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Zeng Guofan once said: "Choosing friends is the first meaning of life." ”

Indeed, choosing friends is one of the most crucial things in life.

As the saying goes, good friends are like ladders, helping you to cultivate yourself and reason; evil friends are like knives, trapping you in all kinds of disasters.

What kind of people we interact with directly affect our lives.

If you meet someone who often says the following three things, don't make deep friends, and stay away.

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Pessimistic and negative words

Some people say that each of us has an energy field that affects and transfers each other.

Getting along with people with positive energy will feel their positivity and become optimistic and cheerful.

Negative energy people, on the contrary, will unconsciously emit pessimism, slowly affecting the mood of those around them, and making other people's lives bleak.

A few days ago, my friend Xiao xiao told me that she blocked a colleague's circle of friends.

Asked why, Xiao Xiao said that the colleague had a good relationship with her and was also enthusiastic, but his personality was too negative.

Every time the boss arranges a job, the colleague feels that his task is the heaviest, and everyone is targeting her.

As a result, I complained in the office all day long, but my work did not progress.

She usually likes to send a circle of friends, updating four or five times a day, full of negative energy.

For example, early in the morning, I sent: "It's another day of mourning, and I don't want to do anything." ”

Going shopping for clothes will say: "It doesn't look good to wear anything, and fat people are really not suitable for going out." ”

Walking on his feet, he also complained: "It is too difficult to do anything, it is too difficult to be a person." ”

Every time Xiao Xiao clicks on WeChat, she will be swept away by her bad emotions, and finally can't stand it.

Writer Li Shanglong said:

"Negative energy is flogging other people's bad and scolding social injustice; positive energy is telling you after the lecture that even if it is bitter, I can still change something through hard work." 」

So, who you're with, it really matters.

With hard-working people, you're not lazy; with positive people, you're not depressed.

If you're with someone full of negative energy, you're only going to get more and more decadent and mediocre.

I advise you, regardless of the relationship, to be sure to draw a line with pessimistic people as soon as possible.

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Words that are inconsistent

Are there any such people around you:

When accompanying you to buy clothes, it is said that it is particularly suitable for you, but privately talks to others about this color is very tacky;

You work together to complete a work, he said that everyone worked together, but behind the scenes, he said that the credit was all on their own;

Treat you as a brother when you need help, and once you have something to ask for, you will shirk the relationship and not be close enough.

As the saying goes, "If you are not afraid of the real villain, you are afraid of the hypocrite." ”

Interacting with people, the most terrible thing is to meet people who are different in appearance, while putting you in danger, while making you grateful.

Wang Xifeng in the classic "Dream of the Red Chamber" is such a person with different appearances and two sides and three knives.

When Wang Xifeng learned that Jia Lian and You Erjie secretly communicated with each other, she was full of enthusiasm on the surface, greeted You Erjie with a warm greeting, and also took her to live in her own home.

When Second Sister You let down her guard and moved into the garden, she secretly caused damage behind her back.

In the end, he forced You Erjie to miscarry, swallowed jin and died, and two lives ended one after another.

As the old saying goes, "A person with a different attitude is bound to be a person who is not pure and virtuous." ”

They set one in front of their faces and one set behind their backs, using hypocrisy to deceive the true heart and using false intentions to calculate the true feelings.

Dealing with this kind of person, even if you pour out your heart and lungs and pay all, you can't touch his heart, can't hear his true thoughts, and will only be deceived by the other party again and again, and bear countless blows.

Choose someone to make friends, be sure to polish your eyes, otherwise you will not be able to regret it.

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Extremely paranoid words

A netizen shared a story.

His friend was a literary young man who liked poetry, calligraphy and painting.

Once, he and his friends went to the bookstore, saw the brush and ink related to calligraphy and painting, and the friend felt very elegant, so he bought some and encouraged netizens to buy them together.

Netizens are not interested in these, so they say they don't like it.

As a result, friends accused him of being tacky and tasteless to his face.

After a few days, netizens clashed with friends because of a view that had nothing to do with right and wrong, and friends began to find a lot of evidence, constantly trying to refute him, and finally making netizens embarrassed and disgusted.

Sometimes, we inevitably encounter such self-centered people.

If you like to taste tea, you think that people who like Coke are boring; if you like light music, you think that people who love rock and roll are vulgar.

However, there has never been a unified standard in this world, everyone has their own ideas and perspectives on the problem, and knows how to respect the differences of others, which is the consciousness that an adult should have.

Bi Shumin once said: "Softness is sometimes more powerful than a storm." ”

The most important thing in people-to-people interaction is to deal with problems dialectically, understand others peacefully, and let people feel like a spring breeze, rather than taking themselves as a model, tit-for-tat with people, and making the other party uncomfortable.

With paranoid people, you will never experience the joy of making friends, only endlessly distinguish between right and wrong, right and wrong.

People's energy is limited, rather than always being questioned and opposed, it is better to find someone who can understand themselves and be friendly.

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As the old saying goes: Knowing the face knows the face, but not the heart.

In life, everyone wears a mask, and no one can see through a person at a glance, and they need to gradually understand in a long relationship.

To judge whether a person can be a friend, not only look at his appearance and talent, but more importantly, listen to him.

Words are the voice of the heart, language is the state of mind, and language can best expose a person's character.

When you encounter those who speak pessimistically and negatively, have inconsistent appearances, and are paranoid and extreme, you must stay away and do not have deep friendships.

The darker the person inside, the more distorted the personality is, and the easier it is to hurt people invisibly.

Years go by, life is short, please spend your precious time on people who deserve it.

May for the rest of your life, you and I can warm our hearts to the sun, and all the people we meet are good people.

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