Running a relationship well is not as difficult as you think, but it is not so simple.
Whether it is a husband and wife or a lover, there are some things that try not to do, otherwise the relationship is doomed to go far.
Faith, patience, sacrifice, these three things must not be overdrawn.
01
Don't drain your faith
"Still to the step of divorce", my friend said to me, sighing incessantly.
Some people say that a woman's sixth sense is very accurate, especially for her own pillow person, the husband is slightly abnormal, and he can immediately detect it.
Discovering an abnormality in my husband starts with inadvertently discovering his chat history.
After getting married, she used to go to bed early, but her husband often played games until late at night.
They all had to go to work during the day, and although she resented that her husband was still playing games in the middle of the night, she didn't care so much about the fact that he didn't have other bad habits.
Until one day I accidentally saw her husband's chat history, a "baby", which suddenly woke her up.
For this reason, the two had a big fight, the husband saw that the matter was exposed, and he no longer hid it, confessing that the other party was a female netizen in his game, there was no measure when speaking, and he also stressed: "We are not in the same city, we have not even seen each other, you don't want to make a fuss." ”
After saying that, he also reprimanded her for not peeking at his information and not respecting his privacy.
After this incident, there is always a hurdle in the heart of the friend, always want to take advantage of the husband's inattention to see his mobile phone.
Every time I think about my husband's mobile phone, my husband behaves very generously and shows her the mobile phone, but the chat messages on the mobile phone are deleted completely.
Years of trust collapsed because of this matter, and they were jealous of each other. The suspicion of her husband has taken root in the heart of my friend.
Whether husband and wife or lover, when the trust between each other is broken, the relationship between the two is no longer strong, and since then they have doubted each other.
Although the wind and waves may seem calm on the surface, when confidence is depleted to a certain extent, conflicts will erupt, and eventually the relationship between them will inevitably break down.
The closer the relationship, the more we must cherish each other's "faith." ”
The faith between many lovers is often very pure and unstainable. Once contaminated, it is difficult to return to the past state.
02
Don't wear away patience
There is a couple who always seem impatient whenever it comes to eating.
It turns out that men like to shake on the top of the plate when they pick vegetables, and then take the dishes away. The woman was very disgusted by his behavior and felt very rude.
Since men have formed this habit for a long time, although he himself wants to change it, it is not said that it can be changed.
Since then, every time we eat together, as soon as the dish is on the table, the woman keeps looking at the man's chopsticks, and as long as the man shakes the chopsticks, she reminds the man on the side.
The man is bored, and there is a fire in his heart, thinking that the more you don't let me shake, the more I want to shake to show you.
As a result, the relationship between each other has expanded from not being accustomed to eating to all things, and trivial things can be quarreled.
In real life, such things are actually very common. Although the two people get along day and night, because of impatience, their hearts become more and more distant.
Whether it is a husband and wife or a lover, when they meet each other, they are annoyed, and they are angry as soon as they talk, indicating that this relationship has come to an end.
When each other's patience is exhausted, even quarrels are too lazy to quarrel, and in the end only boredom and indifference remain.
03
Don't let down the sacrifice
I've been thinking about something for the past two days, which is very sad. One reader, in order to support his boyfriend to start a business, gave up his high-paying job and worked hard with his boyfriend.
She usually saves money and withdraws all her savings and lets her boyfriend develop the business.
With her full support, the boyfriend's career has also slowly improved, when she is full of joy and wants to enter the marriage hall with him, the boyfriend who is famous in the industry, but feels that his girlfriend is not worthy of his current value, losing his face.
This reminds me of the famous actor Mr. Chen Daoming, who was only a dragon runner when he met his wife Du Xian, and Du Xian was already a well-known anchor of CCTV.
In order to support Chen Daoming's acting career, Du Xian also undertook the big and small things in the family in his spare time.
Later, after Chen Daoming was fired, more and more plays were taken over, and there was no time to take care of the family, and Du Xian wanted to give up his career to take care of the family wholeheartedly.
Chen Daoming understands why his wife did this and does not want her to give up her favorite career for herself.
At the peak of his career, he will also fiercely reject some high-paying TV series and squeeze out some time to take care of the family. He even encouraged his wife to attend further education and do what he liked to do.
The two have worked hand in hand, gone through so many difficult years, and can make sacrifices for each other, which is really enviable.
In real life, there are always many things to sacrifice when the two are together. The sacrifices that your loved ones make to you are often voluntary, and we can't take them for granted.
Those who are selfish and selfish, never consider the feelings of others, enjoy the "sacrifices" made by others without a trace of gratitude, which is the most chilling.
Cai Kangyong once said: "The relationship between lovers is like a bank, the more love that each other puts in, the more intimate the relationship will be." Conversely, if you only know how to consume each other's love, the relationship will eventually go bankrupt. ”
Whether it is a couple or a lover, always remember that feelings and trust cannot be overdrawn all the time.
If you want to have a strong relationship, you can only treat each other with sincerity. Give each other confidence, patience, and sacrifice so that life can be happy and fulfilling.
There will inevitably be many contradictions in love and marriage, and in the face of these contradictions, your attitude determines whether the relationship is going to perish, or give each other a chance to grow and love each other.