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Some people say that the bride price is becoming a stumbling block on the road to marriage for some people.
In recent years, the bride price has risen and risen, making people prohibitive, and marriage "can't afford to tie the knot".
In fact, not all women are concerned about the bride price, and there is another kind of woman, who is very wise and does not care about the bride price.
Because, in their opinion, there is something more important than the bride price.
More than ten years ago, my cousin's marriage made my great aunt sick.
At that time, the dowry in the countryside had risen to 80,000 or 90,000. The great aunt happened to be a greedy person for money, and her cousin was beautiful, and she always boasted to outsiders: "My daughter does not marry without a dowry of 100,000!" ”
As a result, not long after, the cousin who was working outside brought back a boyfriend, and the two had a strong relationship.
When talking about marriage, he actually said: It doesn't matter if there is no house or car, the wedding bride price does not need to be prepared! But there is one condition.
What conditions?
After marriage, she and her husband's small family are guaranteed complete independence, and both parents cannot participate in and interfere in their lives.
The man's family was overjoyed and agreed! Although the great aunt was so angry that she was sick, she finally twisted her arms around her thighs and agreed.
The reason why her cousin came up with this idea is because she believes that she and her boyfriend can work hard to buy a house and a car, and the independence of the small family is the most important.
Sure enough, after the cousin got married for more than ten years, she not only bought a house and a car, but also started a successful business with her husband, and her life became better and better.
My cousin's in-laws often praised my cousin's daughter-in-law: "You are the lucky star of my family, and you have brought all your blessings into the door!" ”
There are indeed some such women in life, they do not care about the bride price, or even no bride price, but after marriage, they can still live a prosperous life.
In general, there are three kinds of women who will make their lives better and better:
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The first: have a clear understanding of yourself and the future.
This kind of woman often has self-confidence in herself, and has a clear understanding and reasonable plan for her future life.
They firmly believe that as long as they are willing to work hard, they will not live a bad life.
In the novel "Ordinary World", Shao An has been unable to marry his daughter-in-law because of his poor family, and later met Xiulian.
Xiulian did not dislike Shao An, but said to him: "Brother Shao An, your life is short, I will extend it for you." As long as you are willing to marry me, I will willingly go with you, as long as I Xiulian is willing, I am not too poor, no one can say anything, this is again, this poor is afraid of what, this poor and can not take root, in the future I will help your family to live."
Xiulian married Shao'an naked in this way.
Sure enough, after marrying Shao'an, Xiulian devoted herself to living with Shao'an, and the two set up a kiln factory, and the days became more and more prosperous.
Whether the marriage is happy or not is not something that the bride price can decide.
If marriage is compared to two people working together to open a company, then the bride price is only entrepreneurial funds, with this part of the money, can only alleviate the economic pressure in the early stage of entrepreneurship, as for how the company operates in the future, it is entirely dependent on the ability of two people.
Therefore, if there is no bride price for marriage, it is only equivalent to two people starting from scratch, which may be difficult at first, but it may be successful in the future, and the business will be prosperous.
This kind of woman who has a clear understanding of the future is not concerned about the poverty in front of her, but whether she can see hope for the future.
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The second kind: when things happen, they have their own opinions.
Socrates said: Life is a multiple choice question.
When the choices of life appear one by one, the outcome of each person's choice will determine their own destiny and future.
In life, there are many women, timid and afraid of things, once they encounter the problems of life, they suddenly have no idea, do not know how to choose. This kind of woman often has difficulty in running her life well.
There is also a kind of woman, when things always have their own opinions, how to choose, when to choose, they can always make the most wise choice in time.
As a result, they are always getting better and better.
Wang Xiaofei once commented on his wife Big S on social platforms: "I really admire my wife... She was really assertive and lost ten kilograms a month."
When many women complain about the difficulty of losing weight and the hard work of weight loss, Big S can lose ten kilograms in one breath.
This kind of woman always knows clearly what she wants, what kind of results she wants, in order to achieve the goal, so she will make a wise choice in time.
In the matter of marriage, for this kind of woman, the bride price is really dispensable. They see not the choice in front of them, but the hope after marriage.
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The third: not dependent on anyone.
I have seen such a sentence:
A bird standing in a tree is never afraid of a broken branch, because she believes not in the branches, but in its own wings.
Only those who do not depend on anyone, who rely only on themselves, can live a good life.
Women who do not depend on anyone are often independent, brave and decisive, and they know that many things "rely on the mountains will fall, rely on everyone will run", only rely on themselves, is the most practical.
Luo Zijun in the TV series "The First Half of My Life" was originally a mrs. Kuo, who did not have a job, because her husband Chen Junsheng earned enough money to support the whole family.
But later after experiencing marital changes, Luo Zijun finally understood that relying on men was unreliable, and she began to learn to be independent and self-reliant, and eventually changed from an idle housewife to a workplace elite. Make yourself a better life.
There is a saying that no matter how good the co-pilot is, it is not as good as the steering wheel in his hand.
Women who rely on themselves for everything are people who hold the steering wheel themselves, they have their own life direction, and they know how to work towards this goal step by step, so life is always moving forward step by step, getting better and better.
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In short, some women, who originally held a good card, if their own ability is not good, will eventually play the card to the ground; on the contrary, some women initially hold a bad card, and finally rely on their own wisdom and ability, they can still play the king bomb.
For marriage, the rich bride price is only a good card for the time being, and whether it can win in the end depends entirely on the ability of the card holder.
Therefore, for a woman who has the ability, opinion, and wisdom, what she cares about is not the card of the bride price, but more believes in her own card skills, and must be able to laugh to the end.
Just like the story of the little white rabbit and the little gray rabbit that gives us a warning: always expect the cabbage sent by others, sooner or later will sit and eat the mountain sky; only by planting it yourself, there will be dishes that can never be eaten!
In short, the amount of the bride price does not determine whether the marriage is happy or not.
Women have wisdom, ability, and opinion, and establishing a correct view of marriage is an important magic weapon to win future happiness!