If asked, do you love your parents? I believe that many people's answers are yes, and for parents, the same is true. But in many families, the parent-child relationship that exists is not very healthy. We all know to love our own family, but many times, the love given to the family may not be what the other party really needs, and may even be a burden.
For our Chinese, we obviously love each other in our hearts, but we just don't say it, many parents are like this, and so are many children. For example, the family has a birthday, obviously prepared a birthday cake, made a large table of delicious food, but one day came, no one said a happy birthday, but in fact, everyone knows, because the action has been represented, for example, many parents and children may not have said the three words "I love you" to each other.
Is it really just because we're not good at expressing emotions? Because Chinese more subtle? It seems so, but it feels weird.
In addition to this, there is also a Chinese-style parent-child relationship, that is, the parents' love for their children is too compact, so that there is no space, and they want to know and participate in everything about their children. For them, this may be a way for them to love their children, but for children, they may feel that they have no space for themselves, and even feel as if they are "controlled".
A healthy parent-child relationship should learn to get along properly and know your role in the family.
In a family, children, fathers and mothers, Honey to know their own role, for parents, should learn to make friends with their children, not think of themselves as parents, in any way children must listen to themselves, they also have their own ideas, should learn to get along with the child correctly.
It's important to talk well.
Sometimes, language is very lethal to a person. At home, if everyone can't speak well, they may quarrel before they say a few words, no one will pay attention to anyone, and there will be misunderstandings that cannot be solved. Especially for many parents, the attitude of speaking to the child may determine the child's next approach, if every time is the tone of command, the child may want to reverse it, especially for children in adolescence, it is easier to have a rebellious psychology.
It's also important to do what you say.
Parents promise their children that they do it every time, and they will trust each other more, but if they often can't do it, the child may not believe them.
Not long ago, a girl on the street to her mother's video on the hot search, because the mobile phone did not buy, if you only look at this, may be for some parents, will feel that it is the child's fault, after all, many parents think that the main task of students is to learn, mobile phones will only delay schoolwork.
But in fact, this child saved a little money by working on his own, let his parents add a little, wanted to buy a new mobile phone, but when he finally went to buy it, the parents regretted it. In the end, it is not done, which is dishonest for the child, which is not conducive to establishing a good parent-child relationship, and will also affect the child's understanding of integrity.
A good parent-child relationship has a positive impact on the child's physical, mental and physical health, as well as on their outlook on life, and this influence may accompany them throughout their lives. So, what do you do to build such a relationship?
For parents, we should set a good example, children are greatly influenced by the family, for outsiders, many times will not say how the child is, but will say parents. Parents have a correct understanding of themselves, learn to talk to their children equally, progress and grow with their children, and do what they say, I believe that children will also be willing to open their hearts and believe in their parents.
Also learn to empathize, the child's era is different from the parents, may be in many aspects, parents and children's ideas are obviously different, at this time, parents can first do not rush to deny, may wish to empathize with the thinking, stand in the child's point of view, may think differently from their own previous ideas.
Similarly, for children, the same is true, a good parent-child relationship, which requires the joint efforts of parents and children, understanding parents, empathy, and may not be so in conflict with their own ideas.
In addition, if you want to establish a good parent-child relationship, for parents, you must also establish a good husband and wife relationship, and the love, respect and tolerance between husband and wife are more conducive to promoting a good parent-child relationship.
In short, a healthy parent-child relationship is very important, for the above-mentioned Chinese parent-child relationship, parents or should pay attention to make changes, want to establish a good parent-child relationship, the above points, if you can do it, I believe that the family will be more harmonious, the child will be healthier and more confident.