Rural wives "upgrade again", the woman requires "2 throws 3 sides and 4 rounds", can you still do it?

Long drought and sweet rain, his hometown meets the old knowledge, the cave house flower candle night, the golden list inscription is the ancient people's description of the four great joys of life. This shows how important the marriage cave house was for the ancients. It is precisely because the mainland attached great importance to marriage in ancient times, so people now attach great importance to marriage.

People think that this is the most important thing in life, but due to the influence of the rotten idea of son preference earlier in the mainland, the current gap between men and women on the mainland is extremely large, and the state has begun to pay attention to the current people's marriage and love problems.

First, it is difficult for young people in rural areas to get married

With the development of the mainland's social economy, people's thinking has also undergone great changes. In particular, the ideological situation of people in rural areas has undergone earth-shaking changes. A study of the latest national census data shows that the number of men on the mainland is 34.9 million higher than that of women, which has led to the fact that many single young men cannot find a suitable partner.

This is even more pronounced in rural areas, where most young people are reluctant to remain in small villages because of their ideological progress. Especially young women in the countryside, this part of the population is more willing to live in the city. This has led to the fact that there are often many single men in the countryside, but single women are very rare, and it is very difficult for rural youth to get married.

And most of the women who enter the city life, only a small number will choose to return to the countryside to marry and have children. At the same time, there is also an unavoidable problem when talking about marriage, that is, the issue of the bride price.

Second, rural wives "re-upgraded"

In the past, the amount of dowry in the countryside was already very high, but with the continuous fermentation in recent years, the wedding dowry in the countryside has been upgraded again, and the cost of marriage has become higher and higher. In 2021, there are already many rural women who require that they must be married with "2 flinging 3 sides and 4 rounds". So what exactly is "2 throw 3 sides 4 rounds"?

The first is 2 flings. 2 dumping is to ask the man to get rid of his parents after marriage. It is not to say that the man is to break off relations with his parents after marriage, but to require the man to be independent after marriage, and the two people have a separate house to live alone.

This is not easy for people living in the countryside, after all, the first marriage custom in the countryside is to live with the man's parents after marriage. But with the change of people's thinking in recent years, more and more young people are demanding to go out independently after marriage and live their own lives for two people.

Of course, this kind of demand seems to be very normal at present, after all, there are not many places in daily life that need to be taken care of by in-laws and mother-in-law. On the contrary, if you live with your in-laws for a long time, you may also have conflicts because of various things, which will affect your feelings. Therefore, the current rural women require the man to "2 dumps" before marriage. So what does 3 sides mean?

In fact, the 1st of the 3 sides has a great connection with the 2nd side. After the "2 dumps", newlyweds need to have their own independent small house to live in, in the countryside will often choose to build a new small house out of their own, and "3 sides" is to require that the location of the house must be on the side of the road.

Because if the house is on the side of the road, it is not only very convenient to pass, but also very convenient to do some small business. The second time requires that the man must be an only child.

The rarity of the only child in the countryside can be compared with the rarity of the female in the countryside. The third side requires that the man's parents must be in good health. After all, after the new daughter-in-law married, she had another parent, and she had an obligation to support her. But today's young people are rarely able to take care of people they don't know very well.

So now in the countryside, when getting married, the woman requires the man's parents to be in good health. 4 wheels, as the name suggests, is 4 wheels, which is also a car. In fact, the requirement to have a car for marriage has long been a common requirement in the city. With the improvement of the rural economy in recent years, more and more people have bought cars, and the bride price has gradually moved closer to the city.

Of course, due to the geographical location of the countryside, it is understandable that the woman wants a car for the convenience of future travel. It can be seen from this that in fact, the marriage requirements of rural women are nothing more than a car and a house, and the health of their parents, which is also the marriage requirement in many cities at present.

Of course, due to the soaring housing prices in recent years, there is still a big gap between the dowry in the countryside and the dowry in the city. At the same time, due to the increasing "rank" of the bride price over the years, many people have begun to complain about why there is a bride price for marriage. So how did our country's bride price system come down?

3. The historical origin of the bride price

The wedding bride price is an old marriage custom preserved in modern times on the mainland, which is paid by the man to the woman, and the law does not clearly stipulate the amount of the bride price. The Zhou Dynasty was the culmination era of the mainland etiquette system, that is, after this, the mainland gradually formed a complete set of marriage etiquette.

As early as the "Rites", the detailed regulation of marriage etiquette was clearly recorded, and the "six rites" marriage system formally established in the Western Zhou Dynasty was also the source of the modern "bride price" in the mainland. Therefore, it can be said that the bride price is a custom system that has existed since ancient times, but with the development of society in recent years, the bride price seems to have begun to change its flavor.

The continuous emergence of news about "sky-high bride price" has also made many people discouraged from marriage. At the same time, due to the increasing gap between men and women in recent years, this has also led to a distortion of the dowry system, and the discussion of the dowry on the Internet remains high. In recent years, the news about the wedding bride price has become more and more negative, and many families will lose their homes because of a marriage.

The bride price in some provinces and cities is even more frighteningly high. Especially people living in the countryside, because it is difficult for men and women to get married, it is also regrettable to catch up with the high bride price. However, most rural people attach great importance to the succession of the family, so even if the bride price is high, they will grit their teeth and stick to it.

4. Summary

This is the current situation of bride price in rural areas, which is why it is currently so difficult for most young men of rural school age to get married. It is difficult to find a suitable partner because of the proportion of the population, and after finding it, you have to worry about the bride price. So what is the bride price in the city where you live? What is the view of the current situation of the bride price in the countryside?