Family ethics drama "Xiao Min Family" is being broadcast, in the play Zhou Xun played by Liu Xiaomin and Huang Lei played by Chen Zhuo, is a pair of divorced and have their own children of middle-aged lovers, there is no male goddess level actor in the play, there is no hegemonic Mary Sue plot, but the most simple but people to middle-aged remarriage process encountered a variety of sad and helpless real problems.
It's easy to fall in love, it's hard to get married
In the play, Xiaomin's mother asked her daughter why she was looking for Chen Zhuo, Chen Zhuo's ex-wife was Li Ping, Liu Xiaomin's former classmate, the two parents were acquaintances, plus there was a bit of misunderstanding, including Xiao Min's ex-husband was also the son of the factory manager with unlimited scenery, and it was also a character that Li Ping wanted to climb high. In the words of Xiao Min's sister, Li Ping's own sister's feelings are jealousy, envy and hatred.
These realities are really good, but as a mother, she only forgot one thing, her middle-aged daughter, in such a metropolis, it is really not easy to find a man with equal conditions, a job, a house, and a gentle and considerate home.
Xiao Min is a midwife, busy at work, stressful, irregular work and rest, quite introverted, her cleanliness also needs emotional value, so it is more difficult to find a person who can accept the match, and there are many men and women with similar situations in real life.
But it is not easy to meet the right lover, why don't the two get married? Because there are too many worries, too many worries, there are too many obstacles in the past.
When people reach middle age, there are too many risks that they can't afford, so they have to make themselves subtract instead of addition. Marriage is no longer a matter of two families, involving too many social relations, ex-husbands (wives), children, parents of both sides, so the impulse willingness of divorced men and women to remarry will be lower.
Just like Xiao Min and Chen Zhuo in the play, the two women were once classmates and had a grudge because of the false rumor, and now this combination is too complicated and too embarrassing.
Considering the idea of children is the primary consideration of remarried people, but also an important issue that has to be worried, the child's emotions are even more important than the parents' own wishes, worried about the child's achievements, afraid that they can't stand it, so they delay making the decision to remarry or open their relationship.
Remarriage is expensive. Even a woman like Li Ping, who is pragmatic and remarries well, has to bear the pain unknown to outsiders for her own family marriage. Having children at an advanced age and willingly ovulating for three years is not so much because of love as for the stability of marriage.
After all, Lao Hong's value at this moment really does not know how many little girls have become the target.
Divorce ≠ fail
Of course, the failure of a marriage does not represent the failure of life, let alone the end of happiness, Liu Xiaomin's sister Liu Xiaojie and Ma Bao's ex-husband divorced, and soon met a better quality man, although the age is younger than himself, but whether it is from the knowledge of character and then the ability to do things, it is far stronger than the former ex-husband thousands of times.
This scene is also enough to show that women, divorce is really not the end of the world, nor is it a signal of the collapse of life, but another beginning of a turning point. As long as you still maintain your state and charm, you really don't have to worry about meeting better people and living again.
We are all the most ordinary mortals, all have impulses, childishness, when looking at the wrong person, wrong is not terrible, the most terrible thing is the collapse of the inner world, people to middle age, love is very simple, but marriage is very pragmatic and difficult, but so what, as long as you don't give up, life can still be under your control, enjoy yourself.
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