"My son's house is my family, you are not qualified to let me roll, it is you who should roll", daughter-in-law: divorce

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Hemingway's The Old Man and the Sea: "Now is not the time to think about what is missing, but to think about what you can do with what you have." ”

Once people are very concerned about what they lack, they will lose their souls, feel that this is also lacking, that is also lacking, and then they will be pessimistic, feel that fate is unfair to themselves, feel that others are sorry for themselves, feel that they are so good people should not be left out, feel that they are so talented, should not be pregnant with talent.

Pessimism opens the gap and it will pour out. Maybe you feel in such a state that everything you think makes sense, but it doesn't make sense. Because you're complaining, you can't get what you want because you're thinking wildly.

Since this state of affairs is not good for our body and mind, we should exercise restraint. At the same time, think carefully about what you can do with what you have, even if you take a step out of a meter, it is better than you stand still; even if you make an extra dollar on the ground, it is better than staying where you are.

Whether a person has a good life or not and whether he can overcome setbacks depends to a large extent on whether he has this "self-discipline" mentality. No one's life will always go smoothly and will encounter setbacks. If you stumble upon setbacks, you deserve not living the life you want.

The following woman used the "self-discipline" mentioned above when treating her marriage, let's take a look at it together.

Hello Mr. Donglin:

If you can get a happy marriage, of course, it can be said that women should fight for love. But if the result of desperation is an unhappy marriage, fighting for love is a manifestation of blindness.

My marriage experience belongs to the latter situation, once I also firmly believed that women should fight for love, firmly believe that true love can overcome everything, even if my mother-in-law was not good to me from the beginning, disrespectful to my parents, my parents did not agree to me marrying him, I still insisted on marrying him.

I was thinking beautifully and was touched by my own reckless behavior. In addition to being moved, I also sympathized with the man, feeling that he was already very pitiful in a single-parent family, and if I left him, it would make my conscience uneasy.

I thought he would miss my efforts, that he would reward me, that he would treat me as the most important person in his life. However, after the marriage, it turned out that I fought for love and only touched myself in the end.

I have no objection to his filial piety to his mother-in-law, but I can't stand that he doesn't care about my feelings. Taking his mother-in-law to live at home is not a trivial matter, but he has taken matters into his own hands and has taken his mother-in-law to the house without consulting with me.

I deluded myself into thinking that since my mother-in-law had already arrived, let her stay! As long as she can get along with me, I can't complain.

Unfortunately, she is not a good mother-in-law, and her arrival has brought me all the torture.

Every time she had nothing to do with me, after every quarrel, she would "tell the evil person first", tell her son that I bullied her, and then her son would teach me a lesson.

Maybe she didn't think it was too much fun to torture me like this, but later, in addition to the evil man first suing and instigating her son to teach me a lesson, she also encouraged him to divorce me: "Your daughter-in-law bullied me, quickly divorce her!" "Her son obediently did so, and when he taught me again, he began to threaten me with divorce.

I endured and let them go, but I still couldn't satisfy them. I was once puzzled, why is it so difficult to be a good wife and a good daughter-in-law? Am I really that bad? Later, perhaps suddenly, I realized that it was not that I was too bad, but that their mother and son were not good people.

The right person is punished, the wrong person is unrepentant, and I feel that I can't let this marriage go on. I began to try to turn the situation around and ask my mother-in-law to leave, only to get this counterattack: "My son's house is my home, you are not qualified to let me roll, it is you who should roll!" ”

After she spoke to her son, his son said the same thing.

The last glimmer of hope was shattered, I felt that there was nothing left to linger on, and before he threatened me with a divorce, I took the lead in filing for divorce.

I don't know if they will be punished, and I don't need to continue to care that they are not good husbands and mothers-in-law, I just know that I will continue to live, and I will pursue the life I want. I could have lived better without them interfering with me.

Donglin Xiting Emotional Advice:

Many people's marriage problems are the scourge of "blindness".

Only a few people blindly treat love can get lucky and get happy, and most people blindly treat love and cannot get happiness.

Whether it is love or marriage, it is not a matter of one person. It's not that you can make your dreams come true by doing something "self-moved", you need to have a deep understanding of the other person, and you need to accurately judge whether the other party is worth your fight. Only by making such a preparation will you get stable happiness.

That being said, there are still many people who like to treat love blindly because they enjoy the illusion of "self-touching". This illusion leads them to believe that their efforts will be rewarded.

For such a person, if you are lucky enough to get happiness, congratulations, and if you are like the woman above, you get an unhappy marriage, and you need to think carefully about what the way to go after that.

If you recognize that misfortune is related to your own blindness, but you are still unwilling to divorce, then you should not complain about the lack of a good husband and a good mother-in-law, but should think about whether you can reverse the overall situation with what you have at the moment.

In addition to this road, that is divorce, stop loss in time, break away in time, do not dwell on why you can't get good treatment, don't dwell on why your husband and mother-in-law are not good to you, it is enough to determine that they are not good people, and then concentrate on thinking about how to carry out future life.