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In the previous article, I mentioned domestic violence, and someone in the comment area left a message, meaning that women are spoiled now, and there is no kind of man who hits women.
In their view, women's domestic violence after marriage is their own doing, and has nothing to do with their husbands.
Just recently, the video of the executive's husband beating his head has repeatedly rushed to the hot search.
In the video, the man kept beating his wife in front of the child, even if he scared the child and attracted the mother-in-law, the man still had no intention of stopping.
In this way, this woman pushed the child in her hand away and let the child run fast, she was hit by the man from one end of the sofa to the other, and the mother-in-law came, just holding the child next to her, but there was no sense of dissuasion.
But anyone with a little conscience will be angry when they see this video, and some people once dared not watch it, and even pressed the pause button many times.
In the view of all of us, no matter what the reason for the dispute between the husband and wife, the man should not do it, or even in front of the child.
And this man, in addition to being ruthless to his wife, has not fulfilled his responsibility as a father to his children.
This domestic violence makes all women shudder, the wife is a person, she also has parents, why should she suffer such a grievance?
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At the same time that this video was exposed, the suspected wife's long essay was exposed.
When the two get married, the bride price on the woman's side is more than 80,000, but the woman's side takes into account the man's family's poor situation, the bride price is only 60,000, and the dowry is returned to 10,000 when they get married, so that the bride price is only 50,000.
There are no requirements on the woman's side, and everything is from Jane to the wedding.
On the man's side, the house was not renovated, any furniture and appliances were not bought, and even the sheets and quilt covers were not new.
Generally speaking, this kind of woman who is not valued before marriage is difficult to get the attention of the man's family after marriage.
In the TV series "Do you know if it should be green fat red skinny", Minglan's eldest sister is highly married, and her in-laws are not present when giving the bride price, which makes the eldest lady very dissatisfied.
Sure enough, after marriage, Hualan will be harassed by her mother-in-law everywhere, and she will have to make up for it with her own bride price.
The same is true of the woman who was abused in this video.
After they got married, they renovated the house, and the woman's mother's family took out another ten thousand.
Since she is already married, the woman has not said anything more, but after marriage, the bride price has become a daily contradiction between the two people, the man hopes that the wife will return the bride price from the mother's house to buy a car, the wife is unwilling, and the two often quarrel over it.
After the woman became pregnant, she has been taken care of by the mother's family, and most of the time the child is born, the woman's family is taking the child.
In addition, the woman's mother's family will also receive the woman's family every day.
But the man is still dissatisfied with the woman, with the rise of his salary, he looks down on the woman, mentions divorce without a word, and often yells at the two-year-old child, causing the child to be afraid when he sees him.
The man thinks that he is now capable and well paid, and even if he is divorced, he can find a young college student who does not want a bride price.
young? Don't want a bride price? It seems that men like to take advantage.
Perhaps such an object is the way the man shows his ability.
In the eyes of this man, the object of "wife" can be changed with the increase of salary.
But his cognition is limited to this, he thinks that he can have happiness if he changes his wife, but he does not know that the happiness of marriage is not as simple as changing an object?
Li Bihua said a word, don't bring men, men are not happy to make a promise, once he is promoted, waiting for the opportunity to break through, you are dangerous.
A woman can accompany a man to suffer hardships, but in the future, when this man has a successful career and becomes famous, the blessed woman may not be you.
A woman who suffers with you complains without your understanding and understanding, and after complaining, she still can't get your understanding and pity, but instead gets punches and kicks.
Where does the wife's happiness come from living such a life? Such a day of complaining too much will become resentment, and can only choose to be patient for the sake of the child.
However, if you endure for a long time, you will get sick, and even if people are not crazy, the body will not be able to stand it.
The man is beautiful outside, at home is arrogant, outsiders only see his appearance, and the wife is the one who understands his heart best.
From the wife's long text, we see the contradictions between the two sides, the trivialities of the family, and even the inaction of the mother-in-law when the man abuses his wife, and we should know the character of this man.
But in a normal family, couples fight and quarrel, parents should come out to stop it, and even teach their children not to do anything to women, but the inaction of the mother-in-law also makes us have to doubt the education that men have received from childhood.
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Some people may think that I accuse men of mistakes based on women's long texts alone.
But no matter what happens, it is wrong to do it, and domestic violence is even more intolerable to us.
I see a lot of comments on the Internet that are strange, they are more concerned about the bride price that women want than domestic violence.
Some people believe that the woman's mother's family should not ask for the woman's wedding bride price.
Some people believe that the dowry money compensates the hard work of the woman's mother's family to raise her daughter.
There are also people who believe that the woman's domestic violence is the retribution for the woman to pay a high dowry.
Sixty thousand yuan is really not much in my opinion, and the woman's family returns twenty thousand after marriage, plus the usual help to the daughter, which is nothing.
But in this matter, the domestic violence of men to their wives, the bride price is not the root cause.
Then the man is grumpy about the dowry of tens of thousands of dollars, indicating that the pattern of men is not large, coupled with domestic violence against his wife and verbal violence against children on weekdays, indicating that there is a problem with men's character.
In particular, the domestic violence presented in the video can prove that men have personality defects or violent tendencies.
It's dangerous to live with a man who has no sense of responsibility, isn't aware of his mistakes, and vents his emotions on his wife and children.
Coupled with the mother-in-law's indifferent treatment of her son's domestic violence daughter-in-law, it can show that men's family education from childhood is worrying.
The Son does not teach, the parents are at fault.
Let us all those who have become parents begin to reflect on their own education for their children, find mistakes, correct themselves in time, and don't wait for their children to not run a marriage in the future, make big mistakes and then regret it.
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