Zhuang Di Xiaomeng / Seeing the essence through the story
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"Three no women" are disliked, even if they are young and beautiful, they can only marry ordinary men, which is the real situation of the current marriage and love market.
Society has been developing, people's thinking has been changing, and the idea that women want to change their fate by marriage has not worked, because the vast majority of men are not willing to buy it.
I once knew a girl, she was 1 meter 66 tall, fair skin, exquisite facial features, is a beautiful woman in the eyes of the public.
I think there must be no shortage of suitors behind her, but she was single until she was 28.
During a small talk, she said the following:
"I came out to work when I was 18 years old, and there have been a lot of suitors behind me for 10 years, but they are ordinary men with bad conditions. I was so beautiful that I naturally wanted to marry with good conditions, but in the end I found that men with good conditions would not choose me at all, even if I was more beautiful than many women. ”
She went on a blind date, but when the man heard about her conditions, he didn't even want to see her.
The girl graduated from junior high school, lived with her parents at home for a few years, and then went out to work, she came from a small place and wandered alone in the city.
In her own words, she had nothing but youthful beauty.
Beautiful girls do not worry about marriage, nor lack of suitors, but they just can't find men with good conditions.
That's where she's most confused.
However, this is the reality, three no women want to marry well, it is really an extremely difficult thing.
What is a Three-No-Woman?
The three-no-woman does not refer to a woman with ordinary conditions, but to a woman who is at the bottom of all conditions.
One has no academic qualifications.
The education is lower than the college level, and some have even only attended junior high school or high school.
Two no careers.
There is no decent job and no income to come up with.
Working in unstable places, he can only barely support himself with a salary of three or four thousand yuan a month.
Three no material conditions.
There are two sources of material conditions, the first is family background and the second is self-reliance.
Three no women are neither, neither good family nor good income, and there is no house, no car and no deposit under the name.
The so-called three no-women actually refers to women who have nothing from the inside out, who have neither culture nor material conditions.
Such a woman is actually a drag for men.
Men's refusal to marry three women stems from many considerations
Men tend to become very realistic when they get married, and this reality is actually very necessary, after all, marriage is a lifelong thing.
01 Education level affects the education of the next generation
The impact of a mother's cultural level on the next generation is profound, and I believe most people know this very well.
Mothers with better genes can naturally give birth to better children, not to mention that mothers will have a better advantage in educating their children.
A woman without culture, whether it is the ideological realm or the vision, is harmful to the child and useless.
Such a woman, a slightly conditional man is naturally reluctant to marry home.
02 Marriage is a matter of two families
Marriage is not a matter of two people, but a matter of two families, so the woman's family situation is actually very important.
There should be no man under the sky who is willing to raise the woman's family, in order to avoid such a thing, men are more inclined to the other half of the door.
03 Poverty alleviation marriage will drag down three generations
A man with good conditions marries a woman with nothing, this kind of marriage is called a pro-poor marriage, and such a result will drag down three generations.
Not only will children's living standards plummet, but even parents will suffer.
Therefore, out of many considerations, men will avoid three women, after all, marriage is not a child's play.
In the blind date market, hardware conditions are king
Everyone goes to the blind date market to see, you will understand that this girl's experience is very normal.
"Men look at appearance, women look at money", this is just talk on the Internet, the real life is the opposite.
Once you talk about marriage, you will find that men are not only very rational, but also know how to weigh the pros and cons.
In the face of marriage, everyone is realistic, but some people are willing to show their reality, while some people like to hide it in their hearts.
When dating, the man's first concern is the woman's work, income, family situation, education, if the woman's hardware conditions do not meet his requirements, he will not even meet.
This is a very common phenomenon, and men's thinking is understandable.
Usually, the working people in the system want to find the half that matches their jobs, and they will not marry the migrant girls because they feel that the other party's job is unstable and the welfare benefits are too poor.
If it is a man with a high degree, they will also be more inclined to a woman whose education is not far from their own, rather than looking for a person with a low degree.
These are all naked examples of the blind date market.
Falling in love has nothing to do with conditions, but when it comes to marriage, conditions are the most important part.
Girls with bad conditions, even if they are beautiful, it is difficult to find a good partner.
How should the "three no women" treat themselves?
01 Find the other half of the conditions equal
Three-no-one women can also have a happy and happy marriage, the key is to change their mentality.
If you are an ordinary person, find an ordinary person to marry, don't think about high climbing, don't have too many illusions about marriage, psychological balance, naturally happy.
Most people in this world are ordinary people, and ordinary people can live happily ever after for a lifetime, as long as you find someone who is willing to treat you sincerely.
Rich or poor, you can be happy all your lives.
If you are obviously ordinary, but you want to change your fate through marriage, and always want to find a man with good conditions, then all the unhappiness is caused by yourself.
02 Get rid of the title of Three No Woman
People's fate is in their own hands, if you don't want to live such a life, then try to change yourself.
Maybe you have nothing now, but after trying to improve yourself, you can also become a better woman.
It's just that this road is far more difficult than you think, not to mention that after years of hard work, you may not be able to succeed.
Therefore, the best choice for women with three noes is actually to start a family first, work hard to improve themselves before marriage, and work hard with their husbands after marriage.
Ordinary is not terrible, what is terrible is that the strength is not enough and not willing to be ordinary.
Original author of the Zhuang Di Xiaomeng/Emotional Column
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