It is said that the mother-in-law is a natural enemy, and it can be seen from the peacock flying southeast that this is the consensus of many people in ancient and modern times, but many times if it is not the mother-in-law who deliberately looks for a daughter-in-law who is too lazy to take care of her, there are always some mothers-in-law with the mentality of not being tolerant of two tigers in a mountain, and this family can only have one master, who must beat his daughter-in-law from all aspects, and if he wants to pinch his daughter-in-law, everything must be interfered in. In fact, children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren, if there is a problem if not left to the two sides to deal with, it will always be pushed to the next time, and after having experience, the husband and wife can better handle and resolve the contradiction, right?
The problem of children is a big contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, from ancient times to the present, people in the past feudal felt that boys can pass on the generations, but now there are still many mothers-in-law with this point of view, do not want daughters-in-law to have a grandchild out, especially now after opening up the second child and three children, even if modern science shows that the birth of boys and girls is actually mainly in men, but they always read to their daughters-in-law, as if their sons do not have to participate in this matter, as long as the daughter-in-law works the line.
In fact, if there is a contradiction, there will be a way to resolve the contradiction, and as long as there is a reasonable person in the family, the family will not be chaotic, even if the reasonable person is a sister-in-law.
And Li Ru met Ming's reasonable husband and sister-in-law. In the process of fighting wits and courage with his mother-in-law, he never fell behind.
01. Some mother-in-law who prefer sons to daughters.
Li Ru and her husband Chen Feng found out when they first met their in-laws that their sister-in-law Chen Qian was actually his college classmate, although the two people were not in the same class before and were limited to knowing this person, but with this relationship, the two girls also have a common language, the relationship is getting better and better, Chen Feng sometimes jokes with her whether you are marrying me or marrying my sister.
Her relationship with Chen Feng is also very harmonious, the two people soon had a child, but Li Ru's reaction during pregnancy was exceptionally large, loss of appetite, drowsiness, back pain and other problems tormented her for nearly ten months, and finally waited for the day when the child was unloaded, she chose to give birth smoothly, and also firmly remembered the pain.
After coming out of the delivery room, Chen Feng and her mother went to see her situation for the first time, Li Ru's first feeling when she saw Chen Feng was at ease, and her mother-in-law naturally went to see the baby grandson she had been waiting for for a long time, but Li Ru was born as a girl.
Although the mother-in-law tried to keep it the same as usual, Li Ruyi could see that her mother-in-law was displeased, and the mother-in-law disliked her for giving birth to a girl. Just like when she was confinement, the mother-in-law let Li Ru's mother take care of Li Ru's confinement with her for the reason that she could not take care of her alone, her daughter herself was of course distressed, Li Ru's mother came, and then the mother-in-law began to find various excuses to leave, and finally completely ignored.
Seeing that his mother-in-law wanted to take care of his wife and his daughter, Chen Feng was embarrassed to accuse his mother, so he took the initiative to ask to take care of Li Ru with his mother-in-law, although the work was very busy, he still took the time to study the diet of pregnant women, and raised Li Ru and his daughter to be white and fat, and Li Ru also began her tragic weight loss journey after confinement.
Li Ru can see the mother-in-law's preference for sons and daughters, after the birth of the daughter, the mother-in-law rarely hugs her, especially after Chen Qian gave birth to a son, it is three days and two ends to run to see her grandson, after the two children grow up, in the pressure of the money on the mother-in-law have their own careful thoughts, will always give the grandson more, but also often save some snacks for the grandson, the granddaughter will reluctantly divide her a little, will take the initiative to pick up the grandson, but only Li Ru and Chen Feng are too busy to ask her when she will go to pick up the granddaughter.
These are all seen by Li Ru, she has some disappointment in her mother-in-law, but she is not a person who will randomly anger others, and the relationship with Chen Qian is as usual.
02. Birth from mother-in-law.
After the opening of the second child and the third child in these years, the mother-in-law's heart that wants the grandson is alive again, even if the grandson is also the grandson of someone else's family, it is still inferior to her own family, and the mother-in-law began to bomb Li Ru.
But Li Ru is still fresh in the memory of the pain during childbirth, the complications after childbirth, what urinary incontinence and hair loss and other Li Truthfully does not want to experience it again, her daughter is already her own intimate little cotton jacket, no need to add another one, too hot will also be wrong. Chen Feng also respected Li Ru's idea, since Li Ru didn't want him, of course, he wouldn't force her, but he couldn't stop his mother-in-law.
At the beginning, the mother-in-law will share with her some happy things after the second child was born on WeChat, Li Ru shared with her mother-in-law some of the news that the mother-in-law was pregnant with a child, her own little uncle and her son were born together, the angry mother-in-law almost came out to fight with her, the mother-in-law saw that Li Ru could not impress Li Ru, and began to send these things in the circle of friends, others asked her what happened, she began to cry that she could not even realize such a simple wish to hold her grandson, Li Ru knew that it was done for her.
They have a kitten at home, and later because she was pregnant, the kitten was given to the neighbor, and this kitten was recently pregnant because of greed, and the mother-in-law actually read the kitten in front of her, saying that she still missed this kitten, Li Ru heard the mother-in-law's implications, she only felt that the mother-in-law was scared, can this kind of thing be compared?
When the mother-in-law saw that these methods did not work, she began to know that she was moved by reason, and she often chanted in front of Li Ru: "It is good to have another child for the current child, and there will be companions in the future, you see I will not give birth to two, two brothers and sisters help each other, there is a care." ”
"There are too many things to consider in having another child, and Li Ru and I can't afford the parenting and education of two children now, and didn't we often chant milk powder and diapers before? How about now. Chen Feng put a very real economic problem in front of his mother-in-law, but her mother-in-law was still not dead hearted
"I can still do a good job now, I can give birth to a child, I can bring you, you can also save some heart, and in a few years I will not be able to do anything when I am old and you will need to worry about anything."
"How do I remember that at that time, my mother-in-law brought it with me, and didn't you go out on a trip happily?" The mother-in-law was dumbfounded for a moment.
Li Ru said to her mother-in-law: "A child does not mean that he can be born, I want to consider the future of this child, we must assume the responsibility of being a parent, and rushing to bring him to this world when we are not ready is a dereliction of duty as a parent, and it is even more disrespectful to a life." ”
03. The spawning has begun again, and the sister-in-law has helped.
After that conversation, the mother-in-law did not mention the matter of the birth again, but when Chen Qian gave birth to a boy again, the mother-in-law began to be uneasy again.
That day, Chen Qian's mother-in-law actually said directly to everyone's face: "My daughters have given birth to three children, and it is as if you want you to die if you let you have a second child." ”
Before Li Ru could speak, Chen Qian said: "Mom, let me be honest, my child has a grandmother, but I don't think that I have enjoyed the love from my grandmother, how do you let others believe that you can take a good child, I gave birth to a third child, because my second child is a twin, otherwise who wants to have three children, and I gave birth to this child is agreed by the whole family, and my in-laws have taken out all their savings to meet these two children, after my sister-in-law and brother have a second child, what can you take out? Isn't it a child to add a pair of chopsticks, where you said so light, now and before is not the same, don't say anything about money hurt feelings, now away from money is not a step, you said that you will help them with children but the real pressure is always on their bodies, they are not ready to have a second child, you don't want to force them anymore. ”
"How do you elbow out?"
"I don't help my relatives."
After this incident, the turmoil in Li Ruyi's home was much less.
In fact, it is very right to say, whether to have a child or not to have a second child is a matter between husband and wife, the mother-in-law interferes too much in these things but there is a tilt between each other, the conditions of each family are different, the attitude towards the child's problem is naturally different, after psychologically and economically prepared, and then meet the arrival of this child, whether it is for the child or the family is responsible.
You can also see how important it is for a reasonable person in a family to the stability of this family, they can clearly distinguish between right and wrong, they have contradictions to resolve contradictions, in order to make this family more happy and long-term, if you live in a family, you can't face anything fairly, except for disappointment or disappointment, such a family and happiness will never be related.