There is no parent who does not attach importance to their children's education. Some parents send their children to early education institutions early, hoping to "win on the starting line", they send their children to the most famous schools, ask for the best tutors for their children, contract all housework and even help children clean their school bags, hoping to create the best reading environment for children...
But things often backfire, and no matter how good the school is, the best teachers are not as important as the parents' home education. Because from the day the child is born, you are the child's first teacher, and your words and deeds are the child's life lessons.
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Where are the roots of education? ---- Home
When we think of education, we all naturally think of schools, elementary schools, middle schools, and universities.
In fact, from the moment they fell to the ground, they came to their school with joy, that is, their happy home, and our parents were their first teachers.
Therefore, if we want to build a solid edifice for children's education, we must lay a good foundation for education and lay a good foundation for education, so we ask - where is the root of education?
In fact, the root of education is not in the school, nor in the social counseling institution, the root of education is the home.
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When we lament that "it is easy to have a child, but it is difficult to raise a child", we have realized that there is another burden of raising children - family education.
The first distinction between the growth of children is to start from the "home", otherwise, why are they all God-given little angels, why are some children outstanding in all aspects, while others are mediocre?
In fact, as parents should regard "home" as the driving force for the healthy growth of their children, they should explore their children's talents from the details of family life and guide them in a timely manner, which is the way to achieve children's education.
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What is the way to achieve a child's education? - Home
Home is the soil that nurtures children's growth
The three sayings that a wise man raises a child are:
The first sentence: "Child, parents have no ability, you have to rely on yourself." "Don't do it, return the responsibility to the child, let the child have a sense of responsibility."
The second sentence: "Child, to be a person in advance, you must not do things that hurt others." "Talk about virtue and tell children the standards of being a person."
The third sentence: "Child, let go of your hands and break in, it is really not okay, come home and eat." "Selfless love, endless love!
And the same problem, but someone said three sentences are completely different:
The first sentence: "Baby, you can study hard, and other things Mom and Dad will help you get it done!" "The right to be responsible is deprived of children, and children without responsibility are raised."
The second sentence: "Baby, you can't suffer losses when you go out, and you must fight back when others beat you!" "The basic rules of conduct are not taught correctly, and children who are "immoral" may be raised.
The third sentence: "I tell you, if you don't study well anymore, don't come to me when you grow up without food!" "Conditional love is not true love at all.
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Parenting is a profession
The roots of education extend from the home, and the key to the operation of the home lies in the parents.
I have been thinking about what noun to use to accurately describe the identity and responsibility of "parent", and I inadvertently saw the personality signature of a netizen - parenting is a profession, my eyes lit up, and I was talking about my heart.
If you can lift up the glorious and heavy title of "parent", why don't you need to be as reverential and responsible as you are with a profession?
The words "warmth, harmony, and intimacy" are the most precious "nutrients" in children's growth;
Parents love to get along, share responsibilities, and keep pace with education, which is the best environment for children to grow;
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If so, I think there will be no more "career success, family failure" argument, at least less.
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Where are the roots of education? --- home
Parents should be their children's lifelong teachers
It is often said that parents are the first teachers of a child; I would say that parents should be their children's lifelong teachers.
There is a philosophical story in the West that is quite inspiring, talking about a "father in the eyes of a son":
7 years old: "Dad is amazing, he knows everything!" ”
14 years old: "It seems that sometimes it is not true..."
20 years old: "Dad is a bit outdated, his theory is incompatible with the times." ”
25 years old: "The 'old man' knows nothing and is stale. ”
35 years old: "If Dad had been as sophisticated as I was, he would have been a millionaire today..."
45 years old: "I don't know if I have to discuss with the 'old man', maybe he can help me come up with ideas..."
55 years old: "It's a pity, Dad passed away. To be honest, his opinion is quite clever! ”
60 years old: "Poor Dad! You are an all-knowing scholar! Sadly I learned about you too late! ”
Life is a book to read. When children reach middle age, or enter old age, they will think more of their parents and miss their parents' influence on their lives, so that consciously or unconsciously, they imitate the way parents educate themselves to educate their children. Hui Ai Education grows with you.
What do you want to say about these? What I want to say is that a responsible parent must not only do a good job of the child's "first teacher", but also be prepared to do a good job of the child's "lifelong teacher".