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Love is always beautiful at the beginning, but it is not loved, it is completely exhausted, but it is more indifferent than ever, which is why many people cannot accept it. Such a huge psychological gap is nothing less than a great test for a person.
Good love is inseparable from careful management, if the management is not done properly, it is almost inevitable that the feelings will fade or deteriorate.
However, a relationship is never suddenly changed, and before that, there are often different signs, but these are easy for us to ignore.
Under normal circumstances, if two people who love each other are exhausted, there will be at least three signs, even if one is found, it should be paid attention to, so as not to let it deteriorate, and in the end it is irreparable.
After all, in this life, it is not easy to meet a person who truly loves each other, and it is what we should really do to hold on to each other's hands and not let this fate slip away.
One: No longer care about everything about each other, as if the most familiar strangers
When two people first fell in love, they were all concerned about each other, even if the other person replied to the message later, they would worry about whether something was wrong with him.
But later, even if you don't contact for a few days, you won't have too many mood swings.
This change is enough to show that there is a problem with the feelings between the two people, who should be the closest people, but they are increasingly estranged and have nothing to say. This is already an important signal, a signal of emotional deterioration.
When they love each other deeply, they will care for each other and take care of and accompany each other wholeheartedly; if they do not love, this care and tension will disappear.
If there are such signs between you, please pay attention to them.
Two: Continued cold violence, turning a blind eye to the problems that exist between each other
If it is only a signal that no longer cares about everything about the other party, then to the point of not paying attention to it is already a wake-up call. Because cold violence is often a sign of a complete breakdown of feelings.
Xiao Meng's husband is a very capable person, her husband's salary never let her ask questions, and he also looks at her coldly every day when he comes home. Once, Xiao Meng helplessly complained to her parents, thinking that her husband was not good enough for herself, but she did not expect her parents to persuade her not to think more.
From the perspective of parents, the son-in-law can not only earn money to support the family, but also be gentle and courteous, even if he does not give all his salary to his daughter, he has never been harsh on his daughter's life, nor has he scolded, and he is a good man.
As everyone knows, the cold violence of men in marriage is not so simple, and the mental abuse that can be seen everywhere looks normal, but in fact it is unbearable.
Moreover, once a woman cannot get the approval of the outside world, it is easy to have self-doubt and passively accept cold violence.
In the book Cold Violence, it is mentioned that:
"A mentally abusive relationship must have a partner who is too tolerant in order to develop, and psychoanalysts often interpret this tolerance as a partner who can derive some benefit from the relationship, which is basically an unconscious self-inflicted feeling."
The feelings of two people are good or bad, and only the parties know best.
When men exert cold violence in their feelings, women must be aware, if they blindly tolerate, to a large extent, it is not to give love to men, or to give each other a stable life.
Two people living under the same roof, a woman will one day understand that a desperate man, at first, may just ignore himself, in case the interests of men are involved in the future, he must be the one who is abandoned.
Three: Knowing that there is a problem, but never repenting, abandoning himself and allowing it to deteriorate
In the TV series "Qiao Family Children", Qiao Simei's husband is an amorous prodigal son, even after marriage, he still does not change his debauched nature, and repeatedly betrays the marriage.
Qiao Simei was blinded by love, forgave each other again and again, and finally broke his heartbreak and made up his mind to choose divorce.
In real marriage, some men know that they have made mistakes, do not repent, and one day will suffer the consequences of their own. After women see the true face of men, if they continue to indulge in it, life will also be unhappy.
You know, if a person knows that there is a problem with each other's feelings, and still gives up on himself and does not repent, then the basic explanation is that there is no salvation.
He doesn't care about anything, he will let it deteriorate, and feelings are not a one-man show, even if you don't give up, you have to make a final judgment.
Mad wrote in When I Let Myself Go: "The desperate thing about time is that it keeps you up to the truth without giving you any compensation. ”
Life is only once, whether it is marriage or life, everyone should choose carefully, once the choice is wrong, it may only bring you disappointment and hurt.
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