#教育听我说 #
A sentence from my husband in the morning made me once again determine the influence of the family on the child, the influence of the parents on the child. The husband can also be counted as the true inheritance of the mother-in-law.
My husband asked me to call my son and remind him not to forget to go to his grandmother's house for dinner at noon. At the end, I would like to add a special sentence: Don't be stupid!
This can't help but remind me of a sentence from my mother-in-law just before the Spring Festival. That day she asked my son to go to dinner at noon, and my son said he wouldn't go, so she said: Stiffness (Shanghainese stupid meaning). This sentence made me feel uncomfortable for several days, why do I say that my son is "rigid"?
My in-laws are very negative in everything, no matter what things can always think of the negative side, many things do not fight for the first give up. My husband is like this a lot of times.
At the beginning of the Shanghai economic housing policy, we compared the application conditions and felt that we should be OK. Their first reaction is that if they can't apply, we have no relationship (meaning there is no backdoor). But I still asked her to help us go to the neighborhood committee to ask and confirm.
When asked about her a few days later, she replied that we weren't qualified. I didn't think much about it at the time, and the matter was shelved. Looking back now, it is likely that the mother-in-law did not ask at all.
After about a year and a half, our company was not running well, so I quit my job, my son went to kindergarten, and I picked up my son every day. At this time, I met my son's grandmother, who was in the same neighborhood as my mother-in-law. Slowly getting acquainted with our situation, she was surprised and said that we were eligible to apply for economic housing.
I rushed to the street to consult myself, and the answer was yes. My husband and I began to prepare application materials, but my in-laws still treated them negatively, and we felt that we were busy and busy in vain.
In the end, we managed to get the economy house, and they didn't say anything more.
Last night, I discussed my son's mobile phone game with my husband, and I said, "I told Teacher Qiu (my son's homeroom teacher) and asked her to help me talk to my son as well." "This class teacher is very concerned about my son, and I know that my son is still very willing to listen to the words of the general teacher. Anyway, now our words about the game don't work very well.
My husband said, "It's useless." "Oh my God, this tone is exactly the same as her mother's.
I gave a scare back: "If you don't try, how do you know if it's useful or not?" ”
Success belongs to those who dare to try, if you don't try anything, life is not a pool of stagnant water, and how to experience the joy of trying to succeed?
My mother-in-law usually likes to ride a bicycle to a wet market or a supermarket, which I think is a good thing. Basking in the sun, exercising, how nice. But in my husband's eyes, what if I fall?
Isn't that unfounded? Worry about what didn't happen, and tire yourself and others. Because he still has to take care of his mother-in-law, he does not let her mother-in-law ride a bicycle. No one is happy.
Remember a little story.
There was an old lady who had two daughters, one daughter running a laundromat and one daughter running an umbrella shop. The weather was good, and she was worried that her daughter who opened an umbrella shop would not have a good business; in bad weather, she was worried that her daughter who opened a laundromat would not have a good business. Every day is a sad face.
Later, someone told her that you think differently and think the other way around. The weather is good, your daughter who runs a laundromat has a good business; the weather is bad, and your daughter who opens an umbrella shop has a good business. You're much happier.
No matter what happens, there will be both positive and negative sides, and there is no eternal good and always bad, "blessings and misfortunes lie, misfortunes and blessings depend on", Andong lost his horse and knew that it was not a blessing. With a positive attitude in everything, we can harvest more happiness and happiness.
