Schools are originally children's harbors and places for children to learn, but some children are bullied here and are violently attacked by schools, and school violence is found in many schools.
According to the survey, more than half of the 36,000 people who participated in the survey have experienced school violence, and the impact of school violence on children is very large, and some can even affect the life of children.
In an ordinary rural primary school in Guangdong Province, there is a boy named Li Chuangfa, he is very timid, so others often bully him, whether it is class, class or after school, other students in the school will bully him, scold him, throw dirty water on him, throw garbage, throw stones to hit him, on the way home, push him into the stinky ditch, step on his stationery box, throw away his shoes, classmates are still walking in the school rumors, saying that he is a madman, so he does not have a friend.
Every day suffered from bullying, he told the teacher, the teacher scolded him for the evil person to sue first, told the family, the family scolded him, no one helped her, just like this, isolated and helpless he was bullied for five years, one day, an avalanche, 13-year-old he suffered from severe depression and autism, he chose to quit school to go out to work, but unfortunately the world still did not treat him well, the place where he worked, the boss and colleagues bullied him, there was no way he could only go back to his home to eat and wait for death, his life became only dark, There was no longer a glimmer of hope.
In 2014, 15-year-old Chen Sihan had a similar experience.
Serious school violence is enough to ruin a person's life, after watching this incident, I can't help but wonder what kind of family the children who are often bullied come from, what parents should do to help the children, a homeroom teacher friend told me the answer, children who are often bullied at school, usually from these three kinds of families.
First, parents always look for reasons from their babies
Some children will tell their parents after being isolated and bullied, eager to get help and comfort from their parents, and some parents will reprimand their children: are you doing something wrong, otherwise why they don't like you, it must be your own problem, flies don't bite seamless eggs, aren't you just beaten twice, no big deal.
Children are very aggrieved after being bullied, they need the comfort and help of their parents, not to reprimand, over time, they are not willing to tell their parents about their being bullied, they have been holding back themselves, enduring the bullying of others, being bullied by others in school.
Second, the child is bullied, and the parents always say that it does not matter
Little mango and little tomato are in kindergarten, little tomato very much like the head rope of the little mango, directly pull down the head rope of the little mango, the little mango is very painful, he pushed the little tomato, the little tomato head hit the wall.
The teacher found both parents, the wrong party of the matter was originally a small tomato, but the small tomato was pushed by the small mango, the inspection fee The little mango mother did not want to give the little tomato mother, said anything, when nothing happened, and did not find justice for her children.
The child is bullied, the mother does not seek justice for the child, the child may not tell the mother these things in the future, they know that it is useless to tell the mother, so they will become the target of bullying.
Third, parents ignore their children's requests for help
Many children are bullied, will turn to their parents, some parents do not take the child's help as a thing, in their view, the child's achievements are the most important, they will tell the child: you do a good job of yourself is enough, ignore the child's help, over time, the child becomes sensitive, other children still bully him, their psychology may have problems, depression and other symptoms.
Children are bullied is inevitable, school is a small society for children, it is inevitable that there will be friction, so how should parents help their children solve these problems, so that children are not bullied?
Parents should tell their children how to deal with bullying by others, what to do when they are ridiculed by others, what to do when they are rumored, let their children learn to say "no", reject the bully, and let the bully know that the child is not good.
We do not let their children bully others, their children can not be bullied, parents should pay attention to, through their own strength to give children a good reading environment.