The flowers and flowers are unintentional, only the truth exists in the heart
Since ancient times, the dowry and the dowry are relative, and the in-laws, in order to show their family's economic strength, go to the girl's family in advance to pay the dowry, which is the prototype of the original bride price. In order to let the daughter not be wronged after marriage, the mother's family will specially prepare a generous dowry for the daughter who is married, and also say to the in-laws in disguise: You see, my family's economic strength is not worse than your family, after my daughter marries, you must treat her well, otherwise our mother's family is not so easy to provoke. This is also the prototype of the original dowry.
However, with the development of the times, I don't know when the wind of the dowry has become more and more popular, people have continuously increased the price of the dowry and deliberately suppressed the dowry, and many families have chosen to keep their daughter's dowry at home and keep silent about the dowry. And the most frustrating thing is that many married daughters also tacitly accept that the bride price is a subsidy for the future in-laws' families to their mother-in-law's family.
01 Wedding dowry 180,000, but there is no dowry
Near the age of 30, Zhou Tong's marriage events have not yet landed, although the age of 30 is not nothing in the big city, but in Zhou Tong's hometown is already an older unmarried young man, and finally at the urging of the family, Zhou Tong met his girlfriend Yin Yin after the introduction of the matchmaker.
The age of Yin Yin and Zhou Tong is not too different, when the two discuss marriage, Yin Yin's family only asked for a dowry of 180,000, and the garage did not ask for anything. For the conditions of Yin Yin's family, Zhou Tong did not comment, after all, according to the local market, the bride price of 180,000 yuan is also expected by Zhou Tong.
In this way, after discussing the matter of the bride price, Zhou Tong and Yin Yin were married smoothly.
Before getting married, there was a small episode, because Zhou Tong's family situation was not too good, these bride price gifts were also borrowed from relatives and friends, which Yin Yin also knew, so before the two were married, Zhou Tong had asked Yin Yin how her family planned to deal with these bride price.
At that time, Yin Yin's reply was that she did not know how to deal with it, only that her parents would prepare some dowries and other dowries for herself.
At that time, after Zhou Tong heard his wife's words, he still had a glimmer of hope in his heart, he did not ask the hidden family how much dowry would come back, only hoped that these bride price gifts could bring back a part.
However, on the wedding night, when Zhou Tong looked at Yin Yin's dowry box with only three or two pieces of clothing, he fell into contemplation.
I didn't expect so many bride price, and in the end, there was no dowry, and Yin Yin married over empty-handed.
02 When asked why, my wife said: Give my parents a pension
Yin Yin obviously found that her dowry only had three or two pieces of clothing, and she was slightly surprised, because all her dowries before marriage were all prepared by her parents, and at the moment before she got married, these things were also carried by her parents to the car for herself, and she was in a state of unawareness the whole time.
However, one thing is certain, Yin Yin knows in her heart that these dowries are not only a star and a half worse than what her parents promised her, in order to find the reason, Yin Yin decided to go home.
Zhou Tong did not know what his wife said when he returned to his mother-in-law's house, but when he returned home, when Zhou Tong asked about his wife, his wife's reaction was somewhat strong: My dowry is those, about the bride price, is it okay to give my parents a pension?
Zhou Tong did not know what his wife had experienced on a trip home, and since he returned, he was not allowed to mention another word about the bride price, otherwise he would immediately be anxious with Zhou Tong.
When Zhou Tong saw his wife's appearance, he didn't say anything more, and could only do his best to work and improve the family's situation.
But Zhou Tong gradually found that no matter how much he had in his hands, after handing it over to his wife, it was difficult to have a surplus, until one time, Zhou Tong found the record of the capital transactions between his wife and his mother's family to suddenly wake up, it turned out that for so many years, his savings had been subsidized by his wife to his mother's family.
03 The relationship with his wife is like a stranger, like a stranger
After Zhou Tong found out about this matter, he had a big fight with Yin Yin, and it was only at this time that Yin Yin confessed everything to Zhou Tong.
It turned out that all the dowry that Zhou Tong had brought in the past was not for the elderly, but for Yin Yin's brother to marry his daughter-in-law, but the bride price was far from enough, so there was a matter of Yin Yin subsidizing her mother's family behind Zhou Tong's back.
Zhou Tong, who learned the truth of everything, although he was very angry, but with it came a feeling of powerlessness, and he did not expect that the wife he was marrying in the media would actually subsidize her mother's family without regard to the life of the small family after marriage.
Since then, the feelings between Zhou Tong and Yin Yin have plummeted, every day in addition to the necessary communication, the husband and wife do not have any common language, in addition, the income between the husband and wife is also kept by each other, for the usual family expenses, it is also a fair system, and gradually formed the AA system.
Zhou Tong and Yin Yin also know very well in their hearts that the husband and wife have come to this point and have a lot to do with Yin Yin's family, in the final analysis, it is precisely because of what Yin Yin has done for her mother's family that there is such a situation now.
Conclusion: There is no problem with filial piety to parents, but if you simply honor your parents and do not care about the life of your own small family, this kind of behavior is obviously undesirable, and it will affect the feelings of husband and wife at the slightest, and cause the small family to fall apart because of this.
Regarding the bride price, as the woman's parents, they should also think carefully about the problem of her stay, and cannot take advantage of the happiness of her daughter's life because of a momentary mistake.