Routines for feelings are actually asking: In love, do you need skills? I think it is needed, and the real skill is to make love fresh and vibrant for a long time. A mature woman, no matter how much she loves a man, will never easily lose herself and give everything she can for a man.
In order to avoid losing love and avoiding the breakdown of feelings, as a woman, you must learn to grasp the initiative between each other and learn to have some "routines" to make yourself happy.
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Don't forget to love yourself
Xiaoxue thinks that she is a particularly competent good wife, good mother, good daughter-in-law, since she got married, she has put down her own small preferences, small moods, and even do not care much about her own image, one is busy with work and housework, there is no time at all; the second is that all day at two o'clock and one line, a little time is also around the children and the kitchen, it seems to be in no mood; moreover, anyway, it is also a married woman, and she has long lost the mentality of "women pleasing themselves".
Once, his husband's classmate who made skin care products gave him two sets of company products, saying that they were given to Xiaoxue to try the effect. Unexpectedly, the husband turned his head and gave it to his sister-in-law, and when Xiaoxue asked about it, he still said sarcastically: "Do you have time to toss?" I've never seen you use it. ”
Self-sacrifice is the conventional way for countless Chinese women to manage their marriages. Entering the market, they subconsciously buy back the dishes that their husbands and children love to eat; weekends, either on the way to take their children to training, or in the playgrounds and toy cities that children like; family gatherings, they cater to the mother-in-law's picky requirements, help cook dishes and wash dishes; occasionally sneak around, they are busy between the child's schoolwork and the future. In the face of the various needs of their families, their own little preferences, small moods, small real has long become irrelevant, they put themselves in a very low position.
Even so, they still get all kinds of dissatisfaction and all kinds of pickiness, no one will care that their efforts are actually cost and cost, and their self-sacrifice spirit should be respected.
When Xiaoxue felt that her husband, who was intimate with her, was becoming more and more estranged from herself, especially when she heard his husband complain to his brother in a very disgusted tone, saying that she knew how busy and more and more like a nanny, she understood how important it was for a woman to love herself.
A woman, if she can't love herself very well, who else can expect to love you well? There is a saying that is very practical, when women complain that men do not love themselves, they must think about what they deserve to be loved by men. So, women in marriage, must not forget to love themselves!
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Appropriate "pretending" in marriage
"When the water is clear, there is no fish, and when people are aware, there is no vain." People should be tolerant and casual, not too harsh, too much according to their own wishes to be harsh on others. This sentence also applies to married life, so don't be too strict with your other half, too harsh.
"Pretending to be confused" is a realm, which is done by smart women, not only promises, swallowing anger and handling things, but in another way, blurring the small things in life. A calculating woman may get a momentary satisfaction; a sharp woman may get a moment of vanity, but when she is proud, she may bury hidden dangers, sow bane, and pretend to be confused.
No man likes a woman to be too shrewd, to drag himself to his hands deadly, and even more to hate women for asking questions about everything and pretending to be a detective cleverly. Friend Xiaoxiao once saw her husband and a group of buddies drinking at the door of the hotel, who claimed to be working overtime, and she did not go in, but chose to go to another house. When her husband came home, she poured him a glass of honey water and asked him to drink as little as possible in the future.
Xiao Xiao told her friend that she knew her husband too well, he must have been pulled by his friend to drink, he should have been afraid of her opposition, so he didn't say to her, and then men also need normal social interaction, there is no need to be angry with him for this little thing.
Really smart women always have some "stupidity", three points of water and two dust, she never likes to have to get things out of the water, and will not make things unmanageable, in her world, she feels that doubting others is equivalent to not believing in herself, especially between husband and wife.
In the eyes of her husband, Xiao Xiao has always been a reasonable and atmospheric woman. He said that he was particularly comfortable and gentle with her, and that it was his blessing to be able to marry her in this life
In fact, really smart women, they know to "carry the understanding and pretend to be confused", the small things in life are treated with confusion, save face for their lovers, and also leave steps for themselves.
03
Always keep 30% mysterious
In fact, every man is the same, and he likes the freshness and mystery of women. So no matter how much a woman loves a man, she shouldn't completely expose herself in front of the other person, don't let him know you well enough, and let him have a sense of curiosity about you. In this way, men will always preserve your desire to inquire.
Some women, once married to the man they love deeply, hate that they can't dig their hearts and lungs with him, as small as what brand of underwear they like to wear, as big as which man is interested in themselves, they must tell him, as everyone knows, a woman who has no secrets at all, or a woman who can see the bottom at a glance, is not attractive to men. Therefore, women should not show 100% to the other half, and always leave 30% of themselves, so that men have an interest in finding out.
In marriage, getting along for a long time, it is inevitable that it will be easy to make both parties bored, but women who know how to create a sense of mystery often bring surprises, they know when, with some small emotions, they can't help but enter the inner world of men. Women who generally understand the mood are full of mystery and can pack up their men obediently. Even if you are old, you can still have charm.
Therefore, the woman's reservation and mystery is the last secret garden that the woman leaves for herself, and the woman can continue to blossom, but the man can never guess what flowers will bloom there.
Love needs freshness, marriage is even more so, always maintain 30% of the mysterious sense, can give the marriage a long run to help, so that two people in the marriage attract each other, chase each other, until they get happiness.
In short, women in marriage, do not forget to love themselves, occasionally "pretend to be confused", maintain a certain sense of mystery, so "routine", men will prefer, will be willing, dead heart has always loved her. Believe it or not!