It is said that love is a flower, marriage is the ultimate destination of love, two people from lovers to husband and wife, I believe that both husband and wife are holding a vision of the future into the palace of marriage. However, after some people get married, the couple is burned out because of the life of chai rice oil and salt, and soon the feelings between the husband and wife will slowly fade, and the love between them has also turned into family affection.
Perhaps because of the weakening of feelings between each other, the husband and wife no longer look at each other as pleasantly as they were, because some small disputes have become commonplace. A husband with a bad temper will beat his wife with all his hands, completely ignoring her wife's pleading. In the face of domestic violence, we must know how to protect ourselves, and we must know how to stop losses in time.
Otherwise, in the end, the most injured will always be yourself, because domestic violence is only 0 times and countless times. Don't listen to the assurances and promises of men after being abused by domestic violence, with the first time, there will definitely be countless times, to know that when a man beats his wife when he loses his mind, he will not remember his original guarantees and commitments.
Event Review:
Wu Quan (pseudonym) is fifty-three years old this year, and his wife Liu Fang (pseudonym) was introduced to him, and the first time they met, they fell in love with his wife at first sight. And his wife's impression of him is also very good, so the two quickly established a love relationship, after a period of interaction, Wu Quan and Liu Fang decided to join hands into the palace of marriage.
Finally, the wedding was held under the management of the parents of both sides, and after the marriage, Wu Quan and Liu Fang had a good relationship, because Wu Quan was a truck driver, so he needed to deliver goods for a long time, although the couple gathered less and left more, but this did not affect the feelings of the two of them. With the birth of three children in succession, the family's expenses have also increased.
In order to take care of the three children and elderly parents, after discussion between the couple, it was decided to let Liu Fang resign to take care of the children and parents at home, and liu Fang became a veritable housewife. Liu Fang was inside, while Wu Quan was outside, because Wu Quan's salary was OK, so at first Wu Quan did not feel pressured, and the family lived happily.
But with the passage of time, their three children have gradually grown up, has reached the age of study, the tuition fee of the three children is a lot of money, coupled with the parents getting older, physical health problems have also occurred, Wu Quan feels that his pressure is getting bigger and bigger, his mood is unusually low, so a little thing can cause his dissatisfaction.
Then they quarreled with Wu Fang, the two of them did not give in to each other, and as the quarrel escalated, Wu Quan, who was out of control, began to beat Liu Fang. After beating people, Wu Quan's heart was full of guilt, he kept apologizing to Liu Fang, for the sake of the child, Liu Fang chose to forgive Wu Quan again and again.
Perhaps because it was too easy to be forgiven, Wu Quan did not change with Liu Fang's generosity, but instead intensified his insults and beatings of Liu Fang. Once, just because Liu Fang put too much salt in the dish, Wu Quan beat Liu Fang involuntarily, and the pressure cooker at home was used by him to beat Liu Fang, and the pressure cooker was deformed by him.
Because Wu Quan often abused his wife, their three children all looked at him, and in addition to fear for him, they felt more worthless for their mother. Liu Fang did not think about divorce, she was in order to have a complete family for her three children, so she chose to endure it again and again.
After more than ten years, Wu Quan, who went out to deliver goods one day six years ago, had a car accident on the way home, he was seriously injured, and although his life was picked up, he was left with a lifelong disability. Wu Quan not only has limited mobility, but also becomes slurred, and from time to time he relapses with epilepsy, Liu Fang looks at the early marital relationship or conscientiously takes care of him.
But Wu Quan did not appreciate it, he had a big change in temperament after falling disabled because of the car accident, knowing that Liu Fang had to take care of it at the same time, but also to get up early and go to work greedily, Wu Quan not only did not understand the pain of Liu Fang, but looked for stubble everywhere. The belongings at home were also thrown away by him everywhere, and Liu Fang had to go out to buy vegetables and cook again after returning from work every day, and it was very hard to cook.
Even so, Liu Fang silently endured Wu Quan's unreasonable teasing for six years, and after she felt discouraged, she decided to file for divorce from Wu Quan. But Wu Quan did not agree, he admitted that he had abused his wife, but the two of them had not yet reached the point of divorce, he felt that he and Wu Quan had gone through more than twenty years, experienced a lot, the two of them had a foundation of feelings, and their feelings had not broken.
But Liu Fang did not agree, she felt that she had paid a lot for this family, and she had had enough of Wu Quan's desperation and unreasonable teasing for so many years. Seeing that Liu Fang had made up her mind, Wu Quan's sister then called for a mediator, and she hoped that through the mediator's mediation, she could save her brother's marriage.
The mediator then went to Wu Quan and Liu Fang's home, where the mediator accidentally found that Wu Quan and Liu Fang had slept separately. Wu Quan confessed that the reason why his wife Liu Fang did this to him was to abandon him, and their three children had a very bad attitude towards him since they were injured, and even their son had beaten him and pushed him to the ground.
Because of her inconvenient hands and feet, after being thrown to the ground by her son for a long time to get up, Wu Quan's sister suddenly told the mediator that when her brother was in a car accident, the other party lost 400,000 yuan, and this money has always been held by Liu Fang, so she suspected that Liu Fang wanted to swallow the compensation alone.
After hearing Wu Quan's sister say this, Liu Fang immediately explained that in the six years after Wu Quan's car accident, the first few years were because he had to take care of Wu Quan, who had limited mobility, and he could not go out to do things. And he came to do a total of two major surgeries, and the cost is quite a lot, plus the cost of treatment and rehabilitation in the later stage, as well as the living expenses of the family, the compensation money has been left, so there is no such thing as her swallowing this money alone.
Because all the expenses were well-founded, then Wu Quan and their sons suddenly stood up for their mother. He said that after his father went out, he needed a lot of money for treatment, and in order to reduce the burden on the family, he had no choice but to give up his studies and go out of society early to work to share the pressure for his mother.
And because of his father's irritable personality, because he saw his father beat his mother more than once, and because his father did not know how to communicate with the three of them, he and his sister and father had a bad relationship with their father since childhood. After Wu Quan listened to his son's words, he was angry, he bluntly said that his son was talking nonsense, and he felt that his relationship with his three children had always been very good.
Wu Quan's son also told the mediator that not only that, once his parents quarreled the night because of family trivia, and the next day they came home after work but were locked out of the door by their father, no matter how they communicated with their father, their father did not open the door for them to enter the house, so they had to go to the hotel for one night.
Wu Quan was very excited, he did not approve of his son's statement at all, he immediately retorted that these things said by his son were purely fictitious, Wu Quan's son was angry, and then he said that he was unwilling to continue to mediate, and after saying that, he immediately turned around and left the mediation scene. At this time, Liu Fang told the mediator that because she could not stand Wu Quan's selfishness and domestic violence, she had made up her mind to divorce him.
Liu Fang said that even if they don't divorce now, she will move out to rent a house. Liu Fang said that after the car accident, if Wu Quanneng tried to change herself and know how to understand her, she could continue to persevere. But Wu Quan not only did not know how to understand her, but every day after she returned home from work, he scolded her, and he scolded her particularly ugly.
Moreover, Wu Quan did not do any housework during the six years at home, and every day she had to wait for her to come back after work to cook and do hygiene. Then Liu Fang said bluntly that in the twenty-two years since she and Wu Quan were married, she often suffered from Wu Quan's domestic violence, and she confessed that she had completely died to Wu Quan, so now she wanted to divorce and get rid of the bitter sea. Wu Quan was anxious after listening to it, and he knelt down to Liu Fang in public to admit his mistake and ask for forgiveness, but Liu Fang was not moved and still insisted on divorce.
I think Liu Fang's approach is correct, and I even feel that her decision seems to be a little late, after all, she has been abused by domestic violence for nearly twenty years, and she is replaced by other women, and she may not be able to endure it. I think the reason why Liu Fang has been able to endure Wu Quan is not that she is reluctant to leave Wu Quan, or that she cannot leave Wu Quan, to put it bluntly, the reason why she can endure Wu Quan for nearly twenty years is because of their three children.
Because no mother wants her children to grow up in a fragmented family, because children who grow up in single-parent families will have more inferiority than children who grow up in normal families, Liu Fang, as a mother, can only sacrifice her own happiness to complete her three children. It wasn't that she didn't know Wu Quan's personality, it wasn't that she didn't want to leave him, but for the sake of her three children, she could only tolerate it.
It was precisely because Liu Fang repeatedly backed down that Wu Quan intensified his efforts against her, and in his eyes Liu Fang could not leave him, and at the same time he was sure that Liu Fang would not leave him no matter what. What he didn't expect was that his certainty was actually right, even if he was disabled in a car accident later. Although he has limited mobility, although he can't speak clearly, although he still suffers from epilepsy, he still dares to bully Liu Fang, and he will still beat Liu Fang.
What he never dreamed of was that Liu Fang would actually file for divorce against him, and his attitude was very resolute, and he was completely dumbfounded. So he did not hesitate to kneel down in public and admit his mistake, hoping to save Liu Fang's heart, but he did not expect Liu Fang to refuse to forgive him on the spot. This may be the best ending for Wu Quan and Liu Fang, because people who do not know how to cherish do not deserve happiness, so they support Liu Fang's divorce and decide not to be soft-hearted.