The child was told of death on the 3rd day after birth, and 17 years later, it was found that she was deceived and sent out by the most trusted relatives, as a biological mother, in addition to losing the opportunity to accompany the child to grow and witness the child's changes, the countless inner torments, thoughts and pains can only be experienced by herself.
First, the unblessed marriage
In 1992, after graduating from the Northeast Health School, Zhang Caihong successfully returned to his hometown of Pei County, Jiangsu Province, and had a good job - a nurse at the local people's hospital. She was 25 years old, the age of longing for love and marriage, and it happened that she met Wang Jun, who was working as a repairman at the bus station. The two soon developed a crush on each other after they met, and then developed a romantic relationship.
At that time, Zhang Caihong's parents strongly opposed the relationship between the two, because from the perspective of external conditions, the two were very different, in addition to work, the family economic conditions and atmosphere of the two people who lived from childhood were very different. Zhang Caihong's family is relatively rich, while Wang Jun's family economy has always been relatively poor, coupled with the fact that Wang Jun's parents are more stubborn, Zhang Caihong's parents are worried that their daughter will be wronged in the future and resolutely disagree.
But "the female eldest is not left behind", the young Zhang Caihong could not listen to the opinions of her parents at all, and wanted to be with Wang Jun, and planned to get married, and finally her parents could not help but agree.
At first, the two of them lived their own two-person world, which was indeed very sweet. Soon, Zhang Caihong became pregnant, which was a happy thing, but I didn't expect unpleasant things since then, one after another...
Second, the daughter who was forced to be exiled
Since Zhang Caihong became pregnant, although her mother-in-law was happy, she constantly urged her to check the sex of the fetus, and the words revealed the idea of son preference.
Although Zhang Caihong knows that her mother-in-law wants a boy's wishes, but the child is in her own belly, she thinks that as a mother, she can protect her child, and this child is the first child of the Wang family, even if a girl's mother-in-law does not like it, she will not do anything out of the ordinary, right?
Zhang Caihong thought so simply, did not think too much, but also because he happened to work in the hospital, it was very convenient to take a B ultrasound, he entrusted his colleagues to help himself look at it, coincidentally, it was indeed a girl!
Zhang Caihong went home and told her husband the news, and her husband's response was that "boys and girls can do it", and Zhang Caihong was much relieved. Then she carefully told her mother-in-law, but she did not expect that her mother-in-law's reaction was extremely excited and indifferent, "How can it be a female doll?" What's the use of baby girls! "Go knock it off and get pregnant with another one!" This was followed by furniture smashing and loud insults. Zhang Caihong was shocked, she did not expect her mother-in-law's reaction to be so big and decisive.
In the evening, Zhang Caihong discussed this matter with her husband in grievance, and did not expect a sentence blurted out by her husband, which surprised him even more: "Otherwise you will listen to your mother's words and beat it up, anyway, we are still young." Zhang Caihong was immediately extremely disappointed with the husband in front of him, and even felt that the husband in front of him did not seem to look like the man he knew before.
Zhang Caihong of course wants to protect her children, and she insists on not making compromises. But what I didn't expect was that in the following days, the mother-in-law actually treated her coldly and violently, ignoring her, just like treating strangers. The husband also because of his mother, began to be a lot of estrangement and complaints about Zhang Caihong, helpless, Zhang Caihong chose to sacrifice the daughter in his belly for the sake of the harmony of the whole family.
Not long after, Zhang Caihong had a miscarriage.
When the mother's family knew the reason why the daughter had had an abortion, she was even more angry, and while she was distressed about her daughter, she looked down on and despised the son-in-law and the son-in-law's family even more.
3. Joyfully give birth to a son
After the forced abortion, although Zhang Caihong was very sad and sad, her life still had to go on. At the end of the same year, she became pregnant again, and this time her mother-in-law repeatedly urged her to check the sex of the fetus, but she resolutely refused.
But the mother-in-law was nagging in her ear all day, and Zhang Caihong really felt upset and unbearable, also for the sake of the fetus in her abdomen, so she hid in her mother's house to give birth. Finally, the child was born at full term, that is, in June 1993, Zhang Caihong was full of joy and hope, but she did not expect that because of the matter of giving birth, the mother's family and the in-laws began a contradiction again.
In this way, Zhang Caihong stayed very unhappy in her mother's house and in-laws' house, and she wanted to go back to her husband to have a child, but she didn't think about it but was directly blocked by her father-in-law, "Rainbow, Xiaojun is still angry, or you don't come back first." Zhang Caihong was aggrieved and angry, and in a fit of rage, her mother-in-law's family and in-laws' family did not stay, and she ran to the family of her cousin Wei Chenghe, who grew up with her when she was a child and felt like a brother and sister.
Fortunately, cousin Wei Chenghe and cousin Zhang Aering warmly and carefully accepted and cared for her, and soon after Zhang Caihong gave birth to a baby boy in the health center near her cousin's home. When Zhang Caihong learned that she had given birth to a boy, she finally fell into her stomach, although she was not a son-preference person, but considering the reaction of the entire in-laws' family, she speculated that the boy might be able to bring some harmonious and joyful atmosphere to the family.
However, on the third day after the child was born, the cousin suddenly shouted when changing the child's diaper: "Hey, Rainbow, how can your child's legs not be straight, like a disability!" Zhang Caihong, who was lying on the bed, was very weak at that time, and because of the birth of a child, the contradictions between the mother-in-law's in-laws were a mess, and the mood was very low.
Hearing my cousin say this, I immediately became alarmed and worried, is it that I often assist the doctor to do surgery under X-rays during pregnancy, which has affected the child? The cousin immediately suggested that the child be taken to the hospital for examination, and Zhang Caihong nodded in agreement without much thought.
Three days after his birth, his son was told of his death
But what she didn't expect was that this nod brought her endless darkness and pain from then on. Because a few hours later, the cousin and cousin came back, but the child did not come back...
The cousin cried and said to Zhang Caihong: "Child, really disabled, congenital, can't be saved, thrown away!" Zhang Caihong heard it like a thunderbolt on a sunny day, her hard-working child in October was thrown away, the weather outside was so cold, the child was so small, even if there was a disability, how could she bear it, she cried and begged her cousin and cousin to get the child back. So his cousin Wei Chenghe went out to "find", but the news brought back made Zhang Caihong even more heartbroken - the child was frozen to death!
Zhang Caihong was instantly paralyzed, her expression was dim, she cried out in sorrow, crying for the poor child, crying for her own suffering. But now that it's over, what can she do?
After her body recovered better, she thought about it and decided to leave this sad place and go to the northeast alone.
This walk is two years. For two years, she did not contact any family members or husbands. Her husband, Wang Jun, inquired about her when she had just gone to the northeast, but finally heard that she had gone after a caesarean section, and was disheartened, and in the year she left, she sued the court for divorce, and later re-established a new family.
After two years of wandering outside, Zhang Caihong returned to her hometown of Pei County, returned to work in the original People's Hospital, formed a new family, and gave birth to a son. She lives a peaceful and happy life with her son and current husband, and more than ten years have passed...
Fifth, unexpected and difficult to find a way
But one afternoon in January 2010, a small talk in the corner of the hospital shattered the calm of her life.
"The nurse of the People's Hospital, who was from the bus station, said that the child born before was dead, where it died, it was still alive!" These few words "clucked" a little bit to Zhang Caihong's heart, the nurse of the People's Hospital, the object is the bus station, the child died, is this not himself?
But in addition to the sting, what shocked her even more was the last sentence" "Still alive!" "Is your own child still alive?" She looked back and wanted to ask what was going on, but the two people were long gone.
Zhang Haihong began to sit still, she wanted to find a child, she began to doubt the behavior of her cousin and cousin who she regarded as a relative, she wanted to know the truth, but she was vaguely worried, worried about destroying the current family, afraid of her current husband divorcing her. But unfortunately, after experiencing the endless suffering before, her husband now meets a good person, and her husband understands her mood very well, and supports her ideas and behaviors of finding children.
First of all, Zhang Haihong couldn't wait to go to the cousin's cousin's house that had not been in contact for nearly twenty years to inquire, and the cousin and cousin all denied it, and the cousin said categorically: "At that time, I buried it with my own hands, how can you listen to such empty things?" ”
After seeing the resolute attitude of her cousin and sister-in-law and husband and wife, and unable to ask anything, Zhang Caihong helplessly began to publish information about the child on the "Baby Homecoming" and other search websites.
Finally, in September 2010, with the help of well-wishers, Zhang Caihong was surprised to find on the Internet that Liu Chang, a child adopted by Liu Guangyu, a villager in Zhangzhai Town, Pei County, not only looked similar to her ex-husband Wang Jun, but also unusually matched the birth information. Zhang Caihong is intuitively very sure that the boy in the photo in front of him is his son who was "told of death" 17 years ago!
Family photo of Rainbow child and adoptive parents (first from the right is a photo of Rainbow child)
6. 300,000 anti-prosecutions
Zhang Caihong immediately came to Liu Chang's middle school and told the child roughly about the reason, and without greeting his adoptive father Liu Guangyu, he took Liu Chang to do a paternity test.
As soon as the paternity test results came out, it was as Zhang Caihong expected, and the two were indeed biological mother-child relations. Zhang Caihong was overjoyed, and her lost son made her cry with joy.
Kind, she did not want to take away the child, because she understood the hard work of raising children, and she hoped that her son could walk around her own home and the adoptive parents' house, so that it would be good for everyone.
But the next time she went to school to see her son, she found that his son was gone — she had transferred. After inquiring from many sources, it turned out that the adoptive parents took Liu Chang to Hangzhou to study. Apparently, the adoptive parents' family is to avoid Zhang Caihong.
The next battle for the son was officially launched.
Zhang Caihong began to tell Liu Chang in various ways what had happened, about her being deceived by her relatives, about how she thought her child was dead, about her experience over the years... Slowly Liu Chang's heart began to lean towards his biological mother, he thought that his adoptive parents were "stealing" himself, if it were not for his adoptive parents "stealing" himself, he would have lived better than he is now. As a result, Liu Chang was picked up from school by Zhang Caihong and began to alienate his adoptive parents and refused to contact them.
The adoptive parents were extremely cold, and their son, who had been raised for nearly 20 years, said that he would leave, and in anger and grievance, on September 25, 2013, a complaint was sent to Zhang Caihong's home - Liu Guangyu sued Zhang Caihong and Liu Chang's mother and son, demanding that the adoption relationship with Liu Chang be terminated and that 300,000 yuan of maintenance be charged.
Zhang Caihong
Zhang Caihong saw that the court summons that was sued said that he was asked to compensate 300,000 yuan for childcare, and he was even more angry, thinking that his child had been secretly raised by the other party for 17 years, and he had been stupidly kept in the dark. So she began to prepare, then go to the court to see!
Who knows, just when Zhang Caihong inquired about various evidences, he accidentally found that Liu Guangyu's wife was actually the sister of his cousin Zhang Qianling, and many years ago he had heard his cousin say that her sister had no fertility, so this series of things were linked, Zhang Caihong was more convinced that it was his cousin, cousin and Liu Guangyu who colluded well, and had already made plans for the child in his belly.
The court held the trial as scheduled, and the key figures in the incident, cousin Wei Chenghe, and cousin Zhang Qiling appeared in court, and their statement was that after Zhang Caihong gave birth to the child, Zhang Caihong's parents, sisters and sisters all gathered in their own homes, because they did not want to see their son-in-law Wang Jun and Wang Jun's family, calling the child a "wild species", and Wei Chenghe must arrange to give this child away. Wei Chenghe didn't know what to do with it for a while, so he gave it to his wife's sister's house.
And at the trial, I don't know if it was because the incident happened for too long, or if there were other concerns, cousin Zhang Aering said that she did not tell her sister where the child came from; but Liu Guangyu's wife said that she was told where the child came from...
Liu Guangyu's wife is also the sister of cousin Zhang Qiling
Because there are differences in many details, and there is no more evidence, and this case has exceeded the 10-year filing period of the child abduction case, and finally Liu Guangyu agreed to mediate, and the 300,000 child support fees requested were angry words, can not be compensated, the case has been Zhang Rainbow, hoping to hear the explanations and apologies of the cousins, cousins, Liu Guangyu and his wife who participated in the process of their children's being sent out, and the child has his own choice, which family to live with, and ended.
As for whether Zhang Caihong heard the explanation and apology she hoped to give, we don't know, but her son Liu Chang must have the right to choose his own family.
Because, obviously feeling that Zhang Caihong's power that later learned that "the child is still alive" suddenly came out, it is no longer the state of facing her ex-husband and former mother-in-law before, I believe that from now on, she will not hesitate to fight for herself and for the rights and interests that her children should have!
Maybe this is the power of the mother, the child is the hope of the mother, and with hope there is nothing to be afraid of!