This New Year's Day back to the hometown, the family reunited together for the New Year's Eve, before leaving, the sister said that she wanted to take more delicious food made by her mother, and went back to let the husband who did not come overtime also "relieve the hunger", and the child also nagged every time that he did not eat enough.
Although the mother was happy after listening, she still casually said, "With the in-laws, I forgot my mother, tell me who you are kissing?"
The sister thought of not thinking, blurted out "of course, the child kissed", but saw the mother's face "sunny and cloudy", quickly changed the mouth "but no longer kiss there is no old mother kiss", and finally "tiger mouth out of danger", large bags and small packages back home.
In life, many people may have encountered such a "soul question", parents and children, brothers and sisters, husbands and wives, in the end who is our closest person?
We can get different answers to this question, perhaps from different perspectives.
From the perspective of blood relations: parents and we are the closest
Genetically, each of us has 23 pairs of chromosomes, which are inherited from the father and mother, that is to say, half of us come from the father, half from the mother, and the father plus the mother is equal to 100% of us, so we are closest to the parents in blood.
And in the process of growing up, parents will give the most selfless love, give what they have, especially in childhood, when we are still in an attachment relationship with our parents, parents are almost equal to all of us, not only in blood, emotionally parents are also the closest people to the child.
However, as they get older, everyone will inevitably drift away from their parents, and emotionally speaking, some subtle changes may gradually occur.
Emotionally: children and we are the closest
Every parent treats their children the same heart, always hope to leave the best in the world to their children, and will also pay money, feelings and energy far more than taking care of their parents in their children, so emotionally speaking, children and we are the closest.
But just as we grow up and become estranged from our parents, children will one day leave our side and find a new family.
Long Yingtai said in "Eye Sending": "The so-called parents and children are only meant to be separated from him in this life and this life. ”
Although half of the genes in the child's body come from us, and we pay the most in all aspects, in the end, it is still the lover who has no blood relationship.
From the perspective of time span, lovers and we are the closest
There was a story circulating on the Internet that in a university in the United States, a professor asked his classmates to cooperate with a small test before class, and invited a female student to the podium.
The professor asked the girl to write the names of the 20 people she thought were most important on the blackboard, including her parents, children, lovers, friends, co-workers, and more.
Next, the professor asked the female students to cross out the people she thought were the least important in it, from the beginning without hesitation to cross out the neighbors, to the next because of colleagues and friends, the female classmates crossed out the names more and more slowly.
Finally, there were only four names left on the blackboard: parents, children, and lovers, the classroom became unusually quiet, and the girl's choice became more and more hesitant and difficult, and after a long time she decided to cross out the names of her parents.
When the professor asked the female student to continue to cross out a name, the female classmate trembled and raised the chalk, slowly crossed out the name of her son, and finally left the name of the lover.
And when the professor asked why she would cross out the blood relatives such as parents and children and choose strangers like her husband, the girl cried and replied, "Because the only person who will really accompany me through my life is my husband."
Although the authenticity of this widely circulated story has yet to be examined, it is still very telling, from the perspective of time span, the lover has accompanied us for the longest time, the life intersection is the most, and the relationship is naturally the closest.
Especially as we gradually move from middle age to old age, parents will die one day, children can not always stay around, the last to get along, or the lover who is not related by blood.
Another kind of intimacy: brothers and sisters
When it comes to relationships with siblings, everyone's feelings can be very different.
Although we grew up under the same roof as our brothers and sisters and were closely related by blood, it was often difficult to be as intimate as we were when we were young because of different experiences and the fact that we would one day build our own families.
Brothers and sisters are a special intimate relationship, we are both partners and competitors, when we were young to compete for toys, competition for good food, some families of children will continue to compete for various resources when they grow up, but when we encounter difficulties, we can reach out to help, often the brothers and sisters who were noisy when they were young and grew up.
Old Miao Conclusion:
Parents and children, brothers and sisters and lovers, occupy a pivotal position in our lives, and no matter what kind of intimate relationship is inseparable.
For parents, we must know how to be grateful and filial; we must accompany and educate our children with our hearts; and we must pay attention to maintenance and more contacts when dealing with brothers and sisters. It is precisely because of the existence of these intimate relationships that our lives have meaning.
Today's Topic: Which relationship do you think is the closest?
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