Text/Flying Fish
Mr. Yang Dai once said that the moon is a loss, the water is overflowing, some love points can be reached, do not let it overflow.
Love or friendship, people in this life, you should know, in fact, in the coming and going of the world, life is like a guest, why a thousand knots.
Some people appear to teach you a lesson and then leave, and some people appear to compensate you, accompany you for life, and take good care of you.
For people who appear briefly, they are just a passer-by in life, so why should they firmly put their hearts in their hearts and trap their own hearts. Fate comes and goes, we must learn to let go, the so-called old do not go, the new does not come, the person who should leave, indicating that the fate is not enough, will leave you, but as long as we look away, as long as we let go, in order to maintain a normal heart, to meet the fate that really belongs to us.
Dependent arising and extinction, everything follows fate, learn to let go and let go, in order to live less tired.
Many times, the reason why people live so well is not because they have encountered misfortune, but because they think too much, do not know how to know enough, and do not know how to let go.
For many things, I feel that I must get it, what others have, I must also get it, so I will try my best to get it, and even in order to get it, I will start to think badly, and finally I not only hurt others, but also let myself suffer a big loss.
You know, if the heart is simple, the person will live simply, and it is easier to get happiness and happiness.
Life must always learn to be content, content and happy, do not think too much useless, cherish what you have, do not have to compare, do not have to envy others, the world must see through, in order to know that the world is their own, and have nothing to do with others.
Although life is good at its own life, don't care too much about other people's evaluations and ideas about yourself, although life is full of your own heart, you live happily, you don't have to care what others say.
In this life, people are always the cultivation of one person, and as for what others think, it is actually not so important.
You must learn to let go of other people's evaluations of you, cultivate a normal heart, and live your own life.
What is relief? It is the relief of frustration, the indifference in complexity, and the opening of impermanence.
For the past things, do not be grumpy, for those who leave, do not dwell, to live well, for trivial things, we must learn not to calculate, do not blame, do not have to be sad about what you can't get.
All relief is to see through everything, and to unload the trivial things in your heart in time, so that you will not be so tired.
Yang Dai said: "There will be no simple happiness in the world, happiness is always mixed with troubles and worries. ”
In fact, when Mr. Yang Dai studied abroad with Qian Zhongshu before, she could only choose to be an auditor because the tuition fee was too expensive, and when she saw others wearing school uniforms in and out, she felt a little inferior, but later she communicated, she came to study, not compared with others.
So she adjusted her mentality, not to think too much, every day after listening to the class will read more books in the library, so that after graduation, in fact, the books she read, the knowledge gained is also very rich.
Later, after returning to China, because of the sluggish life, in order to maintain her livelihood, she also did a lot of work, or as a family teacher, or to write a script for people, or to go to the contemporary class teacher, anyway, there is money to earn, are willing to do it, willing to put down their posture, and calmly accept the unsatisfactory and difficulties of life.
No matter how depressed their lives are, they always smile, because they always know how to be satisfied, so even if they are very poor, they are also happy.
No matter what difficulties and lows they encounter, they always face them optimistically and live calmly.
As Feng Zikai said: Since there is nowhere to escape, it is better to be happy; since there is no pure land, it is better to meditate; since there is no wish, it is better to be relieved.
In fact, in this life, we will inevitably encounter a lot of ditches and bumps, we must learn to let go, withstand the test of life, always smile to face, one day, will meet the beautiful.
May you learn to let go of your heart throughout your life, and even after all the vicissitudes, your heart is still safe and sound.
Just like Mr. Yang Dai, in her life, ups and downs, sad and happy, whether it is career or family changes, she has always lived a very open-minded life, because she knows how to let go, in the face of career unhappiness and ups and downs, encounter labor reform, encounter troughs, and even lose her husband and daughter, still be able to calmly accept the impermanence of life, full and safely spend her old age.
Life is impermanent, although with a normal heart to treat, with an open mind to tolerate the dangers of the world, because life has no obstacles that cannot be passed, although you learn to let go, out of sadness, out of the predicament, you will find that in fact, you will be stronger than before.
2022, learn to let go, because everything is the best arrangement!
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