Snow White will eventually be awakened by a kiss by a prince who loves her deeply;
The prince will find his beloved Cinderella with his crystal shoes;
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Have you also fantasized since you were a child that your prince came on a white horse, and then fell madly in love with you, and the two of you have lived a happy life ever since.
But what is the reality? The prince may come, but your life may not be happy, and the better he is, the less happy you will be.
Why does fairy tales become different from imagined when they shine into reality?
Today, we will talk about the "door to door" in love.
When you fall in love, love will add a layer of beautification filters to the other party, and you will want to give everything for the other party, or feel the meticulous love of the other party.
But when the aura fades, what will love become? Before that, let's take a look at a few short stories:
She fell in love with the country, he was gentle and golden, married life piano chords, in the end they were divorced, why?
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She is Miss Qianjin, he is the driver who drives her, they pursue true love and get married desperately, and in the end they are divorced, why?
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She is an urban white-collar worker, he is a courier, she was touched by his sincerity and agreed to get married, and in the end they divorced, why?
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All of the above stories are telling us: Wake up, fairy tales are deceitful, and marriage is always reciprocal.
When the aura of the lover fades, the excellent party in the marriage will draw the sword and always feel that they deserve better; the inferior party is always insecure and always afraid that the other party will leave him. And the door-to-door pair is the secret of a happy marriage.
If you are still waiting for the prince at this time, you may wish to see if you are a princess first.
The door-to-door pairs we said above are all: material conditions, social status, good looks, etc., but is this all the door-to-door pairs? Not really.
We have a member named Xiao Liu, because he and his ex-wife Sanguan are divorced, so they came here and wanted to start the next relationship.
In the eyes of outsiders, they are simply a pair made in heaven. Both are graduates of prestigious universities, and their parents are "high-ranking officials" from different units in the same city, in the words of Xiao Liu's mother: "The conditions of the two families are similar, and after marriage, they can reduce a lot of contradictions." ”
In addition, Xiao Liu's ex-wife conditions are also good, working as a civil servant in the unit, stable work, economic independence, usually love to dress up, and take it out to have "face", but the attitude towards life is very different from Xiao Liu.
Xiao Liu's life is informal, but the other party is a person with a sense of ceremony and the pursuit of a petty bourgeois life.
She can't look at the gifts sent by Xiao Liu, and feels that she is not high-grade enough to be in the circle of friends;
She dislikes Xiao Liu's "fox friend" and thinks that he should spend his time on friends who are "useful to himself later";
She doesn't like Xiao Liu to eat street stalls and wear Uniqlo;
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Every time they have an important holiday, they will quarrel because of it. Finally, the day before their anniversary, his ex-wife came to him for dinner and said that he was divorced, and Xiao Liu was not particularly surprised, but relieved.
Xiao Liu said: "In the eyes of outsiders, we are the right door, but in fact, we are particularly not right (suitable). ”
For most people, marriage is not only a matter of two people, but also the combination of two families, economic conditions, social status, these factors that seem to be the right door, make complex problems simple, but it is only a leaf obstacle.
The real door-to-door pair is a marriage with similar interests, three views, and equal strength, and common progress can go longer.
At this point, I guess you will ask: how can you quickly find the other half of the door?