Author 丨 Cheng Yi
Do you think that being a boy's first girlfriend is the most appropriate?
This is a question asked me by a friend who just broke up.
She was his third term.
A week before preparing for the engagement, they were suddenly broken up.
She asked me:
How many male students will be appointed, and two people will be able to move towards marriage?
I don't think there is a standard answer to this question.
Because no matter how many times it is, what matters is not the order of appearance.
It's his sincerity to you and whether you're really a good fit.
Some people, the first time they fall in love, they cultivate the right results.
First love is lifelong, and once you love, you love for a lifetime.
Recently, Huang Lei, a teacher who has attracted attention again by the hit drama "Xiao MinJia", and he and his wife Sun Li are each other's first love.
In 1995, they met and fell in love with each other, and they have come all the way to this day.
From one person to two people, and now to having children.
Their relationship has been running for more than twenty years.
After years of sharing with each other, the feelings and memories are still fresh.
I remember once, in one of the episodes of "Longing for Life", the program team invited Sun Li to be a guest.
In the past, no matter which guest came, Teacher Huang always worked in the kitchen.
When I learned that the person coming was my wife that day, I waited at the door early in the morning.
The first time he saw her, he gave her a big hug and kissed her closely.
She was picking peppers in the field, and he was working in the kitchen, talking to her while he was busy, looking at her in the air.
During the singing session, the two men kissed in front of everyone.
They are in love for the first time, from acquaintance to marriage, water to water.
From love to staying together, love has been as sweet as ever for decades.
There is also an older sister I know who and her husband are also each other's first love.
They've been dating since junior high school and have been together for sixteen years now.
In those sixteen years, they've been in long-distance relationships, through quarrels and breakups.
But after the division and merger, their love has not diminished.
She was still his favorite, and he was still her only one.
Some people say that in love, only two kinds of luck are needed.
One is to meet, one is to live the rest of your life.
This is probably the most romantic place of love.
The first time you love someone, you love for a lifetime.
Unfortunately, not everyone can meet this kind of luck.
Some people, even if they are the third and fourth terms, still haven't come to the end.
Lovers eventually become dependents, and they always seem extravagant in love.
Many people have stumbled on the road of lovers all their lives.
Possession is only temporary, and loss and regret become the norm.
Like this friend I mentioned above, she has been in several relationships so far.
After every relationship began, she threw herself into it.
Love is serious and persistent, sincere and single-minded.
But after every relationship, she was the one who was abandoned.
Her first love, because she did not get into the same school as her, chose to separate from her.
Her second term, between her ex-girlfriend and her, chose her ex-girlfriend and abandoned her.
The third person, who had just broken up not long ago, suddenly said to her a week before the engagement:
He felt that there was no passion for being with her and did not want to continue.
Maybe the current feelings are too cheap, so that people who pay their hearts are so bad.
Or maybe we all lack a little talent in love.
That's why I fell in love every time, and I was scarred.
No matter how many times it is, it is difficult to love a happy ending.
Some people say that being a boy's first term is the best.
Because when boys are in their first love, they are particularly serious and dedicated.
He can give you both a vigorous liking and a plan to flow with you.
If the first love is married, the result is generally very impressive.
Some people say that being the second and third term of a boy is the coolest.
Because at this time, he experienced the baptism and tempering of his first love.
It has faded its naivety and become more mature and stable.
Whether spiritually or materially, he has the ability to give you happiness.
At this time, marrying him is the best time and good luck given by God.
Others feel that being the last boy is the one who is most likely to go to marriage.
No matter how many times he has been in the past, as long as the person he chooses last is you, you are the biggest winner.
After all, the person he spends the rest of his life with is you, not any other ex.
And at this time, after several losses, he has learned to cherish.
He will know how to better cherish and protect you.
Love is a surprising encounter of time and place.
The order of appearances is important, but it is not the most critical determinant.
Because although some people appear early, they do not spark love.
And some people know each other for a few days and months, and they can see each other and hate each other late.
At the end of the day, and a person can not have later.
The most important thing is to look at your feelings and getting along with each other.
No matter how many times you are, as long as you love each other and love deeply enough, you can get married.
There is no sooner or later in this kind of thing, only whether it is appropriate or not.
Click "Watching" and wish you a speedy and happy person to enter the palace of marriage.
In the name of love, spend the rest of your life together.