Mother Bao asked, "Does your girlfriend still want to enter the Bao family when she does this?" ”
Xiao Bao was always mad: "The Bao family is a fart in her eyes." ”
Mother Bao didn't believe it: "You can't control her? ”
Xiao Bao always collapsed: "I am a fart in her eyes!"
This is a line from Ode to Joy that impressed me.
It is said that with the total wealth and appearance of the small bag, there is no good woman at all, but it is not a rut to take Andy.
After all, money and status Andy have it, for things that have confidence in themselves, why should they lower their posture and seek perfection.
So girls want to make more money.
Humble flattery may be a temporary pleasure, but an unbalanced relationship is destined not to last long. The door may be old-fashioned, but it is not outdated.
Making money is not because of loving money more, but in this life, you can not be inferior to whom money is three or four, nor do you have to be embarrassed by money, you can have the ability to share when your parents are old; when your children need it, they will not be shy.
01 more independent
Wilde once said:
"When I was young, I thought money was the most important thing in the world, but now that I'm older, I know it's true."
It is true that although money cannot give you everything, at least it can give you the right to speak.
The other day, I attended an awkward birthday party.
In fact, girls began to remind very early that they did not expect to get anything, a birthday cake was good.
But until his birthday, my husband didn't say anything. Even if the mother-in-law is asking if she wants to buy a cake for the little two, the husband still pretends to be stupid.
So we went to the birthday party, but there was no cake and no other celebrations.
But the girl did not cry, but said to me privately and helplessly:
"Actually, I just want a cake. If I had bought this for myself before marriage, but now that I am pregnant and have given up my job, I will rely on him for the birth of the child, and I dare not ask for too much..."
I have seen her confident when I started my own business, so I can understand her grievances today.
But what I can't let go of for a long time is that even if she was once so independent, she still bowed her head in front of marriage money.
I believe that some people really marry for love, and I also believe that after marriage, the other party will still be good to you as always.
But a woman's place in the family, in the final analysis, is determined by economic strength. Even if the other party does not dislike you for not making money, you will unconsciously humble yourself, which is the most unhealthy.
Of course, this is not to fight for anything, nor to be rich and expensive, but people in feelings or marriages should find something they like to do, save some basic living expenses, and not face everything with their hands up, nor be disconnected from society.
Perhaps the phrase, "I'm responsible for making money to support my family, and you're responsible for being beautiful as a flower" is tempting enough.
But in this era of cheating and one-night stands without cost, what reason do you have to believe that he will make you look beautiful for the rest of your life? Moreover, even the "New Marriage Law" has begun to uphold the principle of "who makes money, who is reasonable".
In this world, any kind of dignity is earned by oneself. Only by maintaining financial independence can women live with more dignity and have the courage to start all over again even if they take the wrong path.
02 Earn respect
An emotional expert said:
"What a woman should be afraid of is not splitting her legs when she is in love, not cheating in marriage, but she can neither get out of the predicament nor give herself a better choice." 」
Yeah, when you have money in your pockets and become thin and beautiful, you will find that everything will get better, even not just feelings.
When it comes to good popularity, we tend to associate it with good character, and I used to believe in this until I encountered more and more individual cases.
There is such a type of person, their personality is not good, and some willful, but the popularity has not been bad, not only no one turns face with them, but also someone will please them. And this phenomenon becomes more pronounced with age.
There is a common feature of this type of person, that is, there is money.
Some people may say that because the people who are close to the money are also too snobbish, right?
Yes, there is some snobbery, but there is no old saying:
"The poor are making trouble and no one asks, and the rich have distant relatives in the mountains."
This is where the inferiority of human beings lies, and we cannot even blame others for anything.
Because the dialogue between people is a value and value exchange, feelings can be exchanged for feelings, but when others have added value in addition to feelings, you will fall behind.
Of course, it is not anyone's fault that there is no money, after all, reincarnation is the only thing that we cannot choose ourselves. You can be sad when you encounter injustice, but what you should resent more is the self who is neither happy nor can change.
Some people may say that I have people around me who are not sincere to me because of money, and I don't like to be close to anyone because of money, OK, that's good, please cherish it.
But if you are unfortunate enough to encounter it, and there is no one else's innate conditions, it does not matter, please do not skimp on your own later efforts, let go of unnecessary complaints, and make good money.
After all, without money, life is really not so good.
03 Save the bottom line
I have seen a very interesting sentence in the circle of friends:
"My goal in life is that when my father was fishing, he had the capital to show with his uncles and uncles."
Particularly apt.
I always feel that the older people are, the more vanity they have, because every time I listen to my parents chatting, I always hear such words.
"My child bought me designer shoes, I said don't have to buy them for me; my children work outside, but they can earn tens of thousands of dollars a month; my children are married too far away, fortunately the son-in-law's house is there..."
Seemingly careless, in fact, they are all basking in the baby.
Speaking of which, the pension of parents is not low, they usually save, and their lives are enough to live into poetry, but they are happy to see their children grow up, which is their proud capital. So the benefits of making money really are many.
With money, we can have the right to say "want" at any time; with money, we have the ability to attract more excellent people to get closer to you; with money, I will not be embarrassed and aggrieved, powerless and remorseful, in order to make my parents have a light on their faces.
So, it's okay to make more money, the kind of money that you earn by your own hard work, especially for girls.