Some time ago, the term "30 million more men than women" was on the hot search.
In fact, this topic has been discussed for many years.
Under the premise of not counting the elderly, in the pursuit of marriage and childbearing, the number of young people has always been more male than female.
And with the birth of the zero generation, the gender imbalance seems to be gradually increasing.
This year is 2022, and the biggest zero zero is already 22 years old.
Looking at the above picture, from the age of 20, the gender imbalance is still quite serious.
Not long ago there was a hot search:
In Zhoukou, Henan, a 22-year-old girl returned to the village for a day and was arranged for more than 20 blind dates.
As can be seen from the video, young men continue to come to the woman's home.
This small farm yard was full of traffic for a while, and the blind date was like a large interview.
The girl was interviewed and said:
"There are fewer girls my age in the village."
"There were 13 photos in the morning and 7 more in the afternoon, all of which were picked up."
My company's intern her home also happens to be in this city, after reading this news, I feel:
Can this still be in the news?
She said that this phenomenon is very common in her hometown.
Especially around the Spring Festival, young girls who work outside the home have gone home, and they have to take advantage of this time period to concentrate on blind dates.
The boys in the eight villages of ten miles lined up to meet the girl, and only 20 of them were considered inefficient in a day, and some could see more than 30 a day.
In rural areas, once a boy is over 24 years old, his parents will ask a matchmaker for help to introduce him.
Every family is more than a car, and a house, and of course, it is more than a gift, and it is like an auction.
Under the bottomless comparison, the price rises higher and higher, and the woman's parents tell the girls that the best hardware is picked under the same conditions.
Last month, I had a colleague whose dad asked him to take two thousand dollars for the family.
The colleague inquired about what was going on, and Dad sighed and said:
"Now the whole family is saving money for your cousin to marry his daughter-in-law."
The cousin of the colleague is 38 years old this year, usually working outside, the eldest has not been married, and his parents are dying.
This time, the matchmaker found a divorced 35-year-old woman with a baby in the next village.
The woman's conditions are:
Cash 150,000 (of which 100,000 to the mother's family, 50,000 to bring back as a small family start-up fund);
In addition, 20,000 jewelry money and 10,000 mouth change fees are required.
After the cousin's parents listened, they agreed with their mouths, and the colleague's father muttered at first, suggesting that he should not wait any longer and look again.
Always feel that the other party with a baby, the cousin may be more hard, after all, this child is not their own, is there a contradiction.
Cousins and parents hurriedly waved their hands and said: Don't wait, this price is appropriate.
Other girls with better family conditions have more than 300,000 gifts, and they also need a house and a car, and the family really can't stand it.
Implicitly, this woman is the "most cost-effective" daughter-in-law his family can find.
So, the family put together 180,000 to the cousin, and bargained with the other party:
Let the woman bring back 100,000 and leave 50,000 to the mother's family.
The woman later agreed, and the cousins and parents were even happier, thinking that the daughter-in-law here was still very good at communicating.
Originally, the increasingly serious gender imbalance has made it difficult for men to marry their daughters-in-law.
What is more difficult is that at the same time, the willingness of young women in our society to marry is decreasing.
Now why girls don't love to get married, there are two main reasons:
First, disappointment with marriage;
Second, I feel that as a woman, I have suffered losses in marriage.
Let's start with the first one, disappointment in marriage, is actually disappointment with "men".
Most girls have a vision of "wearing a wedding dress as a bride" when they are young, indicating that women still want to get married in the first place.
So why didn't you want to do it later?
One reason is that the current news is too much for girls to fear marriage.
On the hot search, the two ends of the three days are this kind of news:
"Working women who are department managers return to the workplace after giving birth and are marginalized by the company"
"After the opening of 3, women's job search is becoming more and more difficult, and companies are reluctant to bear additional labor costs"
"After marriage, the husband used the joint property to tip the female anchor 300,000 yuan"
……
In addition, there are many cruel, horrific and even inhumane vicious incidents such as domestic violence and wife-stopping.
Collect the hot search news about marriage in recent years, women will have a feeling:
The whole society seems to be carrying out a kind of "hunting" of women, vowing to eat women as a "resource" and wipe them dry, leaving no bones.
However, in the objective context of gender imbalance, the cost of a man marrying a wife is bound to increase.
In this way, the man will also be mentally unbalanced, and a thought will naturally arise:
"You are the wife I married."
Since you are married, you must play your value and do housework to have children and serve me.
Otherwise, what is the point of me spending so much money to marry you? ”
Just imagine, if the husband looks at his wife with such a mood after marriage, then the married life can be imagined.
In such an environment, I would like to ask, as a woman, who wants to get married, who dares to get married.
In the dual context of "gender imbalance" + "women are reluctant to marry", the following "oolong incident" is more meaningful.
In Maoming, Guangdong Province, a wedding is taking place, just in time for the "bride to throw bouquets".
Many people in this link are not unfamiliar with it, both at home and abroad, to the effect that:
Whoever receives the bride's bouquet is the lucky one who will be the next to get married.
The bride threw the flowers backwards vigorously, while shouting cheerfully:
"The person who receives it will get married next year!"
An embarrassing scene appeared:
After the 6 bridesmaids heard this "blessing", they panicked and "scattered the birds and beasts".
A groomsman wanted to pick it up, but he didn't take a slow step.
Beautiful bouquets, alone smashed to the ground...
A netizen replied to the point:
discuss
The post-zero gender imbalance is not optimistic, how many single sticks will be generated in the future?
What do you think of this phenomenon, welcome to share in the comments section.