As the saying goes, "three years old live in the skin, five years old live in the bone", the child's behavior habits can be formed in the early childhood, the behavior habits before the age of 3 are only remembered on the surface, but at the age of five, it will go deep into the bones, and it will be difficult to correct it later.
Mr. Zeng Shiqiang, the "father of Chinese-style management", once said that "parents want their children to develop a good attitude and habits of life, and they must grasp the pre-school period before the age of six."
Good behavior habits are very useful for children throughout their lives, how can we help children lay this foundation? The following 6 parenting principles, whoever implements them first, the child will benefit first!
Lead by example, and parents are the best role models
"The son of the dragon, the phoenix, and the mouse punches the hole in the ground", the child is a miniature version of the parents, if you want the baby to develop good behavior habits, the parents must first ask three questions - "What are you like?" What kind of atmosphere has been created? What kind of demonstration was done? ”
In 2017, Wu Yishu, who was only 16 years old, won the overall championship of the second season of the "Chinese Poetry Conference", and the "National Talented Girl" won the favor of the majority of parents, and everyone always thought that if their children were so good, how good it would be!
As everyone knows, in order to cultivate her interest in learning, her parents have been reading books with her since she was very young. In such a strong atmosphere, children are naturally immersed in it.
On the other hand, many parents, lying on the sofa brushing their mobile phones, expect their children to be blue and better than blue, is it realistic?
Surrounded by love and guided with patience
Children are angels, but even angels can be lazy, playful, and tantrumful. People as old as you are often "I understand the truth, but concubines can't do it!" "What about the baby?" Parenting is like walking with a snail, facing the shortcomings of the child, patient guidance is better than ear to face life.
Ms. Long's daughter has an introverted personality, once there was a guest at home, the daughter did not say hello and hid, the mother-in-law said angrily: "This girl is not out of the ordinary."
After the guests left, Ms. Long communicated with her mother-in-law very seriously and was not allowed to say this about her daughter in the future. Later, through storytelling, playing games, demonstrating herself, and gradually advancing, Ms. Long turned her daughter into a little sweetie.
The fierce child trembles, the child who loves out is cheerful and confident, and the patience of your love determines the child's sense of security!
Take the method to correct, rather than just yelling
"How can you grab your sister's cookies?" Don't you want a face? Tingting angrily stopped her son, the son was obviously stunned, the mother's angry expression, and the fragrant biscuit, let him be very entangled.
Children's cognition of things is not comprehensive, and many bad behaviors are only out of the body's primitive instincts. At this time, impatience and corruption will only overwhelm the child, but should calm down the three steps - "one stop; two explain; three inform", so that after a few more times, the child can clearly know what to do in this situation.
Let the baby finish first, and then think about what to do
"Ass up, I know what fart baby is going to put!" However, what you think is only what you think, children's way of thinking is different from adults, and many seemingly unreasonable behaviors are often very pure and warm.
Mr. Xiao was very impressed by this, and his 3-year-old daughter had to watch him take a bath one night, but he had already taught his children that "there is a difference between men and women", and he criticized his daughter irritably.
Finally my daughter cried and said, "What if that sprinkler burns you?" I'm going to have to watch you!" It turned out that today's storybook told the story of "don't touch very hot water."
Mr. Xiao was touched and blamed himself for being too reckless, and quickly took his daughter to adjust the water temperature, "Baby, the water temperature is just right, you can rest assured!" This time, the daughter jumped out.
When there is no hurry in advance, guide the child to say his own ideas, and then correct them, the child is not wronged, and you can also take the opportunity to teach her more things.
Distinguish between right and wrong, although things are small, we cannot lose our principles
"He's just a kid, what are you going to do with him?" For this kind of bear parent, it can only be said that if you do not educate yourself, then the society will "educate" the baby for you.
In the face of mistakes, regardless of size! Even if it's just littering, picking up snacks in the supermarket, playing with other people's stuff without consent... What you think is small may continue to expand, so you must teach your children to distinguish between right and wrong, "not to be evil and small."
Know how to let go, the child flies higher
There is a saying, cruel but true, that is, from the birth of a child, it is the process of gradual separation from us. You think you love your children, but you actually raise your baby. Eating independently, dressing yourself, washing socks, and helping with housework, these daily things can not only exercise children's self-care ability, but also promote the development of the brain and body, and also allow children to better explore life.
So, let go at the right time, the child will be better!
A child's life is like building a house, good behavior habits are the foundation of this house, when he was a child, the more solid the foundation laid by his parents, the more stable the house. "Three years old to see the big, five years old to see the old", the above 6 parenting principles, the small book wrote down?