Between husband and wife, not afraid of quarrel, not afraid of making trouble, afraid of silence.
Silence is a woman's greatest grievance.
Nagging is a woman's highest level of love, while silence is a woman's most terrible coldness.
College classmates told me that after she and her husband got married, they found that not only did they not rein in the habit of spending time and drinking, but they also became more and more excessive.
The two quarreled over this, but the husband didn't seem to care at all.
Later, she simply ignored it, and the two of them lived their own lives, like tenants in a shared house.
Silence is like a worm in the center of an old tree, the patience of both sides that has been eaten for a long time, once it is overwhelmed one day, it will eventually erupt.
In the end, she filed for divorce, and in the face of her husband's surprise and confusion, her attitude was very firm.
The real dead heart is not tears, but difficult to speak, and then step by step to extinguish the heat in their hearts.
Once upon a time, she always took the initiative to contact you and thought about it for you, but it seemed to you to be a distraction.
In the disappointment of day after day, she finally gradually saw everything clearly.
As a result, she will no longer talk about you, nor will she count you because of your late return, and you are not so important in her heart.
In "Tea Blossoms", it is written: The grievances that can be said are not grievances.
In the relationship, the silence of the woman is the biggest grievance and the precursor to the end.
Silence is a woman's silent crying.
Many times, between husband and wife, silence is the beginning of sinking.
If you care, you will cry, be silent, and your heart will be dead.
A woman who is willing to argue with you proves that she still has hope in you, and once she is completely disappointed, she will become silent, and you say one more word, she feels that it is all superfluous.
At the beginning of "If the Years Can Be Turned Back", Jing Ya wants to divorce Bai Zhiyong.
No reason, no affair, just can't get by anyway.
It turned out that for three years, Xiangya worked overtime until late at night and called her husband to pick her up, but Bai Zhiyong was busy playing cards and letting her take a taxi by herself, and as a result, Jingya was raped by her own taxi.
At three o'clock in the morning, he returned home exhausted and found that Bai Zhiyong had not returned all night.
Feelings are like this, after surviving the most aggrieved and saddest moments, the company of others is not so important.
She was completely heartbroken, and from then on, she was like a changed person, until she divorced Bai Zhiyong.
Jing Ya felt that this was her means of revenge, revenge on Bai Zhiyong's unwillingness to grow up, revenge on Bai Zhiyong's indifference.
Because of the disappointment, she did not want to have any explanation, did not want to have any expectations, did not want to have any communication.
The communication and communication between husband and wife will become less, which will lead to a sharp loss of love, and finally choose to leave, and there will be no reunion day.
Silence is a woman's greatest sorrow.
How many feelings, from intimacy to cold.
When Amu and her husband first started their relationship, they often chatted and talked, and she wanted to tell him everything about her past life.
After getting married, she will call her husband to remind her husband to wear more clothes when it is cold, and bitterly persuade her husband to smoke less and drink less...
But three years after the marriage, she became silent.
Because whenever she wanted to talk to her husband, her husband was impatient: "Don't you see that I'm busy?" How so much nonsense!"
After the quarrel, the husband will not coax her again, but reprimand: "You women just like to make unreasonable trouble, like a shrew." ”
No matter how hot the heart is, it will be cold if it does not get a response, and the heart will be tired to a certain extent, and even the strength to be angry and sad will be gone.
Zhang Ailing once said:
"Love begins with hope, but also ends with despair, and when you die, you no longer have any hope."
In a marriage, a woman's heart is not a moment, but a accumulation of disappointment, until she is discouraged.
In fact, women do not ask for much, maybe a little bit of love from men can make women happy all day.
However, some men are so indifferent, they are used to women's efforts, accustomed to ignoring women's feelings.
Therefore, under the same roof, there is no heart-to-heart communication, and the distance is equivalent to the end of the world.
The American writer Keel Kessler once said: "Marriage is like a bridge, communicating two completely lonely worlds." ”
Don't silence the woman who loves you, don't silence the woman you love.
Love her and cherish her.