a state of being old and young, life without savings is really full of fear and unknown. Children's education, the health of the elderly, their own socialization, which are inseparable from the support of money.
Therefore, if you want to have a calm middle-aged life, one of the things you must do is to "save money".
Learn to be alone and make your middle-aged life more calm
Schopenhauer said that one can only be oneself when one is alone.
After entering middle age, many people are no longer themselves. They become someone's husband or wife, someone's father or mother. Because there are more titles, there are more responsibilities and obligations.
From the moment a woman is pregnant, someone will regulate you with the requirements of the mother-to-be, not to eat too spicy, not to eat too cold, not to use mobile phones, not to watch TV... You can no longer eat and dress as you like.
When the child is born, you think you can finally be yourself, but you are greeted with more no and no.
Men are equally faced with all kinds of pressures and demands. When you were a child, your parents told you that you should be a strong and brave man, even if you bleed, you can't shed tears. After marriage, your wife told you to be a good man who has the courage to take responsibility, to love the family and take care of the family. In the unit leader tells you to be positive, to learn more from others, to interact with customers more, to become a real mainstay...
The life of middle-aged people is not built on their own initiative, but one by one, expectations and requirements are built together, and we are forced to move forward, in a hurry, too late to appreciate the surrounding scenery, nor too late to listen to the inner voice.
Therefore, in middle age, we are often at a loss, and in middle age, we often cry alone.
The one who would rather hide in the car and smoke after work than go home, you actually just want a chance to be alone;
The one who loves to read and wants to keep learning and improving actually just wants to have a time alone.
Being alone is not being alone, not refusing to communicate, not going your own way, being alone is giving yourself a fixed, quiet time to reflect on the past and plan for the future.
Being alone is actually to purify your own soul, you can see your own joys and sorrows, wash away the prosperity, and be safe alone. Be in awe of everything, keep a proper distance from the world, and make your life more harmonious and beautiful.
Only when a person learns to be alone can he find himself and accept himself in solitude, so as to be more calm.
After middle age, the most suitable way to live - to save money and be alone.
Saving money is to make our lives secure, not to panic, not to lose square inches, not to lose principles; to be alone is to let us not lose ourselves in the way forward, to have the ability to perceive happiness and give happiness.
The teenager does not know the taste of sorrow, and in the blink of an eye he is already middle-aged. The youth that has passed, let it become a memory, and the future is the most important part.
Please start today and let yourself have a calm and calm life.
Use saving money to protect materials, enrich the spirit with solitude, become a wise person who truly has material and spiritual resources, and harvest a happier future.
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