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"My morality and cultivation do not allow me to confront my mother-in-law like a shrew cursing the street, otherwise I will fight with my mother-in-law every day.
Speaking of the topic of mother-in-law, Junjun hates himself, has too high moral requirements for himself, and feels that his mother-in-law is an elder, and he must respect and tolerate. In the face of the mother-in-law's yin and yang strange qi, looking for stubble everywhere, Junjun chose to give in and compromise, but did not expect that the mother-in-law became more intense. If you change to a selfish woman, you will work against your mother-in-law, the mother-in-law is unreasonable, she is even more unreasonable, and the mother-in-law has long been honest.
As a woman who has been in marriage for more than ten years, she very much agrees with Junjun's statement. In marriage, if the sense of morality is too strong, it is most likely unhappy. Especially when you encounter a mother-in-law and husband who is not moral, then you are too moral and can only swallow your grievances into your stomach. Women with a strong sense of morality have difficulty in obtaining happiness in marriage, and the reason is heartfelt.
Morality is self-discipline, but it can't control others
People with a strong sense of morality meet people with a strong sense of morality, and often the marriage and family are relatively peaceful. Because they will restrain themselves with morality, and with restraint and reverence, there will generally be no two minds. At the same time, the other party will understand and tolerate more. So we often say that when we get married and find a partner, character comes first. A person of good character, he has a sense of morality, self-discipline, loyalty to his partner, loyalty to the family. Then such a marriage can not be rich and noble, but it can also ensure respect for each other and work together for a lifetime.
But if you have a strong sense of morality and encounter someone who has no sense of morality, then you will be exchanged for endless grievances. Because you have morality, know how to restrain yourself, are good at self-reflection, are reasonable in everything, have empathy, and will think about others in everything, and would rather suffer losses than others. But in the eyes of people without moral restraints, this is good bullying.
This is the case with women in marriage, where the sense of morality is too strong and will make them miserable. Especially in marriage, a woman's sense of morality is too strong, and she will appear selfless and act too sensible.
In the face of the husband who forms a family with himself, when he and his husband fall in love before marriage, they refuse to spend a penny on each other, and the other party sends himself a gift, and he will immediately send back a gift of the same price, spending on AA. When talking about marriage, do not ask the other party for a bride price, and do not ask for a name for the down payment room, because you do not want to feel that you are taking advantage.
After marriage, the husband's money pays off the mortgage, and his own salary manages the family's expenses. He knew that he was pregnant and had a child, and he had lost his job and source of income, but he was still reluctant to open his mouth to ask for money from men. It is that terrible sense of self-esteem and morality that is at work. If you go on like this, you can only wronged yourself.
Similarly, when getting along with their mother-in-law, women with a strong sense of morality generally only allow themselves to be wronged. After all, the mother-in-law can be unreasonable, can act, can be two-sided and three-knife, and can be sprinkled and rolled. But the daughter-in-law with a sense of morality cannot do such a thing, they try to be reasonable, but for some mothers-in-law to be reasonable, it does not work at all, they have no other choice but to choose to let themselves compromise and give in exchange for temporary peace.
【Topic Discussion: Do you have a strong sense of morality around you? 】
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