The test of the conscience of the children who support the elderly is very large.
As the saying goes, when your parents raise you to grow up, you have to help them to retire, they have dedicated their whole life to you, what reason and qualification do you have to watch them go to the end of their lives?
And your attitude towards your parents will be seen by your children, if you do not fulfill your obligations, your parents' today is your tomorrow.
He was first beaten by his son, then abused and threatened by his daughter, and his father was rejected by his children after being disabled in a car accident
Wu Quan originally had a happy family, he was a truck driver, the salary he received every month was still very rich, he could fully assume the responsibility of supporting his family, and his wife gave birth to a son and a daughter for him.
It has even become a model family in the eyes of many neighbors, after all, children and daughters are all things that many parents dream of, and many families have made all their efforts and have not obtained the desired results.
But this happy life was broken by a ruthless car accident, which caused Wu Quan to become a wasted person, unable to take care of himself, and the nerves were also greatly traumatized.
In this car accident, Wu Quan was not the main person responsible, and he got a compensation of 500,000 yuan, which could have helped me Wu Quan to retire, but my wife took this money and walked away. Never again asked about his life.
In this way, the work of caring for him naturally fell on his daughter and son. But as the saying goes, there is no filial piety in front of the bed for a long time, and his son always punches and kicks his father because he thinks that he is now a wasted person and will drag himself down forever. I really wished that Wu Quan would scream for his life, so that everyone could get pain.
And so did his daughter, who, because taking care of him increased the pressure on her own life, always accused him in front of her father, and even threatened to leave him alone. This made Wu Quan heartbroken.
Why did the original happy family change its appearance?
Where there is a mother, there must be a son
In fact, when we know that Wu Quan's wife abandoned him, we can roughly guess that the child will also choose this way. After all, if there is a mother, there must be a son, and the mother's influence on the child is very large.
From birth, the special relationship between mother and child will arise, and the mother's behavior will invisibly affect the child, if the mother is gentle, the child will become very nurturing, and there will be no noise and uneasiness.
And this mother, after learning that her husband has become a waste, leaving without thinking can prove that she is a very selfish person, even if she does not remember the old love of the past, do her duty as a wife!
But she didn't. It is precisely because of seeing her behavior that the children feel that the father should not be treated well, the father is an evil person, if not, why would the mother choose to leave him?
It is directly related to the missing father's love
In the follow-up understanding, Wu Quan himself admitted that because he was busy earning money, he had regrets about the establishment of the relationship between parents and children, driving outside all year round, and the time to return home was very limited, even if he returned home to see the child, there was not too much interaction.
Even most of the time, when I came home, my wife would complain to herself, accusing my child of the mistakes she had made during this time, and wanting him to help educate the child. It was also in this way that the distance between him and the child was widened little by little.
Because as long as the children see him, they can recall the picture of being beaten, and feel that there is no good thing to see their father, and their father is like a fierce god, or it is better to be far away.
This may be the real reason why children abuse their fathers! Because they can't feel the love of their father for themselves, they don't know what their father's value and role is for themselves, and naturally when their father needs himself, they will not go forward bravely.
If you can do it again, Wu Quan will definitely reverse this situation, no matter how busy he is, he will also take time to accompany his children, after all, he will rely on his children for the rest of his life!
Alpaca mom has something to say:
In fact, such a situation has not never happened, because most fathers in China are not good at expressing, and in the process of interacting with their children, there is always a misunderstanding because of the expression problem, if the father can improve in this regard, such a tragedy will be greatly reduced!
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