Marriage is not a necessary choice in life, if he just can't adapt to married life, or has no need for marriage at all, you can't force him.
But if there is a marriage in his life plan, it is another matter.
On the surface, he has the right to decide the major events of his life, the right to choose and decide. But in fact, in the blind date marriage market, the man is really passive, not to see who he wants to choose, but to see who chose him, especially everyone puts the intention to get married in the first place.
After the age of 30, most people can actually face marriage with the most practical attitude, and the most practical attitude means that they will pay attention to the most practical conditions.
So this is a hurdle for men, what can be seen and touched. Of course, objective factors other than conditions cannot be excluded, although conditions account for a large proportion.
Men who are still single after the age of 30 can't escape for four reasons!
1, either the conditions are too good, or the conditions are too poor.
People go to high places, water flows to low places, the more men with excellent conditions in all aspects, the more they expect marriage between strong and strong, this is not reality, but the pursuit of realistic value matching. So they will want to find a better quality lover to complete the partnership in the marriage.
Whether you believe it or not, when you choose a mate with standards or presuppositions, the marriage will become extremely difficult, and even if someone can meet all your presuppositions, they may not look at you.
Also, if your partner is young and beautiful, it must be his potential standard.
In fact, in the marriage and love market, the survival of the fittest has always been the law of existence, can not afford to get married, can not talk about the fact of love, will lead to men more and more inferiority, deliberately escape from reality, and even dare not think about marriage.
At every turn, he self-denys, self-questioning, and protects what little dignity he has left. In addition, in the case of bad conditions, men are more likely to lose the initiative and become the object of selection.
2, their own personality has a big problem.
Never forget that a woman is a sensual animal and it's crucial how she feels about you. If a woman always puts conditions first during her relationship with you, at least it shows that you are not the one who can affect her emotions, what this means is self-evident.
So the condition is not the most important, there is no feeling for you, the condition becomes the most important.
If she is always happy, passionate, and romantic with you, then there will be a great possibility of compromising your terms. Two people together, always have to figure something out of each other.
For example, you are too wooden, dull, introverted, she can't figure out how she wants to feel, she can only picture your appearance, if you can't figure it out again, in the end you can only look at the conditions to weigh the pros and cons.
The so-called men are not bad, women are not loved, this is never a false word. Personality problems, often the biggest problem of men, always can not let go, very restrained, often make the communication between the two people into a very embarrassing silence, and finally there is no drama.
3, afraid to take on that heavy responsibility.
He didn't think it through, wasn't ready to take on the heavy responsibility of marriage, even though he had the will to get married. Therefore, it is often caught in self-contradiction, do not know how to choose, and then lead to each relationship, dragging and dragging will not end, especially when the woman is serious, she will feel trepidation, and there is only one "escape" thought in her mind.
After the age of 30, it is no longer a child, and there is more or less a real understanding of the content of marriage, and I want to take on those trivialities, not simple.
Behind the self-contradiction, it is also that their own will is not clear enough, so they are susceptible to the influence of the people around them, thinking both well and cleverly, but there is no sweet good thing at both ends in this world.
If he has a girlfriend and still delays getting married, then those messy reasons can be ignored, and the real reason is twofold, either he looks down on the woman and feels that the woman is not worthy of himself; or he wants to avoid responsibility and commitment.
4. Childhood has been stimulated by malignantness.
No one around him gave him an example of a normal marriage, which led him to be full of prejudice and prejudice against marriage, so he was afraid that his marriage would also become an endless internal friction between the husband and wife. Always unsure, or not confident in their marriage.
Seeing the reality and cruelty of marriage too early, and then stimulating his young and fragile mind, became a lingering shadow when he grew up.
In particular, the marriage of parents, at a very young age, was frequent hysterical quarrels between parents, ruining their beautiful vision of marriage.
The lack of love and respect in the marriage of parents may take a lifetime to heal. And the more you grow up, the more painful, the more you grow up, the more contradictory, because in the depths of his heart, he obviously has a desire for love, but in real life, he does not dare to love, which also leads to people around him, it is easy to capture the paranoia of his personality.
In fact, in general, men are too honest is the main reason, including not being able to speak, not knowing how to be flexible. Although in front of familiar friends, you can also talk, but as long as you come into contact with the opposite sex, you are immediately flustered, you can't say a word, and your face is red.
In the matter of feelings, men still have to take the initiative, can not always put their hopes on fate, think of what fate arrived, naturally come to fruition.
Try to find an opportunity to show your charm, since you like a person, you are brave to take two more steps towards her, always lack the courage to pursue love, even if the fate comes, it may not be able to grasp it.
If people have problems, then you must also be able to face your own problems, if you feel that your face is too thin, then whether it is too thin or too sensitive inside. Compared with skills, methods, and reasons, perhaps the direction of real efforts is to cultivate inner calmness and composure, and finally to be pragmatic.
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