Trust is the cornerstone of feelings, and loyalty is the bottom line of trust.
The quality of a marriage has a lot to do with the attitude of both husband and wife, and if they lose their honesty with each other, the feelings become jokes.
I saw a woman's story on the Internet, she betrayed her husband, gave birth to someone else's child, to ask the child's biological father to give an explanation, but was driven out of the door by the other party's wife, the wife always believed that her husband was an honest person, the scene was once out of control, in the end who is right and who is wrong, enough to peek through the truth of human nature.
Is emotional betrayal worth trusting?
Li Qing is 38 years old, dressed appropriately, and looks younger than her actual age.
Holding a 2-year-old daughter in her arms, she knocked on the door of the next door neighbor's house, asking the man Wu Quan to give her an explanation, promising to give the child's support and not delaying any longer.
Seeing Li Qingming's brazen approach to the door, Wu Quan's wife was very angry, and she pushed Li Qing away, accusing her of not keeping her duties, coveting money, having a family, and not having to be with Wu Quan.
In her opinion, her husband is very honest, if it is not Li Qing's initiative, he will definitely not do anything to betray the family, she even suspects that Li Qing's daughter has nothing to do with her husband, asking her to do a paternity test, and then say it again when she has the results.
Is her husband really honest? In Li Qing's account, we know the origin of the matter.
Li Qing and her ex-husband are blind dates, the ex-husband opened a car repair shop, the business is very good, the family conditions are good, early bought a suite and car, she is at ease at home with children, the son has been in middle school, the husband has been in the store for a long time because of business.
Later, Wu Quan's family moved in, she also knew Wu Quan, once the water pipe at home was broken, she asked Wu Quan to help, the two in the process of repairing the water pipe, a spark was generated, and opened an underground love affair for up to 5 years.
In the middle of a period of time, Li Qing wanted to separate, but Wu Quan grabbed her weakness, said that she wanted to leave herself, let her be discredited, and then Li Qing became pregnant, originally did not want to give birth to a child, let Wu Quan give ten thousand nutrition fees, she beat the child, but Wu Quan refused to give, and also suggested that she have a child for herself.
After the child was born, Wu Quan wrote a letter of guarantee, promising to give 1500 child support every month, but he did not do it, this matter also let his wife Liu Li find out, after the husband and wife quarreled, he no longer dared to see Li Qing, which had a scene of Li Qing coming to the door.
From this point of view, Wu Quan is not honest at all, he can't keep his duty as a husband, he easily stays with other women, and insists on having children, which is irresponsible behavior.
The rabbit did not eat the grass on the edge of the nest, and he actually did such a disgraceful thing at the door of his house, which was really ashamed of his trust in his wife.
Behind the adults' arguments is the helpless panic of the children
From the perspective of interests, Liu Li defended her husband and firmly believed that the party at fault was Li Qing.
And Wu Quan, together with his wife, accused Li Qing of being too active, and snatched the guarantee letter he wrote and tore it off.
The couple pushed Li Qinglian out of the door, Li Qing looked helpless, and her daughter was also frightened and cried, and she couldn't stop coaxing.
Seeing Li Qing, I remembered a sentence, poor people must have something to hate.
Her situation is self-inflicted, not worthy of sympathy at all, but poor child, only 2 years old, pushed around by her parents, not even a stable home.
After giving birth to her daughter, Li Qing divorced her husband, she thought that Wu Quan would marry herself, how did not expect that Wu Quan would hide from herself, in order to give the child a fair, she decided to do a paternity test.
Before doing the paternity test, Wu Quan vowed: "If the child is mine, I will pay child support, if it is not mine, you will compensate me for mental loss." ”
It's really ridiculous, where did he get the mental loss, wasn't he to blame himself?
And Wu Quan's wife, Liu Li, also protected her husband: "The child must have nothing to do with Old Wu, she is greedy for money and wants to blackmail a sum of money." ”
Many netizens feel sad for Liu Li, she trusts her husband so much, but her husband is not innocent, if the result comes out, it is different from what she imagined, she not only has to bear the blow of her husband's emotional betrayal, but also has to pay for raising children with her husband, what kind of state of mind should it be?
In the process of waiting for the paternity test, the 2-year-old daughter has been pestering Wu Quan, and Wu Quan has also held the child in his hand, looking like there is no sense of violation.
Liu Li was not present, Li Qing and Wu Quan also calmly recalled their feelings, Li Qing said that he was deceived, originally thought that Wu Quan would give himself a home, did not expect that he was an irresponsible person.
Isn't that to be expected? A responsible man is impossible to betray the family, and it is Li Qing's wishful thinking to be able to be easily attracted to you, enough to see the character and expect the other party to be responsible.
Feelings need reverence to be more permanent
After watching the farce of their feelings, many netizens talked about it.
Some people said, "For the sake of love or for the sake of wealth, I want to ask, have you ever thought about the feelings of your children?" Such a small child, to live in people's discussion, her young mind can withstand it? ”
Some people also said: "This man is too scummy, there is no point of responsibility, push the responsibility to the woman, the woman also has no eyes, just taste the bitter fruit of their own brewing." ”
Someone else said: "The man's family is very selfish, obviously knows the reason, and pushes the child outward, the man should also be pushed out, the fault is not one person, both sides have to take responsibility." ”
Say anything, this matter has made many people fall through the glasses, but also gave us some wake-up call.
First of all, be a person to keep the bottom line.
Whatever you do, you must keep the bottom line and principles.
A little more restraint is for greater freedom, and when encountering temptation, you must have a sense of discernment, know that there is a problem, and insist on doing it, not attachment but greed.
When you lose the bottom line, you are not far from danger.
Second, couples should have a little reverence for marriage.
The meaning of marriage is to protect the interests of husband and wife, and both parties must have a little reverence for marriage.
Reverence is to do something and do nothing, always put the lover in the heart, and put the family in the first place when encountering things, so as to establish a sense of trust between husband and wife, and the marriage can be longer.
Husbands and wives are not afraid of sharing weal and woe, they are afraid of not having one heart, and once they are separated from morality, they are not far from the breakdown of feelings.
Just like Wu Quan, no matter how much he swears, in the face of the facts, he cannot deny it, the paternity test results, he is the girl's biological father, do not know how he should face the trust of his wife?
Trust is difficult to establish, it only takes a moment to destroy, and I hope that every couple can guard this trust, and do not let life fall into a chicken feather because of a momentary greed.
What do you think about that? Do you think Wu Quan should give his daughter child support? Welcome to leave a message to express your point of view~