Wu Min sat paralyzed on the bay window, his body as if hollowed out. Sister Wu You asked Wu Min incomprehensibly, "Do you like that Sun Lei so much?" ”
Wu Min shook his head in denial.
"Don't like it, you turn yourself into a negligent party? I've really served you. Isn't that a suicidal divorce? ”
Wu Min said discouragedly,
"I don't regret it at all, I've been with him for so many years, in exchange for what?" Make chalk of one and cheese of the other. It's not as good as a partner who has known me for months, and he doesn't have even the slightest respect for me. Once the dream is awakened, it is difficult to pretend to sleep anymore. ”
When Wu Min was 20 years old, she was with Lin Qingkun. For the sake of Lin Qingkun, she ignored the opposition of her family and gave up the opportunity to study abroad.
At that time, she firmly believed that she would be able to achieve happiness, but now, she found that she was wrong. Lin Qingkun is cold and desperate by nature.
1. Wu Min wants to use Sun Lei to break with Lin Qingkun
Lin Qingkun found Wu Min buying household items behind his back, and his heart sank. There is no new thing in the house, who exactly bought this furniture for? Putting down the work at hand, Lin Qingkun followed Wu Min all the way to her custody class.
In order to prove his worth, Wu Min opened a custody class without Lin Qingkun.
"How did you get here?"
Wu Min looked confused and didn't know when to start explaining. Lin Qingkun glanced at Sun Lei, who was standing next to Wu Min, and did not speak with a black face.
Lin Qingkun had long been dissatisfied with Sun Lei, because Wu Min had praised Sun Lei more than once in front of him:
Sun Lei taught his son to barbecue, play football, and swim. Anyway, his father did not do it, and people compensated a lot in half a month. He also helped us build a good relationship with the neighbors, and the children were obviously much more cheerful. ”
He even argued with Lin Qingkun for Sun Lei's sake.
"Sun Lei is very sincere and knows how to respect people. People respect everyone, from adults to children, and treat each other with sincerity. He taught two children to write essays titled "My Mom." He can see the merits of every mom, and in your eyes, I'm the nanny; but in the eyes of others, I'm a superman. ”
Thinking of this, Lin Qingkun clenched his fists. Proud, he couldn't accept that Wu Min would skip everything and consult with Sun Lei. It is even more unimaginable that Wu Min might do something out of the ordinary with Sun Lei behind his back.
Wu Min saw that Lin Qingkun was a little angry, so he rushed downstairs to explain. In a hurry, one accidentally fell on the stairs. Lin Qingkun was indifferent, looking coldly at Wu Min, whose thighs were oozing blood on the stairs.
Wu Min miscarried.
Wu Min was very devastated, he did not expect Lin Qingkun to care so much about himself. What made her even more chilling was that Lin Qingkun did not believe that Wu Min did not know about her pregnancy.
"8 weeks pregnant, how could you not know?"
In the ward, before Wu Min got out of the hospital bed, Lin Qingkun reprimanded Wu Min for not protecting the child?
Wu Min cried into tears and did not know how to explain. Lin Qingkun couldn't see Wu Min's collapse and said coldly, "Do you want to wash your face with cold water first?" ”
This sentence stung Wu Min, and at this moment, she could not touch the cold water at all. Wu Min cried silently, and she began to wonder why she would marry such a selfish man.
20 years ago, Lin Qingkun and Wu Min both got the opportunity to study abroad. But Lin Qingkun said that our division of labor is different. I am responsible for working hard to get a quality of life for you; you are responsible for taking care of the children and the family.
So, Wu Min believed.
For the sake of Lin Qingkun's future, Wu Min gave up the opportunity to study abroad and went abroad to take care of Lin Qingkun. But now in exchange, Wu Min has completely lost the right to choose independently.
She turned herself into An "appendage" of Lin Qingkun, completely detaching herself from society and becoming a full-time mother who could only cook and take care of her children. Thinking of this, Wu Min felt a little ridiculous.
Wu Min was particularly emotionally unstable because of her small birth. Seeing that her husband Lin Qingkun and Chen Shan were talking and laughing, she was immediately angry and reached her throat.
This is not the first time Wu Min has seen Lin Qingkun's treatment of Chen Shan and Yan Yuexi, as a wife who has accompanied Lin Qingkun for 20 years, what she faces every day is Lin Qingkun's perfunctory.
Therefore, Wu Min pulled Sun Lei and rushed to Lin Qingkun. And emotionally broke down and said to Lin Qingkun:
"Since we have reached this point today, there is nothing to hide." I just can't wait to see Sun Lei. I know what I'm doing and what I want. Now, I just think that Sun Lei is particularly good, Sun Lei has given me the respect and care I have never had, and in my case, he is different. ”
Lin Qingkun blackened his face and turned to the car. Wu Min saw the situation, craned his neck and added: "If it weren't for Sun Lei, I wouldn't have known the value and meaning of my existence." I wouldn't have known that there were people who could respect and care for their families like my dad did, and who could always put their families first. ”
Wu Min just wanted to provoke Lin Qingkun, because she was so painful. This kind of day of not being valued and disrespected, Wu Min did not want to live a day. In a hurry, Wu Min would think of using Sun Lei to break with Lin Qingkun.
2. The appearance of Sun Lei allows Wu Min to find herself
Sun Lei is a warm-hearted person, belonging to the kind of "uneven road to see the sword to help each other", especially good at being a mediator. When Chen Shan commented on Sun Lei, she said this:
"Sun Lei's shortcomings are as many as the stars, but Sun Lei's advantages are like the sun, as long as it comes out, all the shortcomings are covered." Sun Lei is particularly real and very generous, staying by his side, I don't have to worry about Sun Lei calculating me. ”
Compared with Lin Qingkun, Sun Lei is not shrewd. He would rather sacrifice his own interests than calculate others in order to fulfill his own selfishness. Before Wu Min met Sun Lei, she thought that all her husbands and all fathers, like Lin Qingkun, were busy with their careers and completely handed over their families to their wives.
However, after meeting Sun Lei and seeing Sun Lei's attitude towards his daughter and wife, Wu Min realized that he was wrong. It turned out that not all men were the same as Lin Qingkun; it turned out that Lin Qingkun never called himself and never cared about his own needs, which was abnormal.
Especially with the help of Sun Lei, Wu Min became acquainted with her neighbor Jin Jie. Wu Min is more convinced that women must have their own careers and cannot rely on men, so as to gain the respect of men.
Thinking of this, Wu Min was a little lost. Because 10 years of stay-at-home mom life has completely separated her from society. Except taking care of children and taking care of the family, Wu Min will not do anything. But Sun Lei advised her not to be arrogant and self-effacing, and taking care of her family and children was not an easy task in itself.
So, Wu Min thought of opening a custody class.
Wu Min's idea of opening a custody class did not tell Lin Qingkun. Because she knew that Lin Qingkun would definitely splash her with cold water, and even ordered her not to toss blindly. Therefore, from choosing a storefront to decorating, Wu Min did not look for Lin Qingkun, but troubled Sun Lei to help.
After Lin Qingkun knew, he was very dissatisfied.
Because Lin Qingkun simply could not accept that Wu Min would rely on other men. In order to show his ability, Lin Qingkun silently helped Wu Min to complete all kinds of documents for the custody class.
However, when Lin Qingkun satisfactorily brought these documents to Wu Min, Wu Min went crazy. She hated the feeling of being controlled by Lin Qingkun, which made her feel worthless.
What Wu Min wanted was someone like Sun Lei who could give her advice and consult with her. Not Lin Qingkun, who is not the only person who helps her solve all the problems.
Perhaps, in the eyes of many people, Wu Min is too pretentious.
Isn't the "overbearing president" in the idol drama all the settings to help the heroine solve all the problems? But life is not an idol drama, and once you become dependent on others, you can't grow up. Rely on the mountains to fall, rely on everyone to fall. What if someone loses their dependence in the future?
Moreover, in Wu Min's view, the reason why she does not even have the right to choose a mobile phone is because she relies too much on Lin Qingkun, thus losing her freedom.
3. Playing The spirit of Lin Qingkun makes Wu Min full of despair about human nature
Wu Min was desperate, she didn't know that the man she loved so much was actually a "drama spirit" who was calculating her every day.
Wu Min's son, Lin Jing, was sent to the hospital for gastric lavage because he had a bad stomach at school. In the waiting area, Wu Min sat in a difficult position, dialing Lin Qingkun's phone over and over again, but no one answered. Because of the job transfer, Wu Min was forced to move with Lin Jing to Shanghai, a place where he was not familiar with life.
Seeing his son's uncomfortable appearance, Wu Min, who was emotional, threw all the faults on Lin Qingkun's body. At that moment, she felt helpless. Sun Lei sat in the back row of Wu Min and happened to witness this moment. So, he kindly bought paper and water and handed them to Wu Min.
Before we could say a few words, Chen Shan ran in with a furious spirit. Because Wu Min's son and Sun Lei's daughter attend the same school, the enthusiastic Chen Shan took the initiative to help investigate what the child ate, which would happen.
After the matter came to light, Wu Min did not listen to the advice and insisted on suing the food company. Because Lin Qingkun is working for the food company, Wu Min naively thinks that as long as she yellows the company, Lin Qingkun can go home on time. Later, Wu Min learned that her behavior had long become a joke in Lin Qingkun's eyes.
Chen Shan represented the food company and hoped that Wu Min would sign off to accept compensation. Wu Min originally refused, but when she pushed open the door and saw Lin Qingkun go home early to accompany the child, Wu Min was shaken.
She thought that her method had worked, so she borrowed Sun Lei's mouth and asked Lin Qingkun, "Do you really care about this food company?" ”
Lin Qingkun nodded, and also comforted her: "I understand your emotions, I am afraid that you are not happy, afraid that you are not happy, because I care about you." ”
A few words said Wu Min's heart was warm, and she thought that Lin Qingkun would really change this time. At the table, Lin Qingkun said to Sun Lei, "On the weekend, come to my house for a barbecue!" ”
Wu Min looked at Lin Qingkun in surprise, "On the weekend, are you free?" ”
Lin Qingkun replied affirmatively: "Yes, they all said that they were going to give up their work." Wu Minxin believed it to be true, so he finally signed and accepted the compensation.
Unexpectedly, the next day, Lin Qingkun disappeared. In order to achieve his goal, Lin Qingkun deceived Wu Min. He just wanted Wu Min's signature.
Afterwards, Lin Qingkun also proudly told Chen Shan: "When studying for an MBA abroad, acting classes are compulsory. In Lin Qingkun's eyes, this is the necessary means to be taken in order to achieve a certain goal, and it is not a deception at all.
But for Wu Min, it was a deception.
How ugly is human nature? In order to achieve his own goals, he even deceived his lover. And there is no sense of guilt. At that moment, Wu Min no longer trusted Lin Qingkun, nor was he willing to trust anyone anymore.
Therefore, Wu Min sent the nameless fire to Sun Lei and Jumping's body. Because they are full of despair about human nature, Wu Min believes that Sun Lei and Chen Shan are both "accomplices" of Lin Qingkun, and they are both people who achieve their goals and do not compromise their means.
Because they are deceived by trusted people, they suspect that the whole world has other plans. This kind of "persecution delusion" is actually a heavy shackle for Wu Min.
A writer once said: "Trust is the most important trait shared by two people in a marriage relationship, and it is also indispensable for building a pleasant and growing relationship." ”
Trust is the basis for getting along with each other, especially between husband and wife, once there is no trust, the relationship is over. Lin Qingkun, on the other hand, personally ruined Wu Min's trust in him.
Lin Qingkun's "love" is selfish, he only wants to achieve his own goals, has never understood Wu Min's feelings, and has never considered what Wu Min really wants. In Lin Qingkun's view, everything he does is to create good living conditions for Wu Min and his children, but in fact, he is self-congratulatory on the road of self-touching.
Wu Min has repeatedly stressed that what she wants is respect and companionship. But Lin Qingkun couldn't listen to it at all. In marriage, I am most afraid of encountering arrogant partners, because these people have very hard hearts and very shaft brains, and they only think that what they think is right. Lin Qingkun is such a person.
He believed that it was because of himself that Wu Min and the child could have no worries about food and clothing, but he did not understand what Wu Min really wanted. If he can be like Sun Lei, know how to respect and understand, perhaps his marriage to Wu Min will not embark on the road of divorce.