I am 70 years old, living in my daughter's house for nearly 10 years, and after the demolition money of my hometown house came down, I gave 2 million to my son and 310,000 to my daughter. When the son-in-law learned of this, he put 310,000

I am 70 years old, living in my daughter's house for nearly 10 years, and after the demolition money of my hometown house came down, I gave 2 million to my son and 310,000 to my daughter. When the son-in-law learned of this, he returned 310,000 yuan to me and sent me to my son's house. The daughter-in-law closed the door and said, "I don't live with the old man." ”

I begged my daughter to help me, and she said, "Dad, I'm going to take you in again, and I'm going to get a divorce!" ”

I have a son and a daughter, the children are very competitive, going to school will be 'other people's children' academic performance is very good, and then they all went to a book, after graduation the job is also good. The son and daughter have taken root in Zhengzhou, Henan. However, when my son bought a house, he did not have enough money, so I sold the house in my hometown county and added some money to him. Said yes, leave me a room. As a result, when I moved in, my son told me that my daughter-in-law did not agree.

My daughter-in-law said to me, "I said yes before marriage and would not live with the elderly." ”

At that time, I was dumbfounded, I came from Shaanxi and sold my own unit, what do I do now? I know the rule that my daughter-in-law said, and when I got married, I said that thing. When my wife was alive, we didn't live with my son. Now that my children have developed to Zhengzhou, I can't do anything without following the past.

And I don't have a room now, so I can't go back to the old house to live, right?

I was angry and quarreled with my daughter-in-law, and my 'weak' son said to me: "Dad, please don't argue, if you quarrel again, my marriage will not be saved!" ”

In desperation, I had to call my daughter and ask her to find me a place to stay, I was really unfamiliar with this side of Zhengzhou. My daughter rushed to her house with her son-in-law.

After learning about the situation, my daughter called and scolded her brother, and my son-in-law also said that my son was too much. But for the sake of family harmony, I still chose to give in.

At that time, my plan was to rent a house by myself, I had a monthly pension of 5,000, I still had some savings in my hand, and it was still no problem to rent a small house to live.

The daughter and son-in-law discussed it and decided to let me live in their house for the elderly. At that time, I was still a little hesitant, but the son-in-law said: "Dad, you live in it, our house is big, you usually bring us children when you live, and when the children go to school, you go for a walk, dance, and relax!" ”

In this way, I stayed at the home of my daughter and son-in-law. That night, I did not sleep all night, I thought about it for a while, and decided to take the initiative to give my son-in-law 2,000 a month for living expenses. People take me in, and I can't help it.

When my son learned that I was giving money every month, he resented me and said that I had cheapened outsiders in vain. At that time, I was on the phone scolding my son, what I said was an outsider, that is your sister, my daughter.

I am not the kind of stupid old man, daughter, son who is good to me, my heart is like a mirror.

At first, my daughter's mother-in-law thought I was a guest, but later she came to see me and she also had an opinion. That time, she asked me: "You have a son, why don't you go to your son's house, what is the matter with living in my son's house?" "I said my daughter was filial piety!

Later, I heard that my daughter's mother-in-law and son-in-law quarreled, and my daughter's mother-in-law did not agree to my permanent residence, saying that I had a son myself, so why let my son-in-law retire. The son-in-law said that I had given the money, and the daughter-in-law gave up.

Because of this incident, I did not have a good feeling for my daughter and mother-in-law. She was an old rural lady who didn't earn a penny herself. Always ask the son-in-law for money, subsidize the younger son who lives with her, but there are still many things.

I heard my daughter say that my in-laws often gave her clothes to her daughter-in-law to wear, and they also quarreled over this. The mother-in-law's reason is that the younger son is living in difficulty, and it is not a big deal to subsidize it as an older brother. My daughter's mother-in-law is a strong woman, and I don't like her, but fortunately she doesn't live with us. Over the years, my relationship with my son has been very close, but on the contrary, I have been very good with my son-in-law and daughter.

My son almost ignored me, seeing me several times a year, until after the demolition of my old house, I divided 2.31 million yuan in demolition money. My son came to me frequently, and he said to me privately, "Dad." You can't be confused at this time, who is the son, who is the daughter, who the property is to whom, you have to carry it clearly, the living expenses will not be said, the old house is the foundation of our old Zhang family, you can't give the money to outsiders. ”

The son means that he is the man of the family, and this money must be given to him.

I thought about it and decided to give my daughter some, emotionally, I was still biased towards my daughter, and over the years, she was good to me. But the inherent traditional thinking cannot be lost. In fact, you can think about it, in your family or around your family, who gave their property to their daughters? Nothing, right?

The traditional thinking is like this, property to the son.

I thought the same thing, but I still favored my daughter and gave her 310,000 and my son 2 million. The daughter complained a few words and gave up, but her mother-in-law could not do it, returned 310,000 to me, let the son-in-law send me back to his son's home, he said: "Dad, 10 years, we have not yet warmed your heart, we tried our best, you are good for yourself!" ”

My daughter-in-law still didn't accept me, so I begged my daughter to help me, and she cried and said, "Dad, if I help you again, I'm going to get a divorce!" "I didn't expect to end up at such a point, what did I do wrong?" Wealth moves people's hearts, and sons and daughters are not filial piety!

@Star Stripe Emotion said

Hello Uncle! You are really wrong, and from the narrative, I don't think your daughter is filial piety. You have a son, but your daughter and son-in-law let you live in their house for almost 10 years. With that in mind, I don't think you're qualified to say that your daughter is filial piety.

It is true that your son is not filial piety, although every time the daughter-in-law comes forward to reject you, but your son has done nothing. He apparently acquiesced to his daughter-in-law's behavior.

You said you weren't confused, but you still made a mistake about the distribution of the demolition money, and you gave 2 million to your son. Do you boil it down to the conventional wisdom inherent in it? Is this important? You didn't think your actions would break your son-in-law's heart, and as he said, it hasn't warmed your heart for 10 years. Your son is good for you, the key moment is good, you still think of your son.

Remind the majority of the elderly once again that the treatment of children must be a bowl of water flat, otherwise the trouble will continue!