01.
Love talks well, one day, you suddenly find that the boyfriend is not the person you originally wanted to find, at this time, will you choose to break up or pretend that it is okay and continue to "love"?
In my 20s, I will definitely speak up, most of them will not be emotionally wronged themselves, and the love at that time, for me, is simple and complicated.
The simple part is that you can say whatever you want, you don't care so much, it's complicated, it's noisy, and I don't know if I'm in love with him.
Clarify your own intentions, not at the beginning of the relationship, but at a certain moment when the two get along, you have a voice in your heart: this life is him, and no matter how good or bad other people are, it is not him.
Plant a flower in your heart, the flower blooms, and your world will no longer be a wasteland. And you hold it into the atrium of someone else's heart, plant it, and from then on, you have each other with him.
What if I am after 30?
The experience of a friend gave me the answer, her 30 years old, not as the Internet says, exquisite and rich, can willfully wander through life.
She was riveted enough, but she only earned herself a supervisor, in the city, with a salary that could not be paid, and shuttled through the crowds of people who came and went every day.
Feelings are blank, so her parents have a reason to frequently urge her to go on a blind date. To their regret, they came and went, and as a result, all the people she was close to married, only she was still single.
Last year, her feelings finally blossomed, and the man's concern made her heart loosen slightly, and everyone thought that good things were coming.
However, she knew in her heart that she did not feel the impulse and enthusiasm of love.
02.
She hovered between love and non-love, hesitant and hesitant to take another step, but when she retreated, she suffered inexplicable pressure and loneliness.
She asked tentatively, "I want to save money for myself to buy a suite before marriage." ”
"Don't you think about it? If you want to buy a house, why go early? Seeing that others are OK, you should also get married, this point, where do you go to save money? What house to buy? Get married first. Mother kept talking, she didn't dare to say anything further.
Most of the peers around her have become families and children, watching their lives have happiness, there is a chicken feather, she is shocked and afraid, and a little envious.
But it is more of an inner anxiety, after the age of 30, she has not yet entered the marriage, others do not know how many old girls called her behind her back, was heard by her mother once, angry back and scolded her fiercely.
Her friend also advised her, "How much contentment, there is someone who can hurt you like this, and it will certainly not be too bad in the future." Besides, when it comes to age, the matter of feelings, or consider it more, if you really give up this time, can the next one be so good? You don't have many decades! ”
It turns out that 30-year-old people have no freedom to break up.
It is not that you dare not break up, but you are afraid that you will not be able to bear the consequences of the breakup, if you are young, no one will say anything, and a sentence of "ignorance" will cover up the past.
But 30 years old, is the watershed of life, life has pushed you forward, your naivety and ignorance, has long been sharpened into a smooth stone, others see is the increasingly mature you, even if you hide them, can not let them know.
The word of love is fate, some people even if the love is deep, did not go to the end, some people go around or meet. Even if it's hard to find, ask your heart first. Because, no matter when the feelings are, they can't be reconciled.
03.
There is a passage in the Mid-Levels Anthology:
There are two things in life, one thing fills the time with things, and the other thing fills the heart with feelings.
After reading it, I feel very deeply, decades of life, if you break your finger, it is really a very long process, only by constantly finding things to do for yourself, you will not feel empty.
Fill in time and fill your life. However, when you are pursuing, feelings are also quite important, not only feelings, when you walk on earth, sometimes it is not what you say that you agree, in fact, your heart may lead you to the opposite end.
Is it too cruel to use emotions to bind yourself for the rest of your life?
In the world of feelings, there is no gray and white zone, love and no love, the boundaries are clear. Don't be foolish enough to think that as long as you try to love, you can fall in love with someone.
It doesn't feel right, how can you be bothered? People who have never entered your heart, if they have to live together, are not happy for themselves.
When you are in love, there is no freedom to break up, so if you are married, there is no freedom of marriage. So, don't think that others say that it will be just a moment, this life will pass, it is impossible.
Because this is your life, how to live, how to love, how to experience, should not be up to you to decide? If you can really get a happy marriage, will the divorce rate be so high?
What should really be considered is whether you are completely disappointed in your feelings, if you have, then stop tossing yourself, earn more money, and love yourself; if not, then ask your heart, is it in love with him? Without love, how can we talk about getting along day and night in the future? Raise an eyebrow?