In 2013, a mother accidentally found her 20-year-old son, and happiness was soon shattered. The son's adoptive parents were not willing to let people and money be empty, and in a fit of anger, they sued her and her son in court, and the Pei County People's Court in Xuzhou City, Jiangsu Province, formally accepted the case.
The adoptive parents count the child's expenses in the past two decades: eating, dressing, going to school, etc., raising him as if he were his own son, and the child's birth mother cannot say that she will take it away, hoping to pay 300,000 yuan in maintenance.
A child's adoptive parents from childhood to adulthood ask for 300,000 yuan in maintenance, which is simply a lion's mouth. Who can understand the bitterness in the heart of the birth mother? Flesh and bones separated for 20 years, in which who can understand the pain? The birth mother was very angry and said, "My child wants you to raise?" In this case, the abducted person called it "the first case in China in which a buyer sued the parents of an abducted child."
What's going on here? How did the child get lost? What's going on here?
The beginning of the tragedy of an unhappy marriage
Love is simpler and purer than marriage, it is a matter of two people, and marriage involves two families. A woman's choice to marry a man means accepting his family, and if a woman doesn't get along well with her family, that's the beginning of a war.
Zhang Caihong is like this, when he was young, he fell in love with Li Dejun, and the love during the love period was very beautiful, such as glue like paint, after marriage, Zhang Caihong and Li Dejun's family had different concepts, which became the unfortunate beginning of this marriage.
Zhang Caihong is a native of Pei County, Xuzhou City, Jiangsu Province, born in 1967, and her family conditions are not bad. At that time, there was no compulsory education, and most children did not have the opportunity to study and did farm work at home early. Zhang Caihong completed the health school in the northeast with the support of her family.
Zhang Caihong graduated at the age of 25, was assigned to the people's hospital in his hometown as a nurse by school, and met Li Dejun by chance, and the two fell in love at first sight and soon fell in love. But Li Dejun is a repairman at the bus station and his family is relatively poor. Zhang Caihong, who fell in love for the first time, did not care about these things, and only had love for Li Dejun in his heart.
The two are free to love, very affectionate. They also reached the age when they should get married, and Li Dejun visited Zhang Caihong's parents with fish and tobacco and alcohol in his hand. After some conversation, Zhang Caihong's parents learned about Li Dejun's own situation and his family, and did not look at him at all, Li Dejun's family was poor, not to mention, he was still just a repairman with no culture, and he was not worthy of his daughter at all.
Zhang Caihong's parents have many dissatisfaction with Li Dejun and his family, but their daughter-in-law insists on marrying him and is dead set on him. Zhang Caihong said to her parents: "Isn't it true that people live in the world to be happy and happy?" Money is not brought by life, and it is not necessary to see it so important when it is dead, and it is true that it is plain and plain. ”
Zhang Caihong's parents advised their daughter: "A happy life is to be built on the basis of material life, money is on the one hand, and concepts are also on the other hand." You are my daughter, born in the Zhang family, we love you and are willing to spend money to study for you. If your daughter was born into the Li family, with their financial situation and ideological concepts, you don't think about it. ”
Zhang Caihong didn't believe that what her parents said was true because she had never experienced it. Zhang Caihong had a big fight with her parents, and her parents were so angry that they could not speak. At Zhang Caihong's insistence, Zhang Caihong's parents were not good at saying anything, and could only persuade her to be cautious and say in a serious tone that she would not cry and return to her mother's house in the future.
Zhang Caihong fell out with his family for this relationship, and Li Dejun looked at it and was very moved. The two are in a period of hot love, and Li Dejun takes Zhang Caihong home. Unexpectedly, Li Dejun's mother did not like Zhang Caihong, saying that she was covered with fine skin and tender flesh, and at first glance she was not a worker, but a "lady" raised at home.
Li Dejun has been saying good things about Zhang Caihong, saying that the family is a graduate of the Health School, and now he is a nurse in the People's Hospital, and it will be more convenient to take care of the second elder in the future. Li Dejun's mother said that this kind of lady who had read the book was very pretentious, and her ten fingers did not touch the spring water of the sun, and she was worried that their family would not be able to provide it.
Li Dejun and Zhang Caihong got along for a while, Zhang Caihong not only has knowledge, good work, and people are also very diligent. So Li Dejun comforted his mother and said: "I have been with her for a while, and people will bring me food when they have time, and the food she cooks is delicious." You don't have to worry, the rainbow is definitely not what you say. ”
Li Dejun's mother saw that her son had an iron heart to marry Zhang Caihong, and it was not easy to say anything, so she could only agree to this marriage, thinking that she could still hold her grandson as soon as possible, and their family could not suffer losses. The two families of Li Dejun and Zhang Caihong had a very unpleasant quarrel in the process of discussing the marriage. Zhang Caihong's family considered that Li Dejun's family did not have much money, and it was already less than it could be, while Li Dejun's family had to make inches.
The two parents are like gasoline and flames, bursting at the touch, and neither side wants to back down. Zhang Caihong's parents originally wanted to pay for subsidies, but seeing Li Dejun's mother's dime,000 looks, she didn't fight a lot, and she didn't pay more money.
Zhang Caihong's mind was simple, and he did not care about these superficial rituals. After Zhang Caihong married Li Dejun, she lived with a large family of them. After Zhang Caihong got off work, her mother-in-law often took her to do housework, how to cook rice on fire, how to stir-fry vegetables to save the most fuel... Zhang Caihong and Li Dejun were married not long ago, and Li Dejun would always follow his wife after work and try to help her do some housework.
Not long after, Zhang Caihong found that her body was not right, and after an examination, she found that she was pregnant. This can spoil the mother-in-law's happiness, this is a great joy for their family, Zhang Caihong's family is also very happy after knowing, and the two families rarely have a meal together.
The in-laws are usually willing to kill chickens in the New Year, and now in three days, the chicken stew soup is brought to Zhang Caihong's hands, which makes Zhang Caihong very moved. In the fourth month of Zhang Caihong's pregnancy, her mother-in-law took care of almost all the housework at home, and she was also treated as a pro-girlfriend.
Zhang Caihong had some changes in her mother-in-law, and her mother-in-law said casually: "Rainbow, you go to the hospital to see it, right?" Zhang Caihong asked, "What do you see?" I'm in good health right now! The mother-in-law laughed: "My old man is dreaming about whether you are a grandson in your belly, and you go to the hospital to see if the child is male or female." ”
Zhang Caihong was also a little curious in her heart, and she did not find that her mother-in-law had other meanings. Zhang Caihong came to the hospital, and with the help of colleagues, checked it out and found that it was a girl, and she was already thinking about what name to take on the way back.
After the mother-in-law knew that it was a female fetus, she locked her eyebrows and even said several dirty words: "The female doll is losing money, it is useless!" The mother-in-law explicitly let Zhang Caihong knock it off. Zhang Caihong was very surprised, wasn't the girl also her granddaughter? Zhang Caihong did not listen to her mother-in-law's words, and her mother-in-law grabbed Li Dejun and scolded her, what are the conditions in the family, and raise a female doll, what is the use?
Zhang Caihong originally wanted to talk to her husband about her grievances, but this time Li Dejun stood on the side of her mother-in-law and in turn advised her wife: "We are all still young, and we will have our own children in the future." The conditions of our family, you know, we have nothing to suffer, we can't ask our children to suffer with us! ”
Zhang Caihong, persuaded by her husband, gave up the first child. After Zhang Caihong's parents knew, they were very angry, and the husband and wife said: "The first child cannot be beaten, and I will not be able to get pregnant in the future." Say no, don't, don't discuss it with us! ”
Zhang Caihong was pregnant again, and her mother-in-law, as before, was very happy and took good care of her after learning that Zhang Caihong was pregnant. When it came to the month when the child's gender could be checked, the mother-in-law kept urging Zhang Caihong to go to the hospital for identification. Zhang Caihong was very guilty after the first child was beaten, and this time she said that she would not listen to her mother-in-law.
The husband did not protect Zhang Caihong everywhere as he did at the beginning, and the mother-in-law spoke coldly all day, thinking that Zhang Caihong had secretly made an appraisal and found that it was a female fetus who refused to tell them. Zhang Caihong finally couldn't stand her mother-in-law's suspicions, and she was very disappointed in her husband and came to her mother's house alone. After the mother's family knew the situation, they went to the door to argue with the in-laws, and the contradiction intensified.
In June 1993, Zhang Caihong's fetus showed signs of premature birth. The mother's family counted the in-laws everywhere, complaining about why the daughter insisted on marrying such a family in the first place. Zhang Caihong could not stay in her mother's house, and her in-laws could not return, and her father-in-law even said: "The German army is angry, saying that when you come back, they will beat you, and you should not go home for the time being." ”
In desperation, Zhang Caihong thought of his cousin Wei Chenghe, who had a relatively good relationship, and planned to live in his house for a while. Zhang Caihong and Wei Chenghe grew up together, after Zhang Caihong came, her cousin and cousin were very good to her, there was no shortage of three meals, and everything would follow her, so that she could raise a baby with peace of mind.
This made Zhang Caihong very moved, and she also trusted her cousin and cousin. On July 12, Zhang Caihong gave birth smoothly, is a boy, and the hanging heart is finally put down. Zhang Caihong did not have the idea of preferring sons to daughters, but just thought that after the male baby returned, the mother-in-law should not say anything.
Zhang Caihong stayed in the hospital for three days and originally planned to go to her cousin's house to confinement. The cousin ran over to her in a panic and told her, "Rainbow, your child has a problem and a leg disability." "This is like a thunderbolt on a sunny day for Zhang Caihong, she once went to a place where there was an X-ray when she was pregnant, shouldn't it have affected the fetus that time?"
Zhang Caihong's tears flowed down, very remorseful, and he quickly asked his cousin where the child was and wanted to see the child. The cousin said, "Your mother said this child would drag you down and has thrown it away." This child his father does not want, how do you live after taking a disabled child. It wasn't my decision alone, and so did your parents. To the Li family, they refused to ask for it, and they could only throw it in the trash. ”
Zhang Caihong returned to his cousin's house, in the end he still sent people to the fence, and some words were not easy to say in person. Zhang Caihong cried and begged her cousin and cousin to find the child back, and the cousin did not say anything more when she saw the situation, but pulled her cousin out to find the child. A few days later, the cousin did not bring the child back, but said to Zhang Caihong: "The child is not taken care of outside, and may have lost his breath." ”
Zhang Caihong felt broken and cried bitterly. After sitting in the confinement, I came to my in-laws' house to know that after she left, her mother's family came to her in-laws' house to quarrel, and the two sides moved their hands and were already deadlocked. The husband even filed for divorce in court during the time she was away, leaving the relationship.
Li Dejun is like a person who has nothing to do, but Zhang Caihong has lost two children, and the pain makes her completely see her husband's ruthlessness. Zhang Caihong has a home and can't go back, and the child he desperately protects is gone. Zhang Caihong was heartbroken and cut off contact with her cousin's family.
After a long time, the pain in Zhang Caihong's heart slowly dissipated. Li Dejun reorganized his family in his hometown and gave birth to a big fat boy. In 1997, Zhang Caihong met her second husband, and this time Zhang Caihong's parents were very satisfied, and the two married.
Two years later, Zhang Caihong gave birth to a son, and the family of three lived happily.
The son who died for 17 years is still alive
Zhang Caihong's life has undergone changes, and fortunately, life is back on track. Fate always loves to joke, Zhang Caihong heard the gossip of others, and learned that his son, who had disappeared for 17 years, was still alive in the world, which completely disrupted Zhang Caihong's stable life.
In January 2010, Zhang Caihong worked at the hospital, and she hung bottles on patients as usual. There was a man and a woman chatting at the door of the department, and the woman said: "More than ten years ago, a nurse in the county hospital fell in love with a car repairer in our county, that is, the bus station, when she gave birth to a boy, her relatives lied to her that the child had a problem, in fact, the child was very healthy, and finally it seemed to be sent ..."
Zhang Caihong overheard the content of their conversation, and the nurses and car repair workers they said were not themselves and their ex-husbands? At that time, the child did not have any problems, nor was it thrown away, but it was given away. Zhang Caihong rushed out to ask questions, but unfortunately, the person was already gone.
Zhang Caihong boldly guessed that her son was still alive in the world, which made her surprised and happy, and she couldn't believe it, and wanted to find her son, but she had no clue. Zhang Caihong has not contacted her cousin's family for more than ten years and asked them where their children were disabled. What does it look like?
My cousin said somewhat angrily: "When we picked you up, we served you kindly, and you touched your conscience yourself, are we doing our best?" Now you come up to us and ask, what the child looks like, how do we remember? Zhang Caihong didn't get any information at her cousin's house.
Zhang Caihong thought to herself, it is very likely that her child was sent by her cousin and cousin, so who was it given to? Who would need a child? At this time, Zhang Caihong suddenly remembered that her cousin had a younger sister who could not have children, and nine times out of ten she had given it to her sister. After Zhang Caihong returned home, she took the initiative to explain everything to her current husband and said that she was going to look for children.
When her husband learned of this, he expressed his support and encouraged her to boldly go to find it. Zhang Caihong told her husband her thoughts, thinking that the child might be in the hands of her cousin.
After having a clue, a friend told Zhang Yongyun, the sister of Zhang Caihong's cousin, that she now lives in Zhangzhai Town, Pei County, and her husband's name is Liu Guangyu. They have a son named Liu Shangshang, born in July 1993, who is now in high school. Zhang Caihong's son was also born in July 1993, will this be a coincidence?
In September 2010, Zhang Caihong found Liu Shangshang's high school, the mood is very excited, during class, Zhang Caihong recognized Liu Shangshang at a glance, his appearance is very similar to her young ex-husband. After school at noon, many students came out of the school gate, and Zhang Caihong approached Liu Shangshang as a relative and chatted with him for a while.
I learned that Liu Shangshang's body did not have any disability, and his parents were still good to him, but after finishing high school, he had to go out to work. Liu Shangshang began to suspect that the aunt who "inexplicably" came to see him might be the birth mother. Zhang Caihong also bluntly proposed to Liu Shangshang to go to the hospital for a paternity test, and Liu Shangshang agreed out of curiosity.
A week later, Zhang Caihong got a paternity test, they are related by blood, liu Shangshang is the child who was "thrown away" by his cousin that year. Zhang Caihong took the report to the school to find Liu Shangshang, but found no trace of him. The class teacher told her that Liu Shangshang had transferred schools a few days ago, and they did not know where to go.
Liu Shangshang's adoptive parents learned from the child's mouth that the birth mother came to the door, worried that Zhang Caihong would "snatch" the child back, and sent the child to Hangzhou to study overnight. Zhang Caihong was very anxious and reported the case to the local public security bureau. But Zhang Caihong's son has been abducted and sold for more than 10 years, and according to the relevant laws of the mainland, the statute of limitations has passed.
Zhang Caihong did not give up, and with the help of her current husband, contacted the local anti-abduction community and began to look for Liu Shangshang through various methods.
Mother and son untie the knot and are eventually reunited
Two years have passed, and Liu Shangshang is still not heard. In June 2013, Zhang Caihong received a call from a volunteer who said that he had received reliable information that Liu Shangshang had returned to Pei County to take the college entrance examination. Zhang Caihong seemed to have caught a life-saving straw and immediately rushed to the school.
Liu Shangshang walked out of the school gate after the last exam, and after Zhang Caihong saw him, he shed tears of excitement and rushed forward to hug his son. Liu Shangshang looked shocked, and finally pushed Zhang Caihong away expressionlessly. Zhang Caihong took out the paternity test report. After Liu Shangshang looked at it, his eyes were red, and he said coldly: "Even if it is proved, what, don't you want me first?" I want to take me back now when I'm older? ”
Zhang Caihong was very sad, heard his son's aggrieved questioning, and suddenly understood why he suddenly transferred schools. Zhang Caihong did not expect that their adoptive parents reversed right and wrong. Zhang Caihong took his son's hand, afraid that he would disappear again, and cried: "When I first gave birth to you, I secretly hid in a relative's house by myself, and your father didn't want our mother and son." After giving birth to you, your adoptive mother's sister lied to me, saying that you were sick and lost, and I begged them to help me find it back, and they lied to me and said that I had died..."
Liu Shangshang was half-convinced, and Zhang Caihong took out the diary he carried with him from his bag and showed it to him: "You see, since you were born, almost all of me in 1997 was thinking about you. For the next 20 years, I never forgot you, my son! You look at each page of the ticket, and your mother wants to find you, but she doesn't know where you are. ”
Liu Shangshang looked at the strange birth mother in front of him and felt very kind, it turned out that his mother had never thought of losing herself, and she was not wanted by no one. The mother and son hugged their headaches and cried, and Zhang Caihong said with tears in her eyes: "They all blame the mother, did not protect you, let you suffer, my child..."
The mother recovers the abducted son, the adoptive parents ask for 300,000 yuan in maintenance, the birth mother: My son wants you to raise?
Mother and son finally met, and Zhang Caihong hoped that Liu Shangshang could live with him. Liu Shangshang, who is already 20 years old, also wants to live with his birth mother, but does not know how to open his mouth to his adoptive parents. At the end of June, Liu Shangshang chose not to say goodbye and came to Zhang Caihong's side. Zhang Caihong's current husband also welcomed, there are many people and lively, and the whole family is very willing to accept Liu Shangshang's arrival.
After the reunion of mother and son, Zhang Caihong changed his son's surname to "Zhang" and has been called Zhang Shangshang ever since. In August, Zhang Shangshang received an acceptance letter from the university, and the family was very happy. Originally planning to celebrate, Zhang Caihong received a summons from the court, which was the Peixian People's Court.
It turned out that Zhang Shangshang's adoptive parents were very angry about their adoptive son's refusal to say goodbye, and they were not willing to waste years of hard work, so they made two demands to the court:
1. Wish to terminate the relationship of support with Zhang Shangshang;
Second, Zhang Caihong was required to pay 300,000 yuan in child support.
Zhang Caihong was very angry, his child was abducted, and after retrieving it, he saw that he did not treat the child badly, and his adoptive parents even wanted to ask for maintenance. Zhang Caihong decided to ask a lawyer to answer the lawsuit, and after the parents of abducted children across the country learned about it, they were indignant and came to the Pei County People's Court together to support Zhang Caihong.
Liu Guangyu and his wife's lawyers showed various evidences of their upbringing Shangshang, as well as invoices for various medical expenses and tuition fees, hoping that Zhang Caihong could pay Zhang Shangshang's maintenance for 20 years.
Zhang Caihong said angrily, "My child I can't raise myself?" They cheated on my children, the children I gave birth to desperately, calling others moms every day, sleeping with others, have you asked me if I would like to? I haven't asked them to compensate for these mental losses. ”
Zhang Caihong's lawyer stood up and pointed out: "Liu Guangyu and his wife already had a daughter when they adopted the child, and they were not yet 35 years old, and they did not meet the conditions for adoption, they were illegal adoptions." The compensation they demanded, our side Ms. Zhang Caihong is not obliged to compensate. ”
The plaintiff's lawyer was dumbfounded, and then Zhang Caihong questioned whether Liu Guangyu's adoption of the child was abduction. The plaintiff's lawyer said that Zhang Caihong was unable to raise the child and gave the child away, and there was no circumstance of child abduction and trafficking.
Lawyers on both sides have their own opinions, and neither of them will budge. Finally, under the mediation of the judge, the two parties expressed their willingness to mediate. Zhang Shangshang does not want his adoptive parents and birth mother to confront each other and the fish to die in the net. The adoptive parents told the public that they had no children in their family at that time, and learned that no one was still very pitiful, so they took them home as their own sons. Shang Shang ran away from home and said that he didn't want them, which made them feel very angry, which is why they did so.
Zhang Caihong also respects the child's ideas and says that he can move around more in the future, just like relatives. Although Shang Shang's adoptive parents have "kindness" to him, this is too hurtful for a mother.